Realisation

Forgive my posting anon, but i have friends who come on here and would be rather shocked by this thread.

This sounds crazy but, earlier today i realised that i've always lived my life to other people's standards. I

ve always listenened to and pretended to like music i don't really like because its what everyone else was listening to.

I wore clothes that fitted in with what my friends were wearing.

I insulted people because my friends did.

I always did everything with other people in mind, and i realised how much of a fake i am, and how much i hate it.

I want to be my own person but i don't know how to go about it. Please help, i hate not being me! x

Reply 1

KarlZ

Are all your friends clones of each other? As in are they into the same music and clothes?
What I tend to find is that the older you get the more everyone deviated into their own thing and become more individualistic.
How old are you?

Reply 2

Fluent in Lies

2

Try:
listening to music you like
wearing clothes you like
not insulting people
doing what you want to do, not what you think people want you to

Reply 3

DodgyTrousers

7

Hey don't feel bad, I think that happens a lot through school. The social conditioning thing. I had the same thing. There were some people you weren't "allowed" to like because they were square/stunty/weird or whatever, so you didn't talk to them. Can't say I'm proud of my behaviour in those days, but I dropped it soon after (when I grew up :biggrin:

).

Be grateful you've spotted it now rather than carry it on until your mid-life like some do.

Reply 4

Rainygal

4

^^ ditto, i used to be like this until i had the same realisation as you, i found that my friends didn't really me asserting myself around them, they even took offense if i said i didn't like a certain tv programme!! just try learning who you are, good luck!!

Reply 5

Mashi

Just do whatever you feel comfortable with, and definetly be yourself :smile:

I'm sure your friends and family will still love you anyway you are :smile:

Reply 6

Krysia

8

Welcome to being a grown-up. :smile:

Just start being how you want to be. You'll probably find people will accept you and respect you for who you are; if they don't, then they're really not worth bothering with.

Reply 7

AverageGuyOnTheStreet

9

It's good to be yourself if that's what you want. :smile:

I remember a time when I used to only do the things that others wanted me to do. I found that very restrictive as I couldn't truly be myself so one day out of the blue I just said to my friends "I'm sick of only doing what others want, so I am going to do something for myself for once". That something was take my interest in politics further, and since then I haven't looked back.

:goodluck:

Reply 8

Nix!

11

Anonymous

Forgive my posting anon, but i have friends who come on here and would be rather shocked by this thread.

This sounds crazy but, earlier today i realised that i've always lived my life to other people's standards. I

ve always listenened to and pretended to like music i don't really like because its what everyone else was listening to.

I wore clothes that fitted in with what my friends were wearing.

I insulted people because my friends did.

I always did everything with other people in mind, and i realised how much of a fake i am, and how much i hate it.

I want to be my own person but i don't know how to go about it. Please help, i hate not being me! x

Like someone said, it's all part of growing up. Everyone has endured conformity at some point in their development :smile:

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