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    Hi there, I'd just like some advice if possible please. Forgive the somewhat rambling post.

    Recently, I've decided to give up alcohol - I never want to touch the stuff again. But the problem is that I never realised how dependent I'd become on it when going out. 4 years of going out clubbing weekly totally wasted to suddenly going teetotal is simply WEIRD, and I'm finding it very difficult. It's come to a point where I've simply sort of stopped going out with friends to any clubs or bars because I just can't do it sober. And my friends aren't really understanding my situation, they're just disappointed that I never seem to want to go out with them anymore. I realise there's not much that people can say to help me, I've just sort of got to get used to it, but are there any tips at all people can give me? So many people can enjoy themselves sober, so why can't I? Is there anybody else who's successfully managed to give up alcohol? I think I've realised that the alcohol was simply a mask for my insecurities.
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    YOur friends are shallow, they should respect your wishes for not drinking. Afterall it is possible to enjoy a night out without getting drunk.
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    Why not just take a happy medium and drink a few without getting plastered every time? Alcohol is, of course, a poison, and never a good thing in terms of health, but socially, in moderate amounts (which I rarely stick to, it must be said) it can be very relaxing and useful. If you really don't want to drink, though, just drink coke and if you must, pretend it has vodka in it. I don't see why it matters to anyone else though.
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    it will start to make sense iin time.

    clubs are tedious places at the best of times, you go to drink to fulfill the need to get pissed, have really lowd music aroung you, lots of scantly clad people dancing away and of cource have the choice of having a dance or acting like a prat as all these are acceptable things to do in a club.
    if you take the booze away you moost likely won't want to any of this (apart from some harmless perving).

    try and fing other things to do , i started playing poker , going snooker halls , playing pool, going to comedy clubs or the dog races.
    you can drink along with all these activities and choosse not to without either one really making the situation any better or worse.
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    I cant say ive tried to give it up, but I do know what you mean about dependancy when going out clubbing. Unless im drunk I get this feeling that my every move is being watched and laughed at by everyone. I know theyr not but I do feel paranoia which the alcohol takes away. Rather than give it up ive opted to cut back my drinking to the point at which I feel the desired confidence then stop. Perhaps try this. Also as others have said get involved with some other stuff that isnt clubbing, so dont go as often. That way youll have a better time when you do go clubbing and life will be more varied.
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    WELL DONE! i gave up alcohol for a year. don't drink that often now. it's not easy to start off with cos you do get a craving for it. you feel like you're hungover. also the friends that you usually drink with will want you back to your old self so they always offer it to you and say 'why don't you get yourself a real drink!' or similar. it's incredibly difficult. stick at it though cos it's well worth doing. you feel BRILLIANT when you look back after each month or so!
    how long have you been off it for? i found that after a while some friends fizzled out cos they only liked me on the alcohol and i formed better friendships with others. we went and did stuff like camping, cycling, pool tournaments, etc and if we did go clubbing there was no ribbing about the soft drinks. we got to know each other better than being out on the pull or doing a pub quiz and stupid things still happened. it gets easier and more fun as you go. keep it up!
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    Sometimes alcohol can let you unwind and gives you the confidence to do things in social situations which you wouldn't necessarily do if you were sober. Are you quite a shy person? Alcohol can make shy people more outgoing and less reserved- perhaps this is the effect it has on you and this is why you feel you cannot go out without it.
    Whilst it's a nice feeling, it's quite dangerous as people get addicted to the 'high' alcohol gives them and get addicted to that sudden shift in confidence and this can lead to problems.
    I'd say drink in moderation- and that only. You'll soon realise that you don't need to be tipsy or pissed to enjoy an evening.
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    It depends if you're outgoing normally or not I'd say.

    I used to be quite shy and alcohol would definitely be needed for a night out. Now I can go out sober and be just as confident and chatty as I am drunken.
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    In the past,I've had a couple of nights here and there where I'd go out with friends and just decide to have a sober night.I usually find that I have a bit more fun and actually feel more relaxed and happy on these nights,perhaps because I know the night can't end in illness or making a breast of myself.Also when i was 17/18, alcohol used to sometimes make me a bit depressed and weepy after a while.
    It is possible to have a great time sober,just do the things you would do during the day to have fun.I mean just laugh and talk about the things you and your friends would at school/work/college/uni.
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    Why did you give it up?

    Surely a few drinks when you go out aren't that bad?

    Personally, I think it's possible to have fun going out when sober, it's just a lot more fun when you're a bit (or very) drunk.

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    YOur friends are shallow, they should respect your wishes for not drinking. Afterall it is possible to enjoy a night out without getting drunk.
    Hardly. They want to have fun with him when they do out. He’s not going out. Of course they’re going to be “disappointed”. Where they not, I’d wonder what type of friends they were.
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    I hate going out when I haven't been drinking. Everyone else seems to be plastered and I hate drunk people, I end up having a crappy night and getting cross. This might be because the clubs round my town suck though and you need loads of alcohol to convince yourself they are good. Also, i'm in the process of losing a bit of weight and don't really feel confident around so many scantily clad women, so i use alcohol to numb the insecurities.

    Maybe a better idea would be to stop going to crappy clubs and drinking so much, then I wouldn't go for the pizza after and I would lose a bit more weight
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    I had a similar problem and i havent had a drink now for 6 months. I find if i go out to pubs/clubs i tend to go for a short amount of time. Maybe 2 hours or so just to see friends and have a quick chat. Any more and i feel a bit uncomfortable

    Best thing to do is join a gym. That could be a good hobby/time killer which goes hand in hand with giving up booze. Then you could attend classes (boxercise) and socialise with people who probably dont drink.
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    Maybe instead of getting wasted drink less or drinks that arent alcoholic. Wish i could stay sober on nights out can just imagine all the money saved, shameful situations avoided and not having to apologise to someone the next day for being a d**k.
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    my tip would be doing everything in the extreme is just dumb. why go from getting wasted to not drinking at all? All you need to do is not get wasted, just get a bit tipsy or just normally drunk and stop at that. Ive had these dumb reactions from mates too. They have one too many savage hangovers and theyre like 'im gonna be dead virtuous and be teetotal'. Its overkill, and theyre back on the ale with in a few months anyway, just not caning it like they used to. Unless you have some serious ideolological opposition, religion denies you, or are a recovering alco, teetotal just seems like overkill. Everyone has enough self control to just have a few and stop at that. If thats easier said than done, just go out with less money and only go in a round with 1 other person.
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    Just have a few drinks and enjoy yourself. Be comfortable with drinking a few drinks. Enjoying yourself and moderation are the keys to a happy social life.
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    just drink
 
 
 
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