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what to do about being bullied at work?

Ok firstly i am a student who is just about to go to uni and i have gotten myself a job as a cleaner for an hour and a half each evening. Everything was fine up until our supervisor said she was sick of complaints and that she was never coming back.

Then a polish lady who also works at the factors started being horrible and rude to me in what i can conclude is only bullying.

firstly im not a winger i have never been "bullied" before in my life. i am a 6ft rugby player and i can take some stick but this is really getting me down to the point where i am thinking of handing my notice in. Before now i wasnt able to understand what all the fuss with bullying was.

One night as we are now understaffed i helped another member of staff out so that he did not have to stay behind for any extra time. Then when i had finished she started shouting at me and saying it was "not fair" becasue i had not done my section and the supervisors section and that i had neglescted to mop the stairs which you are not supposed to use except in the case of an emergencty to do so. This was embaressing as it was in front of other collegues and she was shouting/speaking really aggressively and loudly.

The next day she told me i had to clean the ladies toilets. I did this and was told by a female user (they are also used as changing rooms) that it was innappriate for a male to be working in hear and that she was uncomofrtable. Considering i was alone in the toilets/changing rooms i felt that if i was accused i could not respond so said i wouldnt work in the tiolets alone in the future.

The next daty after doing the whole section (which when she was doing took the whole time) i went to help the guy who would have to stay extra only for her to come storming into the offices and shout "can you come and help me and x in the laides toilets please" i agreed and did what was told but was again embaressed.

Today while at work she told me to do a section which takes her and another polish lady 1.5 hours each in an hour. This was the canteen. I did this to the best of my abilities and without offering to help me she went up when i had left and came down to me while i was leaving and started interroragating me about what i had done. she then concluded i hadnt done it properly and said she was ringing the office tomorrow to complain about me.

This women isnt a supervisor and i dont see why she is telling me what to do and speaking to me like tihs. What should i do? Can i call up and complaoin or do i just have to stick it out till uni. If i do and get a **** refference i wont get aq job at uni so dont know what to do?

Reply 1

Dolly78660

Hello,

You should speak to the manager of the cleaning department or the supervisor and report these incidents. You shouldn’t have to work under such conditions and such bullying should not be tolerated. Have a chat with them and see what happens. If it continues then you should lodge a grievance or a written complaint depending on how long you’ve been there.

I hope things get better for you.

Take Care,
:smile:

Reply 2

prettygreeneyes99

9

Yea you can complain about her, most of the time in jobs there's gonna be somene higher up that you can complain to. You shouldnt have to stick it out at all, have other people mentioned her bahaviour?
By the way, if none of that helps, try and be overly nice to her, she just sounds like she's on a bit of an ego trip, so just try and humour her. And if she's still arsey, let rip into her, if she's really acting that badly others will have noticed so it might do her some good to be taken down a notch :smile:

Reply 3

gorgeousguy

7

Dolly78660

Hello,

You should speak to the manager of the cleaning department or the supervisor and report these incidents. You shouldn’t have to work under such conditions and such bullying should not be tolerated. Have a chat with them and see what happens. If it continues then you should lodge a grievance or a written complaint depending on how long you’ve been there.

I hope things get better for you.

Take Care,
:smile:

See thats the thing i dont have a manager or supervisor she just walked off and said she was never comging back! I might call up tomorrow and complain - my problem is that if i do then it will look like im just doing it to counter her claim im not doing my job properly.

And yes other people have noticed. ONe guy siad it was giving the place a bad atmosphere and another told her just to get on with her job and do her hour and a half and not getting stressy about it. The thing is i really dont want to get funny with 3 weeks to go.

Reply 4

prettygreeneyes99

9

Oh if you've only got 3 weeks to go just try and get on with it. On the last day though I would be tempted to tell her exactly what I thought of her though!

Reply 5

*xyz*

Make a note of dates and the incidents of bullying that have occurred so far (for evidence), phone up, explain the situation and volunteer to send them this information, then also make a note of further incidents if/when they occur in the future.

Reply 6

Dolly78660

gorgeousguy

See thats the thing i dont have a manager or supervisor she just walked off and said she was never comging back! I might call up tomorrow and complain - my problem is that if i do then it will look like im just doing it to counter her claim im not doing my job properly.

And yes other people have noticed. ONe guy siad it was giving the place a bad atmosphere and another told her just to get on with her job and do her hour and a half and not getting stressy about it. The thing is i really dont want to get funny with 3 weeks to go.

Use these other people as witnesses if required. I would complain and see what happens. Don't worry I'm sure they will understand, you can't be expected to tolerate such behaviour. Be rave and tell someone, make a complain to whoever is senior and the best point of contact available to you.

I hope this helps!

p.s. I'm really sorry to hear that your having to put up with such rudeness.

Reply 7

Dolly78660

*xyz*

Make a note of dates and the incidents of bullying that have occurred so far (for evidence), phone up, explain the situation and volunteer to send them this information, then also make a note of further incidents if/when they occur in the future.

Absolutely, this sounds like some sound advice, I would certainly do the above! :smile:

Reply 8

mosesff

11

I would tell someone about it, like before said senior, or a helpline etc.

But believe me you aren't alone, I have been bullied by work collegues, managers the lot. Also at school etc, I was a target for bullies basically, so I decided to go to the gym, toughen up and basically not give any bully an excuse to bully me (not retailiate, this makes things worse)

Anyway, good luck, and hope your Uni goes well. :biggrin:

Reply 9

JC.

19

Tell her to poke it up her arse and carry on regardless.

Reply 10

qubog

12

Maybe she's annoyed because you're going off to uni while she's stuck cleaning for her job and thinks she can bully you because you're leaving anyway. If you don't have a manager how would you get a reference anyway? I say stick it out anyway, theres only 3 weeks to go. It's always better to leave a job on a good note than a bad one. In the meantime just try and stay away from her :smile:

Reply 11

Profesh

20

She isn't your supervisor; tell her to **** off.

Reply 12

Gman1617

if that was me i wouldn't stand for such rubbish behaviour i mean shes not evne your boss or supervisor so how can she disgrace you and tell you wat to do. I mean even a boss shouldn't disgrace you. I mean if i was at my work place and someone started to try that with me i can tell you i wouldn't just take it heeeeeeeeelllllllll no.

Mate you sound like a nice guy and thats why she probly feels she can harrass you disgrace, embaress and belittle you in front of everyone.

In a nice way i think you should develop a stronger spinal cord and take a stand. Either complain about her or next time she tries to embaress you don't allow it.

Reply 13

Isis07

I think I'm missing something - has this woman been appointed acting supervisor or something? If not when she is rude tell her so - don't rude yourself, just say something like - you may not realise this but your extremely rude. If she starts issuing orders (without authority) be cheeky - congratulate her on her promotion and tell her as soon as the message comes down the chain of command you'll be happy to consider her your supervisor. Be polite but firm, and don't let this woman get to you.

It might be worth mentioning to the management - someone, somewhere must be in charge.

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