Boyfriend hiding his phone

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So I met my boyfriend yesterday after a month or two since I'm at uni. The past two weeks have been quite bad for our relationship where we've just been arguing and him constantly hurting me. Yesterdat everything was going good. We was havin ga good time until I wanted to go on his phone. He kept pulling it back repeatedly. I just didn't understand what was there to hide.... i kept trying to get his phone and each time he would give it and lock his screen since it was a fingerprint lock. I pulled the phone one last time and he pulled it with alittle bit of force which hit back on my face. Which he didn't realise and I walked off. All i want is some help..
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He's probably hiding something. They always are
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I hide my phone from my girlfriend, even though I'm not hiding anything (except the porn on my internet history)

I'm not sure why I do it, I guess I just like my privacy instinctually

on another level she should trust me enough to not want to look

but then, i'm a big hypocrite because i'd want to see hers if I suspected there was something going on with another dude (happened to me before, dropped her before she cheated though)
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He's probably hiding something. They always are
Whether he's hiding something or not, it's his phone. OP shouldn't be asking to play with it, she should get her own phone. I had nothing to hide when I was with my last girlfriend, but I would never hand her my phone any more than I'd let her use my toothbrush.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
So I met my boyfriend yesterday after a month or two since I'm at uni. The past two weeks have been quite bad for our relationship where we've just been arguing and him constantly hurting me. Yesterdat everything was going good. We was havin ga good time until I wanted to go on his phone. He kept pulling it back repeatedly. I just didn't understand what was there to hide.... i kept trying to get his phone and each time he would give it and lock his screen since it was a fingerprint lock. I pulled the phone one last time and he pulled it with alittle bit of force which hit back on my face. Which he didn't realise and I walked off. All i want is some help..
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he doesnt know you like that, it's only been a month, AND you always argue, so why you reaching for his personal property??

also its going so badly so how about you just end it now?
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Why do you need to go on his phone? but if he doesnt want you on it he is aloud to not let you tbh you should trust him, it wont work if there is no trust just sit him down and have a talk and make sure you give him his privacy too

I was just generally going on his phone to see what his aunty had said about me because she tends to text him about me . I do give him his privacy but I was not expecting him to be acting out like he's hiding something..
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(Original post by drowzee)
He's probably hiding something. They always are
Haha you're probably right..
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Lol no I've been with him for two years.. we met up after a month haha. I have tried many times to break up but it isn't easy for me..on top of that he doesn't let me go. & Yes we do argue but that does not mean I am not allowed to go on his phone. He can go on mine whenever anytime and I would not care.

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he doesnt know you like that, it's only been a month, AND you always argue, so why you reaching for his personal property??

also its going so badly so how about you just end it now?
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I don't like my girlfriends going on my phone because, yes, I usually have something to hide. But this doesn't mean I'm cheating, it can just be a frank conversation I've had with a friend or family member about my relationship or my girlfriend which I wouldn't want her to see. We all have a right to talk about our partners with others in private. Or, if my girlfriend is the suspicious type, I might just be having conversations with female friends who I'd rather she not start asking me about.
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I don't like people looking at my phone. I read all sorts of weird crap including stuff on TSR. I just don't want people asking why I have googled elephant penis length or whatever it may be. I don't think there is anything suspicious about keeping your phone private.
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Yes we do argue but that does not mean I am not allowed to go on his phone. He can go on mine whenever anytime and I would not care.
Apparently it does mean that and maybe you should stop exploiting yourself letting him do stuff that he never reciprocates for you.
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Okay foward from what I said. Since you are saying he may not be hiding something. I had seen a group chat of his called 'porn links' with his friends on whats app. Now I wouldn't be getting mad at him for being in that group chat or whatever because he isn't replying to any of the dirty talk his friends are having.. yet I still don't get why he would want to hide that. Even after I had seen that groupchat and scrolled a little up and he still pulled his phone like there was a lot more to hide.
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Haha not the same situation for him since he deletes his internet history all the time.. he says he does it because if he doesn't his phone will go slow. I have never even been through his history he told me himself when he was on my phone and I had like 20 tabs opened.


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I don't like people looking at my phone. I read all sorts of weird crap including stuff on TSR. I just don't want people asking why I have googled elephant penis length or whatever it may be. I don't think there is anything suspicious about keeping your phone private.
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Okay foward from what I said. Since you are saying he may not be hiding something. I had seen a group chat of his called 'porn links' with his friends on whats app. Now I wouldn't be getting mad at him for being in that group chat or whatever because he isn't replying to any of the dirty talk his friends are having.. yet I still don't get why he would want to hide that. Even after I had seen that groupchat and scrolled a little up and he still pulled his phone like there was a lot more to hide.
"Locker room talk"
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Yeah even with nothing to hide I'd feel uncomfortable handing over my phone. Feels like they're just basically telling you they don't trust you, I wouldn't like having my personal life scoured.
And like Sternumator said, maybe I googled some weird curiosity that hit me that day that I don't wanna get judged for lol
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But with my bf he deletes his internet history so I don't know what there is to hide.. ohwel thank you



(Original post by MadVisionary)
Yeah even with nothing to hide I'd feel uncomfortable handing over my phone. Feels like they're just basically telling you they don't trust you, I wouldn't like having my personal life scoured.
And like Sternumator said, maybe I googled some weird curiosity that hit me that day that I don't wanna get judged for lol
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Anyways, honestly thank you everyone for commenting and sharing you're perspective on this.
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I don't understand why girls feel the need to do this. I'd be so pissed if someone wanted to go through mine. It's intrusive.
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They always are
Who?
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Okay foward from what I said. Since you are saying he may not be hiding something. I had seen a group chat of his called 'porn links' with his friends on whats app. Now I wouldn't be getting mad at him for being in that group chat or whatever because he isn't replying to any of the dirty talk his friends are having.. yet I still don't get why he would want to hide that. Even after I had seen that groupchat and scrolled a little up and he still pulled his phone like there was a lot more to hide.
It's just lads banter. It's not for a lady's eyes.
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