Have I done the right thing?

too soon? you're an odd one out then

btw off topic, but how do you get the coloured text on your screenname?

I just wanted an excuse to try out some new smilies :ridinghor
wheee, look at him go!

You get other stuff for your money too. I just haven't got round to getting one yet...

And let me be the first to tell you it was a very funny joke

Lol who knows. I'm gonna stop spamming before i get yet another warning for it.
If people wanna get this back on topic then i'll be back then

Lol sure but i've only got half an hour. Need to go meet people for an Open Day.
And i prefer to see it as angry debating rather than arguing

Cant everyone just hug and make friends?

Atleast you accept that it isn't 'necessary' to have sex at 3 months.
as for 'sexual activity', it does depend on what exactly you're talking about lol

I don't think that a relationship would be unworkable without having sex after a few months, but I agree with the person who yesterday said that it would be a good idea to go a little further than kissing

I didn't say it was necessary in the first place, just something that happens way more often than not.
By sexual activity, i just meant foreplay of some sort. It can be as far as she's prepared to go, as long as she's giving the guy some sort of sex life cause many wouldn't be happy without one.

Dammit, it seems like we're starting to agree on stuff! This does not make for a good arguement lol. How do you convince the OP that she can go further than kissing without it leading to sex till she's ready though? She needs good advice about that. The relationship wouldn't be unworkable as such but there would be a big strain if the guy was previosuly used to an active sex life and was now getting nothing. Would you stick around for 6 months or something if it was you?

It's not essentail to have sex in the first few month sbut to have some sort of sexual contact isn't too much to ask if you're both 22.


You seem like a bit of an idiot. I'm surprised anyone slept with you in the first place

yo friends r jealous coz they r not virgins anymore! or maybe coz they lost it to the wrong guys for them and therfore they dnt want u to lose it to your perfct guy! save it for wen u feel right pliz! dnt do what u dont wanna do u will regret

Yes of course, I have met several people who regret their first time because they had sex out of peer pressure or only because everyone else was doing it.

edit:Why did the person's post get marked as warned for offering advice?

22? should be way before that.
and why does what I feel make me an idiot? i sort of do think that in today's world it is not normal to not have had sex by 18.

It got a warning cause it was in text speak which is against forum rules. Nothing wrong with the post itself.

I don't think anyone should be pressured into having sex so I can imagine those that have sex young to try and "keep up" with their peers (even though a lot of it is just idle locker room boasting and not actually true) will regret it later. Saying that though, by age 22, 99% of your peers will likely have had sex and while this isn't a good reason by itself, it should point out that by this age it doesn't have to be such a big deal.


I called you an idiot cause the way you presented your post made it seem like you were trying to force her into having sex when she's not ready and you were saying people are strange if they don't have sex by age 18. True, i know loads of folk who have had sex by age 18 but that doesn't mean everyone should feel compelled to. 18 is only 2 years after you are legally allowed to start having sex so it's not that long after. I'm just arguing that by 22 she needs to give the guy a bit more than a peck on the cheek if they're several months into the relationship.

3 months isn't exactly 'several' months into the relationship though.
And by 22, well, I don't know if the percentage is as high as 99%(it could be a little lower than that), but there would certainly be quite a few people who haven't had sex. If she doesn't want to do, then she shouldn't feel compelled to. Just because it's quite a bit older than the legal age doesn't mean that it shouldn't/wouldn't be a big deal to somebody, especially if they are abstaining out of choice, as in religious or moral reasons(seems like the latter of course).

Basically, it shouldn't be such a big deal.


And OP, I think you need to find new friends who accept you as you are instead of laughing at you for your personal choices. What 'friends'.