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I don't think I like my girlfriend

Definitely an odd one. I'm 17, never had a girlfriend before. We've been going out for a month or 2. Now I know from past experience that if I lose her I'll feel bad, but something about the current situation doesn't feel right in the back of my mind.

I don't know if it's a factor but I had been so focused on getting a girlfriend recently. I've gone from absolutely no experience to the whole hog in about 6 months. I'm not sure, but part of me is worried she's gonna be around for a long time.

Hmm, writing this only seems to make it worse. Good thing women aren't the be all and end all.

Reply 1

Dionysus

15

What is it you don't like about her? Everyone has these sort of uncertainties. It doesn't mean you don't love her really.

Reply 2

Reue

20

Sounds like your only with her jsut for the sake of having a girlfriend. These never end well, personally id put a stop to it now before she gets too attached.

Reply 3

dinkymints

12

Dionysus

What is it you don't like about her? Everyone has these sort of uncertainties. It doesn't mean you don't love her really.

Well, it could be that he's more in love with the idea of having a girlfriend than with this particular girl...

*edit* dammit, beaten to it!

Reply 4

Reue

20

Get quicker on that ole' reply button :wink:

Reply 5

Ang|ophi|e

12

It definitely sounds like you're just with her for the purpose of having a girlfriend. If you are convinced of that too, then there's no use stringing her along.

Reply 6

mc_watson87

18

dinkymints

Well, it could be that he's more in love with the idea of having a girlfriend than with this particular girl...

*edit* dammit, beaten to it!

dinkymintssss

Reply 7

steelmole

OP

10

Wow, this is hard, first thing in life that's actually involved someone elses emotions in any obvious way. I'm still not sure, maybe this is just what it's like to be with someone and I'm worried since it's just not what I expected.

As a footnote: The sex is wonderful (does that make me a bad person)

Reply 8

Ang|ophi|e

12

Don't focus on outside things such as what other people think, or how great the sex is. Focus on your feelings for her. The truth is that at some point you will break up with her if you're unsure of your feelings. Don't let the relationship build to a point where she's totally in love while you're not sure how you feel about her. Do you care about her? Do you love being around her? Do you get along really good with her? Do YOU like her?

Reply 9

FoeGeddaBowDeet

steelmole

Wow, this is hard, first thing in life that's actually involved someone elses emotions in any obvious way. I'm still not sure, maybe this is just what it's like to be with someone and I'm worried since it's just not what I expected.

As a footnote: The sex is wonderful (does that make me a bad person)

No, it makes you a good person. :biggrin:

Reply 10

steelmole

OP

10

Ang|ophi|e

Don't focus on outside things such as what other people think, or how great the sex is. Focus on your feelings for her. The truth is that at some point you will break up with her if you're unsure of your feelings. Don't let the relationship build to a point where she's totally in love while you're not sure how you feel about her. Do you care about her? Do you love being around her? Do you get along really good with her? Do YOU like her?

I think the general consensus in my head is uncertain. This is the only real experience I have aside from having obsessions with girls that lasted years when there was no real chance.

In all honesty being around her is quite nice, but then again, she's pretty much the only person I have tactile contact with in the world. That's somewhat important to living isn't it?

Well, if I do stop going out i guess it's back to *******. That'll be one helluva timesaver.

Reply 11

Ang|ophi|e

12

You're missing the point. The way you sound is that you're only with her to have a girlfriend. There's a difference when you like someone and when you LIKE someone. But then again, your relationship hasn't been too long so in time you can grow to have feelings for her. :smile:

Reply 12

--

3

Meh, you're 17, you enjoy the sex and you enjoy the company. Don't see why you need to dump her, not everything is about 'love' when you're that young.

Reply 13

steelmole

OP

10

Hmm, lots of things happening here. I reckon I'll just ride it through, get this whole girlfriend thing out of my system and dump her before going to university.

Things like this in life are only really a game anyway.

Reply 14

toronto_chicka

once u break up with her, ull realize how much u realy like her.

Reply 15

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3

toronto_chicka

once u break up with her, ull realize how much u realy like ~~her~~the sex.

Reply 16

Ang|ophi|e

12

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

Do not lead her on. Clearly your not ready for a girlfriend, tell her and sort your life out, being in a relationship is more than just sex.
Try being just friends, and figure out what your really in the relationship for- remember theres 2 peoples feelings in this: yours and hers so make it clear as soon as possible, its priberly for the better.

Reply 18

Dinoceros

12

After a couple of your posts, it seemed like you were just uncertain, in which case I wouldn't know what to say. But now you've said "I'll just ride it out and dump her before Uni.". If you're planning on dumping her, don't wait a month and then say, I'm moving, its over, goodbye. A month can be a long time for a girl (take it from me :biggrin:

), and enjoying the sex doesnt make you a bad person, but what does make you a bad person, is stringing someone along when you feel nothing except a turn on. Soryr, but it's the truth. Stop lying to her, and to yourself, and do something about it.

Grow a pair.

Reply 19

spark911

I guess you've proved to yourself you can do it, and want to play catchup now. Being in a relationship wont allow you to do that!

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