uni-halls or home?

ok, well ive been with my bf for over a year now, and we have something so special i can really see it working out forever.
but i recently got accepted into uni, and i really dont know whether to go to halls or stay at home, as the uni is about 40 mins away.
ive talked to friends and stuff but they r single and its reli not the same, and they all say go to halls.
its so hard when me and my bf spend every night together without fault, and its going to be such a big change, and im scared it will ruin everything for us.
i know halls IS uni realy, where u make friends and stuff, but my bf is my world and thats all tht matters
am i being stupid and narrow minded?
i have to decide to soon, and its getting me down all the time :frown:

thanks alot

Reply 1

gracie88

Halls... you'll only be 40 minutes away from home anyway i don't see how that will affect your relationship if it's as special as you say it is.

Reply 2

PaperMoon

If you want to have the full university experience, I would suggest going to halls. You will make plenty of friends, you wont have to travel from home everyday so that saves time, and you will probably be more focused in your studies.

Also, 40 minutes away isn't that far. I know people who have kept relationships going for nearly 3 years at opposite ends of the country. You can still see your boyfriend a lot. A lot of couples are totally inseparable at first, but after a while you learn than you can be apart and still make it work. Hopefully your relationship's survival does not solely rely on the fact you spend every night together.

Reply 3

prettygreeneyes99

aww I know what you mean, I spend practically everyday with my boyfriend and Ive got to consider what to do next year when he finishes uni and Ive still got 2 years left, and same, my uni's only about 40 mins away :smile:

lol... I would suggest halls though, for your first year at least.. the first couple of weeks away will be the hardest but you will be so busy with new friends/uni stuff that you wont have chance to miss him as much, and then by the time things have calmed down you will already being in a routine of seeing him at weekends or whatever you were planning to do if you go to halls. And if you've got something special than you've got nothing to worry about really, it will just make it much more special when you do see eachother... and think about it, its only 7 months away really isnt it, you have 3 weeks off at christmas, 3 weeks at easter and then 4 months during the summer... and after the summer you can always commute instead... but I would really suggest living in halls, you dont really get the full university experience otherwise :smile:

Reply 4

amy1987

id defo live in halls. plus that way ul be able to find out if u and ur bf are both willing to try and make ur relationship work by putting tht extra bit of effort in travelling to see each other! good luck!

Reply 5

Lauraa2908

I would say Halls definately.I thought I would have a similar decision to make.I have been with my BF for 2.5years and at first we would spend most nights together.

Now though we are quite happy to see each other just a couple of times a week,do something nice,eg Shop,Bowling etc and then go home.He comes into where I work a fair bit and we talk all the time on the phone and text message etc.

I was concerned about going to uni(like you 40 mins away from home!)and whether to live in Halls or at Home.He persuaded me to live in halls,as its all part of the experience.I trust him 100% and its the same for him with me.

As others have said,if what you have really is special it will work,and you always have weekends and holidays.He can come to you and vice versa..!

Reply 6

herecomestrouble

Halls alllllll the way

Reply 7

paperclip

40 mins away is nothing
travelling to see him will work

plus, you'll save more time travelling to see him rather then travelling to uni (as you'll be going uni 5 times a week and probably seeing him 2 times, and you can crash at his)

Reply 8

Tainturier

I had a similar dilemma when I was applying to uni, minus the boyfriend. I wanted to stay at home but I'd miss out on the "uni experience", would be the loner of the course and miss out on oh so much....My want to save money for travelling meant that I ended up not applying for halls, and was of course doomed to being a friendless course reject who didn't have any of the great experiences other people on my course had.... Or not.

Not staying in halls was the best decision I've ever made, I got the best of both worlds, having a great group of friends who I crashed with all the time at halls, and a home where I had my washing, cleaning, food etc done for me... I can honestlysay I had the best time, missed out on nothing and ended up without any of the debt my friends have, and I can now afford to spend this year travelling.

What you need to figure out is if you WANT to stay at halls....if you do, then go, your relationship sounds strong and will last through it... If you WANT to stay at home, but think you SHOULD go to halls to get the "uni experience" oR whatever, then stay at home, because in my experience, you wouldn't be missing out.

Reply 9

castroneves

Live in halls, you would be missing out on a huge amount by staying at home. If you commute to uni it makes the socialising allot harder. I know this from a couple of friends who did this for the year gone by and have regretted it big time.

Reply 10

qubog

I've been going out with my boyfriend for 4 years and we've been living together for most of that (i'm 21) and i'm moving to halls. My uni is also 40 mins away (random how so many people have unis 40 mins away from them) and I know from experience (I went to college in the same city and dropped out) that I couldn't commit myself to my degree and travel everyday, let alone having any time for my boyfriend, i'd be too tired and ratty to talk to him! It'll be ok we'll see each other a couple of times a week. I couldn't be more excited to go :biggrin:

Reply 11

xlouisedoll

I'm in the same boat as you - me and my boyfriend are going strong and plan to move in together rather than me living in halls. However we are moving closer to the uni (so we'll be about 5 mins away)..is this an option for you and your boyfriend? That way you'll be able to still spend time with your boyfriend and also you won't be so far away from the uni that you'll miss out on the vital uni experience.

Reply 12

~NC~

I suggest you go into halls :smile:

I mean if your relationship is as good as you say it is, and that you can see it lasting forever, im sure you can last 3 years 40 mins away! I mean afterall you will still be able to see each other, 40 mins is no distance atall!

Reply 13

Fleece

Yes you are being stupid.

If you can really see yourselves together forever, then you'll survive living 40 minutes away.

You say he's your world..but one day realistically he might not be, and if you've chosen to live at home then you'll regret that decision a lot.

Living in Halls/away from home is an experience that everyone needs IMHO.

Reply 14

username47781

Feelings change quickly especially when you go to university, as fleece said, he may be your world now but say next year he might not be. Halls in theory you can have a better social life but you can still have a good social life even if you did stay at home.

Reply 15

Yellowmarshmellow

If you live at home you'll probably miss out on the whole uni experience and it sounds like you and your bf have a strong relationship so a 40 minute distance isn't going to make much difference at all :smile: