pulling people and thinking of them a lot after

i went clubbing last night and pulled a guy who was really niceto me. bought me drinks, complimented me so much and i supose tired to sbhow me off to his friends. it was really sweet. i enjoyed my self and for the first time in ages, he made me feel good about my self.

to be honest i can not rememebr 100% what he looks like because i was so drunk but for some reason, now i can't stop thinking of him. i just want to eb with him now.

i was at manchester pride last night and thats where i met him. it was soooo good being able to like go ou side and hold hands and stuff. thats probably why im really smitten about it as well.

does anyone else feel like this after they've puleld?

spunds rather pathetic doent it lol

Reply 1

Tyler Durden

17

If it's any consolation, he probably can't remember you properly either.

Three things:

1. You're unlikely to find a boyfriend in a club.
2. The above is pretty much guaranteed if you pull him.

3. You shouldn't wanna be with a guy just because he's the first person in a while to throw a compliment your way.

Reply 2

prettygreeneyes99

9

hmm maybe its just made you miss having a boyfriend etc?

Reply 3

squeak

21

maybe it was because he was gay, you were a new gal pal to show his friends, and that would explain why he was so decent to you.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

yeah you're probably right Sehnsucht, although i do want to see him again but probably just to be friends. actually, very likely we'll just be friends.

miss having a boy friend? not sure. i probably miss soemone making me fele good about my self and the company that goes with it. i just love being with someone who make su feel really good about your self and looks after you.

Reply 5

cutandpasteandtwisty

11

Sehnsucht

1. You're unlikely to find a boyfriend in a club.

Loads of people meet their partners in clubs/bars. In fact, most of the couples that I know met like this.

Reply 6

prettygreeneyes99

9

Anonymous

yeah you're probably right Sehnsucht, although i do want to see him again but probably just to be friends. actually, very likely we'll just be friends.

miss having a boy friend? not sure. i probably miss soemone making me fele good about my self and the company that goes with it. i just love being with someone who make su feel really good about your self and looks after you.

same difference :smile:

Reply 7

khil

15

Anonymous

yeah you're probably right Sehnsucht, although i do want to see him again but probably just to be friends. actually, very likely we'll just be friends.

miss having a boy friend? not sure. i probably miss soemone making me fele good about my self and the company that goes with it. i just love being with someone who make su feel really good about your self and looks after you.

Yeh what you said just there - you miss having a boyfriend and you miss male attention. That's not a negative - that's just natural. I mean, for crying out loud I miss male attention and I stayed a night round a guy friend's and suddenly the company just felt so good. And I do have a boyfriend - only I haven't seen him in 2 and a half months and I won't til mid-Sep and it truly sucks.

All in all, it's quite normal and natural to want company. It's always nice to feel like someone cares about you. I miss the bear hugs and someone to kiss, personally.

Reply 8

Reue

20

congratulations, you were *almost* a 1 night stand. I shant go into detail on my opinion of guys who buy girls drinks when they are already clearly, quite drunk.. but needless to say, i certainly wouldnt define it as 'sweet'.

As said earlier, chances are he cant remember what you looked like either.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

he's been texting me all day and not once did he ask me to go back his or anything like that. we were infact tlaking about politics.... like you do when you're drunk. we've got the same interests. it'll do me no harm in seeing him again and just enjoying it. ive nowt 2 loose

Reply 10

randomgirl

14

If he wants to see you again, go for it.

If not, move on and think of it as a good night and nothing else. :smile:

Reply 11

Tyler Durden

17

cutandpasteandtwisty

Loads of people meet their partners in clubs/bars. In fact, most of the couples that I know met like this.

Bars, yeah. Clubs... well clubs in the sense that I think of them (loud music, dancing, pulling)... not so much. But hey, I am sure that some people do meet in them. My point was more that after pulling someone (probably without even knowing their name) a relationship is fairly unlikely to blossom.

Reply 12

Consie

15

If you're new to pulling, then imo it takes a few to realise the 'connection' you feel when your pulling them is just a throw-away feeling, and they're essentially a throw-away method of getting some pleasure. It all seemed a bit superficial when I was first 'back on the seen' after I broke up, but you get used to it. If you just stop taking conversations with people you just want to snog seriously, nothing matters as much if, for example, they don’t do things they say they will, like call you or want to see you again or whatever. You’ve nothing to lose in trying to arrange to go out again, what I’m trying to say though is get used to not being arsed if it doesn’t go any further than a snog in a club. Even if you’re not into being that superficial and man/girl hunting on nights out, and I can see why plenty of people aren’t, I still reckon its good to not really believe/take seriously anything someone you barely know says in a club, lol.

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