Pissing off my psychiatrist

I've been seeing a psychiatrist recently. At almost every appointment I'll openly disagree with him, even if I agree with. I'll just debate whatever he tells me. Other times I will borderline insult him, or be passive aggressive.

In spite of this, I respect him immensely and do like him. I don't have the same argumentative attitude problem with any other doctors or mental health professionals. I suspect there's some transference between me and my psychiatrist. He has said numerous times that he prefers working with me over his other patients, so I can't be that bad.

Anyone else have this problem or know how to solve it?

what diagnosis are you seeing him for?

Depression and PTSD. If it helps, he says I don't have a personality disorder.

I have a couple of personality disorders and I don't get angry with my psychiatrist to his face, although I really don't like him, so that has nothing to do with it

I think this is a case of you needing to hold back a little. You say you argue with him even if you agree. What is it about him that makes you want to argue with him?

I know some patients with personality disorders may be more "difficult" in their relationship with mental health professionals. This is said to be the case for many BPD sufferers, who push and pull emotionally.

I think he reminds me of aspects of my father. I was close to my father as child but he was disappointing and a let down. Sometimes I'd just piss my father off for the lols. It feels a bit of the same with my psych maybe?

Depression and PTSD. If it helps, he says I don't have a personality disorder.

Yeah, I have BPD, but that's not always the case. We're not just statistics.

Hmm, sounds like it.

Sorry if I offended you . I didn't mean to categorically label you. Hence why I said "some" etc. My psych said he didn't like working with his BPD patients, and he said that that's one of the reasons he preferred working with me. Sounds bad I know.

I think he probably just likes the fact that you're getting frustration out of your system and you could be right about the transference thing maybe he sees a lot of himself in you and that's why the realtionship works for him. Maybe he knows more about the healing process than you do and maybe your behaviour is part of a trajectory he recognises. Ask him what he makes of your behaviour.

Sorry if I offended you . I didn't mean to categorically label you. Hence why I said "some" etc. My psych said he didn't like working with his BPD patients, and he said that that's one of the reasons he preferred working with me. Sounds bad I know.

Wow you must be really proud of wasting tax payer's money by insulting a health care professional that is leagues and leagues above what you could ever hope to be

I think your partial explanation is correct. My psych says that my anger is from my childhood, in particular from my parents (who were never there or were abusive). So he says he doesn't take it personally when I am rude towards him. He's brought up the transference thing a few times briefly but doesn't talk in detail about it. He says I see him as the "mummy and daddy service" or something. I wonder if he glosses over it because he feels awkward or because he doesn't see it as enough of a hindrance.

calling it the mummy and daddy service is hardly glossing over it but still if he's not actively said get lost and seems to get on with you then if you both benefit I wouldn't worry too much about it.

'Mummy and daddy service' though... wow how did you feel when he said that? What exactly happened when you were young why was your relationship with your parents difficult'

For what it's worth, the little amount of PTSD psychiatric help I got a few years back amounted to them telling me it was fine to get angry; they'd been in the profession long enough there wasn't much they hadn't heard, and they understood why people acted that way as it was.

He probably thinks little more of it than just another part of the process, your arguments just part of the condition. I doubt he's becoming pissed off at all, I think he takes the differing viewpoint as a sort of venting.

Though if you agree with him on something maybe try to vocalise it? That's the only part I'd suggest anything with, actually.

"Mummy and Daddy service" was the first time he ever referred to it. I felt so embarrassed!
He'll tend to briefly refer to the transference after I've been difficult with him. He'll allude to my parents or say that I unconsciously see him as an authority figure, or some other Freudian explanation. I usually feel guilty after I've been passively aggressive towards him. I've noticed that when he fails to read between the lines, I get angry. I know that's unreasonable- he isn't a mind reader.

Parents were barely around. When they were, they would fight. Lots of domestic violence. And ever since I can remember, my mother was regularly physically abusive, not to mention emotionally abusive as well. Father wasn't as bad, in fact used to be close to him, but he enabled everything.