showing trust

Whats the best way of showing your trust to your boyfriend? I want him to trust me more than anything. but nothing seems to work

Reply 1

HaNzY

you have to earn his trust, it won't happen over night.you've just gotta show him you love him and only him and stuff like that, but don't try too hard as it's what's in his head that matters, you don't wanna become clingy basically. i would just not do anything to hurt him and make him feel like he's really special to me.trust is a strange being lolz :smile:

good luck anyway :smile:

Reply 2

generalebriety

Telling him to hold his arms out, then falling backwards...

Um, no... why don't you just, you know, trust him, and let his trust come naturally? If he's been like this for a long time, you might want to speak to him about it.

Reply 3

Cherry Kisses

Ive hurt him without even realising.. hes upset about something that happend in my past and i cannot change it, but because of that he seems to have lost my trust and i dont know what to do. i love him so much :frown:

Reply 4

Chumbaniya

The whole point of real trust is that you can't win it by doing anything other than being trustworthy. Of course, that takes time, but if you're there for him and don't let him down, he'll realise that he is able to trust you. At least, that's the idea.

Reply 5

DodgyTrousers

Trust comes with time, not much you can do about that.

However, it sounds like he's driving himself to it by obsessing over something that isn't really his business at all. That is assuming, whatever it is happened before you two started seeing each other. This is more his fault than yours, he's doing it to himself. As you say, you can't change it now so there's little point banging on about it. From my own experience (I've done it too when I was about 19), he might be (subconciously) just looking to make you feel guilty for it, which you shouldn't.

He might be nothing like I was back then, but when I examine why I went on about my girlfriends past (at the time), it was more because I wanted her to be recalcitrant about it than anything, and that wasn't fair.

Reply 6

*kristy*

I've had a similar problem. Theres not much you can do. Just reassure him and keep trying to show him how much he means to you, and whatever the thing from the past is, just try to explain it to him and ease his mind over the problem. Just dont become clingy or anything cos it will only make it harder. It might take time but at the end of the day he shouldnt make something from your past such a deciding factor on how much he trusts you now. He'll realise that soon enough if he loves you! Hope it works out :smile:

Reply 7

ciara

He's lost your trust? Do you mean that he no longer trusts you? Or that you no longer trust him? Or that you not longer trust him to trust you? Or... aah confusion.

Anyway, I'm not sure that showing you trust him will get him to trust you. They're separate matters surely. Showing trust I find to be an omission as opposed to an action. You just...don't have a problem with him doing things. Getting him to trust you is much harder. Just don't do anything that he wouldn't be happy with? I guess..

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