obbsessed by getting revenge!

No neg rep from me, I agree. The OP just sounds spiteful and petty.

Whatever he has done to you, it is working to be resolved. Yes, you can fantasise about what will be done to him, but take it no further. Deal with the problems you have at the moment and move on, don't waste your time in spiteful media-gossiping. If what you say he did is true, and the GMC find that he has done something wrong, then he will be punished for it.

People posting on this thread aren't in a position to take sides, as they have none of the facts, just a biased account. Personally, I find it hard to take sides when the choice is between a doctor accused of malpractice and a harridan with a restraining order. You don't get restraining orders for a few phone calls.

OP, move on.

I have to agree with the previous posters too. Sure, what he did to you was (apparently) very horrific, but doesn't going to these lengths make you just as bad?
Have you honestly not thought about the repercussions of what you're doing? All actions have consequences, and what you're planning most definitly won't go unnoticed from people who don't have the same opinion of him as you do. As much as I hate throwing all these cliches around; two wrongs don't make a right. It's not going to make you feel any better in the long run, you'll feel smug for a week or so but then it'll turn into a huge mess and you'll be wishing you never bothered.
You said you're on all sorts of substances, it sounds to me like you need to get off them, and see your therapist in a what passes for normal state.
A friend of mine has an ex that is doing all sorts of stupid things to 'get revenge', and as a result she's losing all her friends, not to mention almost everyone's respect. Unless you want to end up like her I suggest you stop the madness.

Bit of a rant and I apologise, but someone needed to throw some reality on the table here. Some advice for you would be to rise above it, and not turn your life into an episode of Hollyoaks.

*Awaits neg rep, but doesn't really care*

It's not about my approval, it's about you trying to avoid looking like a dumbass. The OP has had, by the sound of things, a restraining order put on her to stop her contacting this guy. She is then coming up with drug/booze-fuelled plans to revenge herself upon this bloke to cause him suffering and stress.

Now maybe what the guy did was awful etc, but there's equally a chance that the OP has some serious issues of her own. All I am saying is we've got one side of the story (and not even that... just a mysterious - yet apparently terrible - crime for which he might be disciplined.)

What the **** are on about?????????
what madness?

can you please quote ANYTHING i said that back up what you just posted?

I don't think the swearing or excessive use of capitals are neccessary, do you?
As for 'back up', you said you were going to the media did you not?



I'm afraid you're not going to be able to avoid it after the media fiasco. Even if you choose for your name not to be mentioned people will know, because you'll be 'naming and shaming' him. By process of elimination, you're first in the firing line, so to speak.



For the record, I never told you to throw some reality into the situation, I implied that's what I was doing. You've put an awful lot of emphasis on justifying it, which I don't think you'd be doing if you genuinely believed you're right to do this. It's not as simple as tit for tat.

I doubt this all of this is helping the OP. I think the only option is to wait till Thursday as people here just aren't able to offer help. I would pour the alcohol down the sink and throw away any pills that you haven't been prescribed though, anti-depressants are designed to work in a specific way, alcohol and other mood drugs seriously mess them up. You won't be feeling the right effects if you put other drugs into your body.

Some people are being a little harsh ... Ive already replied to this thread, but feel the need to again! To the person that started this thread - I think we can all pretty much assume he's done something bad, and what goes around comes around it always does in the end! If he's done something worse than cheating etc then I feel for you and I think it is incredibly cheeky of him to contact the police if all you were doing is ringing, texting etc if he's done something that bad, cos lets face it if most people's other halfs had done something bad they would feel the need to ring them up and have a go etc etc. You just have to wait it out, if you think he's going to get whats coming to him then all you can do it wait for it to happen... and in the meantime, is there any people you can speak to before you're therapist? Maybe try ringing samaritans or something? Oh and try not too get into a cycle of drinking, it'll only be you that gets hurt in the end!

I would prefer it if you left this thread alone, you are not helping, i dont have to justify such a serious matter to some 18 year old disbelieving kid on the internet, this is grown up stuff, not an episode of hollyoakes.

OP I went through a similar thing. I dont know what happened to you but my ex is high profile in his work and I could have lost him his job because of his behaviour. He knew this and then tried to lose me mine by contacting my boss and he also turned it all round and made out I was the bad guy, mad etc. That is what these weak scum bags do. All I can say is that revenge doesnt work. It wont make you feel better and you will only hurt yourself. At the end of the day, what is really hurting is what he did to you and the fact that you still love him. And revenge wont change this. You want this not to have happened, and I'm afraid nothing can make this come true. Dont go to the papers as then you will bring publicity onto yourself and this will follow you around long after you are over him. And you WILL get over him. Remember this- the mills of life grind exceedingly slow but exceedingly fine. Life will pay him back. please dont take valium at the same time as antidepressants, you are asking for trouble. Be patient with the AD's as they will start working after a few wekks and you will at least be able to function. Go and pamper yourself, tell yourself you are worth it because you are. you are better than this. Dont become a victim of this guy and dont let him win. Let the GMC get their hands dirty, not yours!

I did NOT get a restraining order

He went to the police because i was texting him and phoning him because i was angry and was in shock looking for answers etc. The police just asked me to stop contacting him. which i did. I did NOT and I repeat NOT get charged or with anything to do with the protection from harrasment act.

If you got nothing helpful to say, then may i suggest that you move on and dont bother replying to this post.

It is natural to look for answers, but it is the worst thing to contact him. Whatever you do, don't talk to him do not contact him in any way. As I said just concentrate on legally getting him punished for his actions. Best way is not to tell him at all what you are going to do.

Absolutely, surprise is the best form of attack and its more effective to leave him wondering. These type of people who are charming and successful on the outside but manipulative and sinister in private are invariably control freaks. By not telling him your intentions you will do what he hates most, take away the control he has on the situation.