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Am I being over-protective?
Anon. because my girlfriend uses tsr and I don't want her to see this.
My girlfriend and I are both 17, but she is in the fortunate position of having a sister who is 19, whom she borrows id from and goes out into town fairly often.
This doesn't bother me, she has her own friends etc., but she'll get in and ring me up, delighted with herself, going on about all these guys' phone numbers she's got, and how nice they were, and how they've invited her out to all sorts of places.
We've been together nearly 6 months and I do trust her completely, but I still really really don't like it, and when I tell her that she either dismisses it as nothing or gets annoyed at me for not liking it.
Am I being silly or unreasonable?
My girlfriend and I are both 17, but she is in the fortunate position of having a sister who is 19, whom she borrows id from and goes out into town fairly often.
This doesn't bother me, she has her own friends etc., but she'll get in and ring me up, delighted with herself, going on about all these guys' phone numbers she's got, and how nice they were, and how they've invited her out to all sorts of places.
We've been together nearly 6 months and I do trust her completely, but I still really really don't like it, and when I tell her that she either dismisses it as nothing or gets annoyed at me for not liking it.
Am I being silly or unreasonable?
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No you're not being silly - I can't see why she would be so delighted about getting other guys phone numbers to be honest.
Is it just guys phone numbers that she gets or does she make friends with girls when she is out aswell?
Seems very odd to me - I'd be bothered by it too if I were you.
Is it just guys phone numbers that she gets or does she make friends with girls when she is out aswell?
Seems very odd to me - I'd be bothered by it too if I were you.
Reply 4
Sounds like she's abit attention seeking to be honest, you should tell her you dont like it... or go out one night and then let her know how many girls were after you etc etc and see how she likes it 
Reply 5
Hm okay, what do you think I should do about it?
Reply 6
She's probably trying to make you jealous and provoke some kind of reaction out of you, what she's doing is stupid and annoying and you need to either ignore her when she rings you up telling you all that crap or tell her that it gets to you and if she doesn't stop then there will be consequences.
Anonymous
Hm okay, what do you think I should do about it?
Tell her that as she's in a monogomous relationship with you, she should be stopping any advances from other men. All she is doing is telling you of all the wonderful opportunities she has to cheat on you. The men only want her for sex and tell her you don't like her giving them the idea that they might get it.
Reply 9
Hmm. Your girlfriend's clearly a bit insecure. However, you should put your foot down here. Tell her she's gorgeous etc, and that you can understand why do many blokes would want her number, but that the number giving/taking has to stop. And telling/boasting to you about it certainly has to stop. If she doesn't stop, she's not being very respectful and I'd be suspicious of her motives.
Reply 10
Well she knows I'm very uncomfortable with it, I think if she does it again then I'll have to have a serious talk with her.
There's something else as well. There's this guy she knows who, from what I've heard from my girlfriend, blatantly fancies her and has shamelessly tried it on with her several times. She goes out to town with him in a group every now & then & he is all over her every time, & she plays up to it. But anyway he has invited her out with a few of his mates to town for his birthday & she says she's going to go. Again I'm really not comfortable and I suggested to her that I could come too, but she is refusing. Help!
There's something else as well. There's this guy she knows who, from what I've heard from my girlfriend, blatantly fancies her and has shamelessly tried it on with her several times. She goes out to town with him in a group every now & then & he is all over her every time, & she plays up to it. But anyway he has invited her out with a few of his mates to town for his birthday & she says she's going to go. Again I'm really not comfortable and I suggested to her that I could come too, but she is refusing. Help!
Reply 11
I'm 17 and my girlfriend is 17 too, I'm not so sure it would bother me tbqh, everyone likes to be liked, what's the deal? You said you trusted her, so do.
Reply 12
I'd say she's trying to make you jealous. Maybe she's hoping that if you know other guys are interested in her then you might start to make more of a fuss over her. Maybe she's insecure about how you feel about her?
Reply 13
Anonymous
Well she knows I'm very uncomfortable with it, I think if she does it again then I'll have to have a serious talk with her.
