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    Please don't take the anon away from this, cause it is kind of embarressing for me
    I've just starting going out with my bf who I knew for about 6 months beforehand. During the 6 months, we hardly saw each other in person, only briefly. We got to know each other mainly online and had a lot in common. We met up once properly alone, and it was a little uncomfortable cause he was obviously different in person to how he appeared online. There were a few uncomfortable silences, but I tried not to let it bother me. About a month later we told each other we liked each other and then we dated for a week, which we both enjoyed. After, we then started going out officially. However, things started to get crap. We'd meet up, and basically get bored cause we had nothing to do and to be honest, not a lot to say either, and it was quite uncomfortable. I find that when I'm with him, I don't know what to say to him. I just don't have a lot to say to him, and to stop there being uncomfortable silences he talks loads about random things. I don't want us to be like this. We haven't slept with each other, but have done loads of sexual things, and we are completely comfotable with that

    Your probably asking yourself 'whats so embarressing about that?', but its the case that I've got a bf and i don't know what to say to him, but we are comfortable sexually with each other!!
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    Maybe you're compatible when it comes to sexual stuff but not when it comes to chatting with eachother? It happens..
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    To be honest it just sounds like you're not suited.

    Every girl i've ever been out with talking has just come easily. There might be silences but you know they're not awkward silences. If you've not met each other in person before then the first few times there might be awkward silences but apart from that you should feel pretty comfortable together.
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    If it's like this so early on then what are you bothering with it for?
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    My relationship kinda started like this. :p: But you have to give it a chance. Since you talked a lot online, why not take it in steps? Try talking on the phone so you can respond to each other without being physically in person. Get use to each other's voice. Gradually start talking in person about simple things. When I had awkward silences with my bf I would randomly say stuff like "Sooo monkeys.." or "Nice weather we're having eh?" Try to break the tension and what not. What you guys need is to learn more about each other. Talk about hobbies, interests and things you have in common.



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    (Original post by Ang|ophi|e)
    My relationship kinda started like this. :p: But you have to give it a chance. Since you talked a lot online, why not take it in steps. Try talking on the phone so you can respond to each other without being physically in person. Get use to each other's voice. Gradually start talking in person about simple things. When I had awkward silences with my bf I would randomly say stuff like "Sooo monkeys.." or "Nice weather we're having eh?" Try to break the rension and what not. What you guys need is to learn more about each other. Talk about hobbies, interests and things you have in common.

    Thanks, your reply has made me feel better and more positive about the situation. How long did it take you guys to become completely comfortable with each other? Do you love each other?
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    If you have to work to create conversation then i'm afraid you may not be a match. But hey sumtimes you gotta work for it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks, your reply has made me feel better and more positive about the situation. How long did it take you guys to become completely comfortable with each other? Do you love each other?
    He loved me before we started going out. And today I can say that I love him too. It took us a good month or two to get use to each other in person. For us it was that we were part of a group of friends but we would only talk online. I see him everyday at school so it helped a lot.
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    (Original post by Ang|ophi|e)
    He loved me before we started going out. And today I can say that I love him too. It took us a good month or two to get use to each other in person. For us it was that we were part of a group of friends but we would only talk online. I see him everyday at school so it helped a lot.
    Very similar to my situation
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    No chemistry?
 
 
 
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