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    I'm 25 now and have never had sex. And yet, even though I wanted it all the time when I was an adolescent, I'm really not that interested in it now. Relationships seem like loads of hassle and stress. Is there really anything wrong with just getting on with life and ignoring the whole sex thing?
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    Nothing wrong with that, I suppose. Can't really imagine it myself!
    Do you not want a family and kids eventually?
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    Nope, its your life if you dont feel like your missing out on anything then dont worry about it... although relationships can cause alot of stress and hassle I think once you've found someone who makes you happy then its very worthwhile
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    Until i met my gf i thought the same... i mean i fancied girls etc but my focus remained on just having a good time with freinds, working hard to get to uni didnt want a relationship etc... but now im so glad things changed !
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    Thats a fair enough view to have and if you are happy with it, then maybe it will work for you.

    However as someone else mentioned, do you want a family? Also, if you meet the right person your feelings and ideas might change. Best to keep an open mind I suppose.
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    As randomgirl said i would keep an open mind; don't pursue it, but don't completely rule out being with someone really nice either. If it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't.
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    Relationships are a lot of time and hassle but just because a relationship takes up time doesn't mean it's time wasted. It's usually time well spent and the occasional hassle is a small price to pay generally.

    Sex as just sex, nothing more, is nice on occasion (not that I'm someone who does that often, if at all) so I'd say you're missing very little if you're saying to yourself "I'm not going to go out and just go home with anyone purely so I'm no longer a virgin", sex for that reason wouldn't be worth it in all honesty.

    I wouldn't adopt the mindset "I'm missing nothing" though, because there's more to sex than just a surge of dopamine and seratonin at the end. If you're with someone you like it's the connection and feeling of closeness which is as good, if not better, than the 'Shazam!' moment.

    I'm sure almost everyone has a "It was more hassle than it was worth" relationship in their past but just like a flat tyre doesn't stop you from ever driving a car again (what a terrible metaphor!), the thought "But it might turn out sour" shouldn't be a justification for avoiding forming bonds with people. Otherwise noone would talk to anyone else since sometimes friends annoy friends.

    In vague summary, relationships and the sex which (usually) comes with them are worth it in the long run. You don't have to go dropping your trousers for sex just for the sake of it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 25 now and have never had sex. And yet, even though I wanted it all the time when I was an adolescent, I'm really not that interested in it now. Relationships seem like loads of hassle and stress. Is there really anything wrong with just getting on with life and ignoring the whole sex thing?

    i'm not just talking about sex, but what do you live for? Without relationships with other people life seems pointless to me

    friends are the most important thing in the world imo.
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    nah, there are more important things!
    like money
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    (Original post by mermania)
    nah, there are more important things!
    Linux programming and World of Warcraft :p:
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    i'm not just talking about sex, but what do you live for? Without relationships with other people life seems pointless to me

    friends are the most important thing in the world imo.

    Apart from my friends, I like my job, watching comedy, astronomy and weight training. My weight training target is to get to 100kg at 10% BF (I'm currently 81kg at 10% BF). This should take a few years to acheive, and this is what I live for on a day to day basis.
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    Lol well I suppose if you've never had the whole relationships/sex package then its not something you would miss as you never knew what it was like in the first place... but if you feel the urge to have a relationship etc then dont turn it down because it can be a very good thing
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    Linux programming and World of Warcraft :p:
    Finally I found someone like minded! </joke>
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    Linux programming and World of Warcraft :p:

    Good thing I don't like these things otherwise I would be a bit of a cliche...
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    (Original post by blackswan)
    One night stands then if you just want sex.
    What annoys me is how there is so much hype around the whole sex issue, if you don't want it, or don't have anyone then don't worry so much about it, there is more to life than teh sexy time.
    of course there is more to life than sex, but most people think it's very very important these days
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    (Original post by AlphaNumeric)
    Relationships are a lot of time and hassle but just because a relationship takes up time doesn't mean it's time wasted. It's usually time well spent and the occasional hassle is a small price to pay generally.

    Sex as just sex, nothing more, is nice on occasion (not that I'm someone who does that often, if at all) so I'd say you're missing very little if you're saying to yourself "I'm not going to go out and just go home with anyone purely so I'm no longer a virgin", sex for that reason wouldn't be worth it in all honesty.

    I wouldn't adopt the mindset "I'm missing nothing" though, because there's more to sex than just a surge of dopamine and seratonin at the end. If you're with someone you like it's the connection and feeling of closeness which is as good, if not better, than the 'Shazam!' moment.

    I'm sure almost everyone has a "It was more hassle than it was worth" relationship in their past but just like a flat tyre doesn't stop you from ever driving a car again (what a terrible metaphor!), the thought "But it might turn out sour" shouldn't be a justification for avoiding forming bonds with people. Otherwise noone would talk to anyone else since sometimes friends annoy friends.

    In vague summary, relationships and the sex which (usually) comes with them are worth it in the long run. You don't have to go dropping your trousers for sex just for the sake of it.
    so damn true :rolleyes: , yeh is exactly how I feel on this!
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    I've started to find that my hand is becoming a far better lover. Maybe I've just been sleeping with the wrong girls?
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    (Original post by HagerVor)
    I've started to find that my hand is becoming a far better lover. Maybe I've just been sleeping with the wrong girls?
    sometimes, if all you want is an orgasm, that is definately the way to go, you don't have to stay awake talking about rubbish afterwards.

    sex is just sex.
    everyone has higher/lower sex drives and if your's is non existant then so what? and relationships really aren't worth the hassle in most cases either.

    as long as you enjoy life that's all that matters
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    reproduction is your purpose
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    Its easier said than done.
 
 
 
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