Is this reasonable?

Okay not sure if I'm putting this in the right place, but I need to rant!

Basically just over a month ago I lost my job because I started a relationship with one of my superiors, and his superior made up a bunch of lies to the big boss, which resulted in one of us being asked to leave.

Obviously this guy is not high on my list of favoured people, but I am always polite to him, have never been rude to him etc etc

We went out last night and I made mention of the fact I didn't like him, nothing more, just simply that I didn't like him, while his fiance was there. She knew he lost me my job so she didn't seem that fussed.

Today while was at the work place seeing my boyfriend he called me over for a word and said (and I quote) 'I let you in here because you are friends with the staff, but if you slag me off again I will bar your ass'. I explained that all I had said was I didn't like him and he said 'I don't care if you don't like me, just don't slag me off'

Now as far as I'm aware, the words 'I don't like him' aren't really slagging someone off, and obviously he does care if he feels the need to bar me over it.
Secondly, if I was slagging him off I feel I am well within my rights to do so (although obviously I wouldn't do it in front of his missus)
Thirdly, can he genuinely bar me for not liking him, and more importantly because he just doesn't like me? Surely you actually need a real reason, like I've been violent or abusive towards him.
Finally, how old are we, really? It felt like I was speaking to a 10 year old not a grown man!

So what do you think? I mean obviously there is nothing I can really do about it, and I'm moving to uni in 2 weeks so being barred wouldn't affect me, but do you think he was being a little out of order?

Reply 1

Alasdair

14

ROAR - if he's the landlord/manager, he can bar you for whatever he likes.

(I assume you're talking about a pub?)

Reply 2

prettygreeneyes99

9

He just sounds like a bit of an arse really... wouldnt waste time worrying over it!

Reply 3

loz_fairy

OP

8

It's a bar yea

and he's an arse yea!

haha thanks, I think I just needed to vent about it, you know when something really really petty just gets right under your skin!

Reply 4

rocketboy86

5

personally, i'd get say 10 people to come along, pick up his car (when it's parked between two others which are owned by friendly parties :wink:

) and turn it round 90 degrees...then i'd go in and say bar my ass bitch. :biggrin:

Reply 5

figureeight

11

but then he can bash in two "friendly" cars with only his one car... waste of money imo.

Reply 6

josh2716

Its a bit tactless to say you don't like someone to their face. Just do what I do and slag them off behind their back ... its called manners people!

Reply 7

loz_fairy

OP

8

I didn't just say it to his face, only when he accused me of slagging him off. Not that this guy deserves tact anyway, what he needs is someone to be honest to him for once, as opposed to tiptoeing around on egg shells and pretend to like him.

Now I think about it though, how is he ever going to know if I slag him off or not...it's not really a very good threat!

Reply 8

hippieglitter

19

loz_fairy

Okay not sure if I'm putting this in the right place, but I need to rant!

Basically just over a month ago I lost my job because I started a relationship with one of my superiors, and his superior made up a bunch of lies to the big boss, which resulted in one of us being asked to leave.

Obviously this guy is not high on my list of favoured people, but I am always polite to him, have never been rude to him etc etc

We went out last night and I made mention of the fact I didn't like him, nothing more, just simply that I didn't like him, while his fiance was there. She knew he lost me my job so she didn't seem that fussed.

Today while was at the work place seeing my boyfriend he called me over for a word and said (and I quote) 'I let you in here because you are friends with the staff, but if you slag me off again I will bar your ass'. I explained that all I had said was I didn't like him and he said 'I don't care if you don't like me, just don't slag me off'

Now as far as I'm aware, the words 'I don't like him' aren't really slagging someone off, and obviously he does care if he feels the need to bar me over it.
Secondly, if I was slagging him off I feel I am well within my rights to do so (although obviously I wouldn't do it in front of his missus)
Thirdly, can he genuinely bar me for not liking him, and more importantly because he just doesn't like me? Surely you actually need a real reason, like I've been violent or abusive towards him.
Finally, how old are we, really? It felt like I was speaking to a 10 year old not a grown man!

So what do you think? I mean obviously there is nothing I can really do about it, and I'm moving to uni in 2 weeks so being barred wouldn't affect me, but do you think he was being a little out of order?

'Management reserve the right to refuse entry to anyone at anytime for any reason.' My boyfriend is a doorman and he can turn anyone away for any reason he feels like.

Reply 9

Do Chickens Fly

8

hippieglitter

'Management reserve the right to refuse entry to anyone at anytime for any reason.' My boyfriend is a doorman and he can turn anyone away for any reason he feels like.