There's something else as well. There's this guy she knows who, from what I've heard from my girlfriend, blatantly fancies her and has shamelessly tried it on with her several times. She goes out to town with him in a group every now & then & he is all over her every time, & she plays up to it. But anyway he has invited her out with a few of his mates to town for his birthday & she says she's going to go. Again I'm really not comfortable and I suggested to her that I could come too, but she is refusing. Help!
There's something else as well. There's this guy she knows who, from what I've heard from my girlfriend, blatantly fancies her and has shamelessly tried it on with her several times. She goes out to town with him in a group every now & then & he is all over her every time, & she plays up to it. But anyway he has invited her out with a few of his mates to town for his birthday & she says she's going to go. Again I'm really not comfortable and I suggested to her that I could come too, but she is refusing. Help!
Tut! Your girlfriend deserves a slap on the arse. She's being very naughty. Tell her you're coming. If she says no, she clearly has something to hide. If she doesn't want to be seen with you for fear of getting less attention, that's just not on.
Reply 14
I do seriously suggest she gets a bit of her own medicine here, she's either being very immature and attention seeking or very insensitive... either way she should learn not to take for granted that you're going to sit listening to stories about how all these different guys like her for much longer, I know if guys had been trying to get my phone number Id just tell them where to go and I wouldnt mention it to my boyfriend 
Reply 15
Laces
Tut! Your girlfriend deserves a slap on the arse. She's being very naughty. Tell her you're coming. If she says no, she clearly has something to hide. If she doesn't want to be seen with you for fear of getting less attention, that's just not on.
The thing is, I can't really insist I'm coming. I have no form of id that will show I'm 18, but these people all do. Looking older I can get into scrotty places that aren't very strict no bother, but I'd have no chance in any of these super cool places they want to go, & I can't really force a group of people I don't know to go to somewhere not so good.
Yes when I tell her I don't like it she says, well next time I won't tell you (which would be even worse), or, I'm not going to use his number anyway so don't worry (so why the hell get the number and go on about it like its some fantastic event?).
Reply 16
She sounds like a bit of a bitch to be honest. Like you said, what is the point of taking a guys number if you arn't going to use it? She's either trying to make your jealous/hurt or she's just one of these self obsessed girls who loves all the male attention.
CheesyBeans
Like you said, what is the point of taking a guys number if you arn't going to use it? She's either trying to make your jealous/hurt or she's just one of these self obsessed girls who loves all the male attention.
Agreed. And either way, she doesn't sound as though she understands the idea of/is ready for a monogamous relationship. Especially as she doesn't see the problem.
Reply 18
CheesyBeans
I'd say she's trying to make you jealous. Maybe she's hoping that if you know other guys are interested in her then you might start to make more of a fuss over her. Maybe she's insecure about how you feel about her?
I think this too. It's a point my manager quite rightly made the other day - jealousy generally lets you know that your partner cares about you...if they didn't they probably wouldn't be jealous.
Reply 19
lol...sorry bud, but this is golden..
Your girlfriend goes out and gets numbers and then tells you about them. It'd be alright if they were just the typical nice guys she's making friends (yes, i mean FRIENDS) with, but clearly they're not, there's some actual interest and she's asking for their numbers.
And next she refuses to LET you go out with her down the town (why, btw????), and she is reported to flirt quite badly with other guys.
Mate, this is setting off red lights in your brain, I can tell, but clearly NOT ENOUGH! She is NOT girlfriend material bud.
Call her out on her bull****. The whole situation concerns me. You with me mate?
..shauny
Your girlfriend goes out and gets numbers and then tells you about them. It'd be alright if they were just the typical nice guys she's making friends (yes, i mean FRIENDS) with, but clearly they're not, there's some actual interest and she's asking for their numbers.
And next she refuses to LET you go out with her down the town (why, btw????), and she is reported to flirt quite badly with other guys.
Mate, this is setting off red lights in your brain, I can tell, but clearly NOT ENOUGH! She is NOT girlfriend material bud.
Call her out on her bull****. The whole situation concerns me. You with me mate?
..shauny
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