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Should I Try Date Her???
Ok i need your help 
any input will be greatfully appreciated : basiclly here is the story -
I know this girl for 5 years all my high school life but i really got to know her in Year 10 and Year 11 - we knew each other but we never talked expect for the occasional hello - But in year 10 and 11 she was in my Science - PSHCE - English - Geography Classes - and since then we been real good mates and been getting along great - We had occasions alone where we would just talk about random stuff and make fun out of each other as a joke - And we all the time been compared as acting like an old married couple
She is by far the prettiest girl in my school yet she aint dated no guy so far ???
I know her family well as her dad and my dad work together and there all cool and have a good relationship with her little brother and sister who are all at High school - but the thing is im gonna start Sixth Form now and i might not see her as much - The only class i know she is taking is Psychology same as me but we might not be in the same class and she is by far out my league and i know alot of people will try and "hit" on her and im not sure what to do??
Right now i dont wanna ask her out and ruin everything we have and i have feeling she isnt up for a relationship and is those girls who wish to date a guy who they can spend the rest of there life with and i seriously am up for that because im really into long relationships - but i dont really know - She thinks of me as her family and that wont go down well if i try and date her and her brother is a scarey person
but im up for suggestions thx again for listening your input and suggestions are greatly appreciated
S
any input will be greatfully appreciated : basiclly here is the story - I know this girl for 5 years all my high school life but i really got to know her in Year 10 and Year 11 - we knew each other but we never talked expect for the occasional hello - But in year 10 and 11 she was in my Science - PSHCE - English - Geography Classes - and since then we been real good mates and been getting along great - We had occasions alone where we would just talk about random stuff and make fun out of each other as a joke - And we all the time been compared as acting like an old married couple
She is by far the prettiest girl in my school yet she aint dated no guy so far ???I know her family well as her dad and my dad work together and there all cool and have a good relationship with her little brother and sister who are all at High school - but the thing is im gonna start Sixth Form now and i might not see her as much - The only class i know she is taking is Psychology same as me but we might not be in the same class and she is by far out my league and i know alot of people will try and "hit" on her and im not sure what to do??
Right now i dont wanna ask her out and ruin everything we have and i have feeling she isnt up for a relationship and is those girls who wish to date a guy who they can spend the rest of there life with and i seriously am up for that because im really into long relationships - but i dont really know - She thinks of me as her family and that wont go down well if i try and date her and her brother is a scarey person
but im up for suggestions thx again for listening your input and suggestions are greatly appreciated
S
Reply 1
I think you should go for it. If you really like her its got to be worth taking the risk. Although if you dont think she is up for a relationship right now maybe its worth waiting a while, hanging out as friends until you can get a better idea whether or not she likes you in that way too. If you dont want to ruin the friendship by asking her out, maybe you could just drop hints that you like her, saying "you're the prettiest girl at school" or something, and see how she reacts? if she doesnt seem keen back off and move on, if she flirts back then away you go. Good Luck anyway!
Reply 2
1
Ah, you must know her well by now and if you're getting the vibe that she doesn't want a relationship then the odds are you're probably right - so someone she thinks of 'as family' hitting on her is really not going to be a good turn of events.
You'be evidently got a good relationship anyway so do you want to jeapordise it? Are you sure that dating is what you want?
But I don't know. You know her, I don't. Whatever happens, I hope it's the right decision for you
You'be evidently got a good relationship anyway so do you want to jeapordise it? Are you sure that dating is what you want?
But I don't know. You know her, I don't. Whatever happens, I hope it's the right decision for you
Reply 3
The best thing you can do is find another girl for the mean time. There's two reasons for this.
1) If this first girl has any capacity to see you as more than a friend, it will come out when she sees you with other women. It will be pretty blatant if you know her well. Her reactions might even suprise her. (This happened to me).
2) If there's nothing, then you will be more comfortable leaving her as a friend because you've got other interests in this new girl.
Of course, this new girl might be so stellar you forget the old one too, things like that happen.
I worry that if you just blurt it out, and she's really not in that headspace, all you are going to do is alienate her and lose the friendship. If you've been acting like friends and she's not been obvious about any attraction she has for you by now, then it's not there I'd bet. Noone is in control 24/7, if she had attraction, you'd have noticed it (imo).
1) If this first girl has any capacity to see you as more than a friend, it will come out when she sees you with other women. It will be pretty blatant if you know her well. Her reactions might even suprise her. (This happened to me).
2) If there's nothing, then you will be more comfortable leaving her as a friend because you've got other interests in this new girl.
Of course, this new girl might be so stellar you forget the old one too, things like that happen.
I worry that if you just blurt it out, and she's really not in that headspace, all you are going to do is alienate her and lose the friendship. If you've been acting like friends and she's not been obvious about any attraction she has for you by now, then it's not there I'd bet. Noone is in control 24/7, if she had attraction, you'd have noticed it (imo).
Reply 4
can any one add on that?
Reply 5
orbelina
I think you should go for it. If you really like her its got to be worth taking the risk. Although if you dont think she is up for a relationship right now maybe its worth waiting a while, hanging out as friends until you can get a better idea whether or not she likes you in that way too. If you dont want to ruin the friendship by asking her out, maybe you could just drop hints that you like her, saying "you're the prettiest girl at school" or something, and see how she reacts? if she doesnt seem keen back off and move on, if she flirts back then away you go. Good Luck anyway!
