girlfriends/boyfriends and uni......Watch
Don't be so pessimistic, I know plenty of couples that have stayed together.
There's no reason why it wouldn't work if you wanted it enough.
On the other hand, I know a couple that met at Uni, decided to share a room in a house for years 2 and 3, and after signing contracts have split up. They are still living together, as they have no other financial choice, but don't speak with each other even though they are still sharing a room.
Yes it can work, but there are many people who do not put in the effort needed to make it work, which is in my opinion sad.
To all those couples off to Uni I wish you the best of luck, but this very issue sparked some controversy at Durham last year.
An Officer of the student union, advised everybody to break off their relationships before becoming a student, in a post on the Durham Student Union message boards (he posted as an officer not using his personal login), as they almost never work out. There was a formal complaint against him (from an ex gf I may add), but the Officer was cleared of all wrongdoing, simply because what he stated was unfortunately all too true.
I do know of a few couples that have stayed together, but I know of many many more that have not. The saddest thing to see is when a good friend has been avoiding temptation all term and doing their absolute best to remain faithful, only to find their gf/bf jumped straight into bed with the first person they met.
It may very well work out for you, but people do change quite a bit at university. Many of you may have been going out since you were 16/17. If you stay together then you are looking at being 21/22 and have been in one relationship for 5 years. That is getting to the point when parents will be hinting about marriage!
i don't think the fact that we don't see each other that often will be a big problem, we don't see each other every week nevermind every day like some people i know.. but fingers crossed!
does anyone have any thoughts on this? if you're not in love please don't be too cynical because a broken heart (according to recent medical reserch) can be as painful as a broken leg.
I do know of a few couples that have stayed together, but I know of many many more that have not. [QUOTE]
Yeah fair enough, but i think that's true of anyone aged 18-21, not just people in long-distance relationships at uni. I have to say though, I know more people who have stayed with their partners from home for a longer length of time than have stayed with people they've met at university. I don;t think the distance is a bad thing.
me and my bf have been together 6 months and he's going to lancaster and i'm going to dundee. we're kinda avoiding talking about it (too many of our friends split up in feb/march when they talked about it too early), but i think the unspoken agreement between us is that we're going to give it a go. yes, it might not work, but it might and i couldn't give up on him without attempting it.
Don't be so pessimistic, I know plenty of couples that have stayed together. There's no reason why it wouldn't work if you wanted it enough.
Good luck to everyone going to uni whilst in a relationship, work at it but don't expect miracles. If it does work, great; if not, this is the perfect time for meeting new people and starting new things
However, I am from essex, and we are all ****s and manwhores down here, so perhaps best to ignore what I've said
Excuse the soppiness of this account.
My bf+i have been together for 3yrs now + despite the fact that there are only 9 months between us in age, there is a difference of 2 years between us in school years (work that 1 out!) Nevertheless, we intend to go to Uni together in Sept. 2005, after I've finished school. Initially, I was quite concerned at how our peers would view us and that our relationship may be ridiculed (by people such as the Durham Officer) as being nothing more than another teenage romance. However,having spoken to my Form Teacher, she reassured me that it's alll a matter of personal choice, whatever the individuals wish to do and was very supportive. At the moment, we live only 5 mins away from eachother anyway and are best friends. I have no doubts about this continuing on into our lives at university. I view our relationship as a support network rather than a hindrance to our academic achievements and owe a lot to my bf for being patient and waiting for me this next yr and that which has just passed.
Excuse the soppiness of this account.
Personally, my boyfriend is going to York (better not be St Andrews or else I'll kill him!), while I should be in Exeter (and in the US for the second year) and we have decided to give a long term relationship a go. He's currently away for 7 weeks, so I'm considering this good practice for the coming year and I actually do feel that the old cliche 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' has proven correct. Unlike many couples, we have spent a good deal of time apart, so in some ways we have already adjusted.
What I'm more concerned about, rather than him cheating on me (more likely that I'd be the one to do that ), is whether he and I will change so much that we won't have anything in common anymore and will meet each other like indifferent friends. There really has to be a balance between maintaining common interests and yet, having a life of one's own, so that you don't feel emotionally dependent on the other.