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Being chatted up by strangers?
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Do you think it's okay to chat with & give your number to strangers at such places?
How do people here feel about being chatted up by strangers at places like the supermarket, a bookshop, the library or at a coffee shop? Would you talk back at all and would you give your number out to the person?
Or do you think it is important to be introduced by someone?
Basically, I've heard some people say that it isn't acceptable in our country and is looked upon as odd.
What do you think?
Or do you think it is important to be introduced by someone?
Basically, I've heard some people say that it isn't acceptable in our country and is looked upon as odd.
What do you think?
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blackswan
It depends on alot of things...
where it is, if it's totally random, what kinda guy he is, what he says and if he's like 20 years older then me, geez that is weird when that happens.
And depends on what one classifies as getting "chatted up" soemtimes it can just be freaky weird.
where it is, if it's totally random, what kinda guy he is, what he says and if he's like 20 years older then me, geez that is weird when that happens.
And depends on what one classifies as getting "chatted up" soemtimes it can just be freaky weird.
no not oldies lol
Aslong as they aren't too full on, I guess it's a huge compliment.
It's all about having the confidence to approach someone and start a conversation.
It's all about having the confidence to approach someone and start a conversation.
I like it, it's complimentary.
I don't like the ones who get too pushy though. Apparently "I have a girlfriend already" actually means "You can be my mistress".
I don't like the ones who get too pushy though. Apparently "I have a girlfriend already" actually means "You can be my mistress".
Yes. Unless it's creepy old men, or thirty-year olds who say they're twenty and won't take no for an answer.
But otherwise, go up, perhaps ask something to get the conversation going (ie. time? how to cook some vegetable - legitimate excuse! etc). My friend and I were always saying how nice boys our age never come up and it's always perverts
But otherwise, go up, perhaps ask something to get the conversation going (ie. time? how to cook some vegetable - legitimate excuse! etc). My friend and I were always saying how nice boys our age never come up and it's always perverts
DodgyTrousers
I like it, it's complimentary.
I don't like the ones who get too pushy though. Apparently "I have a girlfriend already" actually means "You can be my mistress".
I don't like the ones who get too pushy though. Apparently "I have a girlfriend already" actually means "You can be my mistress".
lol
I had that in a bar one night, with my husband next to me. Guy walks up and starts chatting me up. I say I'm married and show him my wedding ring. His response? "Like I give a ****, I won't tell if you won't." When I pointed out my husband was standing near us he answered "We better leave quick then." Errmmm don't think so.
I think I'd feel quite uncomfortable if someone came up to me completely unannounced and starting trying it on with me 
I wouldn't mind if they genuinely had something to start a conversation about, for example they had read the book I was looking at in the shop, or they were interested in whatever I was doing in the library (admittedly dubious
), or just something other than 'lol ur fit number pls'.
I wouldn't mind if they genuinely had something to start a conversation about, for example they had read the book I was looking at in the shop, or they were interested in whatever I was doing in the library (admittedly dubious
), or just something other than 'lol ur fit number pls'.BlackHawk
lol I had that in a bar one night, with my husband next to me. Guy walks up and starts chatting me up. I say I'm married and show him my wedding ring. His response? "Like I give a ****, I won't tell if you won't." When I pointed out my husband was standing near us he answered "We better leave quick then." Errmmm don't think so.
I had that in a bar one night, with my husband next to me. Guy walks up and starts chatting me up. I say I'm married and show him my wedding ring. His response? "Like I give a ****, I won't tell if you won't." When I pointed out my husband was standing near us he answered "We better leave quick then." Errmmm don't think so.Haha funny as.
. To be honest I think it's a bit desperate to meet people randomly, especially in some of these places, come on a supermarket? What kind of guy chats up a girl while she's shopping!
I don't like it because the people that seem to be attracted to me are very pushy and wont take no for an answer.
No means no. Trying to convince me to take your number won't endear me to you. I usually swap my ring to the other hand to get people to back off, but even that doesn't always make a difference. Unfortunately it is always african men as well for some reason which gives the nice ones a bad name!
It can be nice when someone cute comes along, and once you say you're not interested then they are courteous and that is the end of it.
No means no. Trying to convince me to take your number won't endear me to you. I usually swap my ring to the other hand to get people to back off, but even that doesn't always make a difference. Unfortunately it is always african men as well for some reason which gives the nice ones a bad name!
It can be nice when someone cute comes along, and once you say you're not interested then they are courteous and that is the end of it.
I think it would be really nice if someone came up to you who wasn't a creep... but then I suppose no-one thinks thinks of themselves as a creep... Nice people, feel free to speak to strangers!
It'd be nice if they were fit lol..I have been "chatted up" i guess, someone on the bus came and sat next to me and then wrote a text on their phone saying "you're cute can i have your number?" and like held it so I could see.
A lot older than me though.
A lot older than me though.
I wouldnt mind if they were about my age and had something to say to me, but at the same time is that chatting up? I was working the other day and spent about 15 minutes talking to a guy about leeds festival (as I noticed his bracelet thingy) but I didnt consider that chatting him up, just talking about stuff?
I would never give my number to a stranger, you don't know what they are like.
As nice as it is in movies when people get chatted up in supermarkets etc, I would be quite scared if someone randomly struck up a conversation with me who I didnt know
The weirdest thing that happened to me like this was when I was in Northampton and this bloke stopped me to ask if I knew where the chemist's was; he was in his car, parked at the side of the road. I told him and toddled off, then about ten, fifteen miutes later he came pounding up to me, on foot this time, and asked if I wanted to go out with him that evening. He seemed like a perfectly nice sort of guy, but it did strike me as a bit odd to just ask me out, absolutely randomly, when we'd only laid eyes on each other for about five seconds. Suffice to say, I declined the offer, but he insisted on giving me his phone number and I ended up accidentally nicking his pen off him.
falls_whisper
My friend and I were always saying how nice boys our age never come up and it's always perverts
Because only desperate guys will try it on in these kind of situations.
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