I Believe the same you've got nothing to lose anyhow!
Reply 6
Personally, I think you should try as you've got nothing to lose. And if she's not ready then you're still friends...so go ahead and ask her see what comes out of it!
Reply 7
17
DodgyTrousers
The best thing you can do is find another girl for the mean time. There's two reasons for this.
1) If this first girl has any capacity to see you as more than a friend, it will come out when she sees you with other women. It will be pretty blatant if you know her well. Her reactions might even suprise her. (This happened to me).
2) If there's nothing, then you will be more comfortable leaving her as a friend because you've got other interests in this new girl.
Of course, this new girl might be so stellar you forget the old one too, things like that happen.
I worry that if you just blurt it out, and she's really not in that headspace, all you are going to do is alienate her and lose the friendship. If you've been acting like friends and she's not been obvious about any attraction she has for you by now, then it's not there I'd bet. Noone is in control 24/7, if she had attraction, you'd have noticed it (imo).
1) If this first girl has any capacity to see you as more than a friend, it will come out when she sees you with other women. It will be pretty blatant if you know her well. Her reactions might even suprise her. (This happened to me).
2) If there's nothing, then you will be more comfortable leaving her as a friend because you've got other interests in this new girl.
Of course, this new girl might be so stellar you forget the old one too, things like that happen.
I worry that if you just blurt it out, and she's really not in that headspace, all you are going to do is alienate her and lose the friendship. If you've been acting like friends and she's not been obvious about any attraction she has for you by now, then it's not there I'd bet. Noone is in control 24/7, if she had attraction, you'd have noticed it (imo).
Good advice there mate.
Us girls can be jealous types - even if we've never really fancied someone before, often seeing them with another girl will make us see them in a new light. I'm not saying it will happen, but there's quite a possibility that if she sees you with another girl she may feel jealous, or at least see you in a different way, particularly if she's never seen you with anyone else before.
Reply 8
ive been in your situation (ill admit i made the wrong decision) but i can see some ppl on here (not all) persuading u to do what i did
dont try and make her jelious going 4 someone else who dont like as much is stupid, shell see u with some1 else and think u dont like her, if she likes u shell go off u etc i could give u loads more reasons but im tired and need sleep
aniwho just try saying something flirty and see how she reacts...and let me know if u need further help
if she doesnt like u, u wont ruin anything cus u can say u just meant it as a joke, ppl flirt as a joke all the time
ooh and if u know her well u can just ask her out on a date without any worrys
whatever u do make sure u do it with just u and her there and keep it between u 2 (and us on this forum! lol!!)
if u dont do something about it u will regret it! trust me!!
dont try and make her jelious going 4 someone else who dont like as much is stupid, shell see u with some1 else and think u dont like her, if she likes u shell go off u etc i could give u loads more reasons but im tired and need sleep
aniwho just try saying something flirty and see how she reacts...and let me know if u need further help
if she doesnt like u, u wont ruin anything cus u can say u just meant it as a joke, ppl flirt as a joke all the time
ooh and if u know her well u can just ask her out on a date without any worrys
whatever u do make sure u do it with just u and her there and keep it between u 2 (and us on this forum! lol!!)
if u dont do something about it u will regret it! trust me!!
Reply 9
adam_17
ive been in your situation (ill admit i made the wrong decision) but i can see some ppl on here (not all) persuading u to do what i did
dont try and make her jelious going 4 someone else who dont like as much is stupid, shell see u with some1 else and think u dont like her, if she likes u shell go off u etc i could give u loads more reasons but im tired and need sleep
aniwho just try saying something flirty and see how she reacts...and let me know if u need further help
if she doesnt like u, u wont ruin anything cus u can say u just meant it as a joke, ppl flirt as a joke all the time
ooh and if u know her well u can just ask her out on a date without any worrys
whatever u do make sure u do it with just u and her there and keep it between u 2 (and us on this forum! lol!!)
if u dont do something about it u will regret it! trust me!!
dont try and make her jelious going 4 someone else who dont like as much is stupid, shell see u with some1 else and think u dont like her, if she likes u shell go off u etc i could give u loads more reasons but im tired and need sleep
aniwho just try saying something flirty and see how she reacts...and let me know if u need further help
if she doesnt like u, u wont ruin anything cus u can say u just meant it as a joke, ppl flirt as a joke all the time
ooh and if u know her well u can just ask her out on a date without any worrys
whatever u do make sure u do it with just u and her there and keep it between u 2 (and us on this forum! lol!!)
if u dont do something about it u will regret it! trust me!!
thanks man that really helped thank you all for your help
Reply 10
what happened???
Reply 11
If you want to ask her about it, you have to essentially not say anything you want to.
Just approach her one day, and say you'd been thinking, and you thought maybe you could be more than just friends. Then if she reacts well, don't push it. If she reacts negatively, you have to drop that subject and never ever mention it again. Ever.
Just approach her one day, and say you'd been thinking, and you thought maybe you could be more than just friends. Then if she reacts well, don't push it. If she reacts negatively, you have to drop that subject and never ever mention it again. Ever.
Reply 12
GO on, go for it, do you want to be wondering what if afterwards?
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