Boys keep touching me

Aw I'm so sorry, that's honestly terrible. It's sexual assault. This is where it starts... I remember once at school a guy in geography thought it was appropriate to stroke the side of my body and my leg... I was too shocked and embarrassed the first time and I wish I had spoken sooner. No one saw him doing it. He did it several times. In the end I was moved from that seat because the teacher re-shuffled the seating plan for unrelated reasons. I wish now I had said something to someone but I was too ashamed/embarrassed.

Now I'm older when men sexually harass me I confront them, they don't think you will and that's why they do it. They like seeing you shocked and embarrassed. God honestly it makes me so mad even thinking about it.

Firstly tell your parents. Then you need to tell a teacher. This is sexual assault and it's illegal. These are disgusting little boys that need to be shown what they're doing is wrong and you don't need to be put through it. It's not "snitching" or anything like that. They are scum. If your school doesn't listen then go to the police because like I said this is illegal. You need to be strong and do it even if you're scared. And please don't feel embarrassed or ashamed as I did and many other girls/women do because it is them with the problem.

So basically i am so scared to go back to skl in the new year because boys keep touching me and i really dont like it and they dont listen

There was this one incident where like 10 boys harrased me really badly and my uniform was all ripped up

It really annoying in class they will just keep touching and rubbing up your legs and touch ur bum and stuff
And they say really horrible things

I dont know what to do and i dont want to be classed a snitch

My parents are a bit hard to talk to and also the incident when my clothes ripped i tried to tell a teacher but is acc very hard to come foward

I know technically it's sexual assault, but it's school ...., it sorta seems less serious because of that.

Back when I was at school this sort of thing happened all the time and it was BOTH males AND females doing it.

Teachers don't really take it seriously either. I saw once a kid walk up to a girl from behind and with his hand clench her buttocks so firmly that we actually could see her butt partially because during the process her skirt had gone up. This was infront of the deputy head. The deputy head just made a disgusted face and left it at that. The boy didn't get reprimanded in any shape or form.

Girls have pinched my buttocks several times at school too without my consent, one girl even came up from behind was sorta grinded on me the way a man usually does to a girl.

One girl in English class even reached under the table and briefly grabbed my balls.

It NEVER even entered my head that this was technically sexual assault and tbh the girls who got caught by guys I don't think we classing it as sexual assault either.

When I was 12 I sometimes went round grabbing random girls asses and never received signs of objection until one day I did it to this 14 year old girl and she screemed briefly at me to "GET OFF" ..... that incident shook me somewhat. I was so surprised at the reaction. I never did it again after that (even to this day) ...so if the ,OP really doesn't like it perhaps it's a good idea to kick up a bit of a fuss. Still though, I don't think the girl classes it that seriously cause she never reported me or nothing and a couple of years later I think she had actually forgotten cause I was with her younger sister and a couple of other cool kids at break time and she came up to me chatting like nothing had happened and was completely fine with me.

Honestly, nobody really took this "sexual assault" stuff very seriously at all .... IMO it isn't a massive deal. If OP doesn't like it she should open her mouth and clearly make it known ...then if it still continues perhaps as a last resort tell a teacher. But really no one in my school did any reporting or really thought it a big deal.

By the way, all this happened in the late 90s .... so perhaps things have changed in schools slightly, but personally i don't really class all this as ",sexual assault"

Apparentley im the curviest in my yr

being obese doesnt count

Apparentley im the curviest in my yr

Yeah I thought that you must have been more developed, and that is why they target you that way. Happened in my school with the girls with the biggest bottoms or breast being felt up and things. Not good and I never did any of that, thought it was weird and wrong. Plus the girls didn't like it and guy's would take it too far. Only way to stop it would be moving to an all girls school. Boy's do grow out of it by 16 or when leaving secondary school. However between then and now is still 18 months. So you should tell the head teach about the sexual assaults and your parents about it. Also tell your friends too, maybe they can protect you? Never a good idea to stay silent about these things, they just get worse if you do that.

How are you feeling now?

Im feeling a bit better ,but im just scared whats gna happen

My parents are a bit hard to talk to and also the incident when my clothes ripped i tried to tell a teacher but is acc very hard to come foward

Awwwwwww, it will be okay. No need to be scared, just make sure people know about it and don't get in those positions again. Are you most scared of tell people or of it happening again? As I was molested when I was young, but I was too scared to tell my parents, so it kept happening, until my mother actually saw it and that person never came to my house ever again. So your parents and teacher will help if you tell them about it. Go to the head teach or a teacher you like and respect, they will help you. Some teachers are useless.

It's not easy talking about these things. Try and talk to one of your friends and ask if they can accompany you to tell the teacher that you feel most comfortable talking to, and who is compassionate.

Write out what happened (and happens) and how you felt, so that if you do find it very hard when trying to talk to your teacher again, you can hand him / her the note.

Also, talk to someone on Childline, or any type of support service that may be available at your school. It will help to find a supportive adult that can get you through this.

Scared to tell my parents

I will try

What are your parents like? What do you think will happen if you tell them?

I know technically it's sexual assault, but it's school ...., it sorta seems less serious because of that.

Back when I was at school this sort of thing happened all the time and it was BOTH males AND females doing it.

Teachers don't really take it seriously either. I saw once a kid walk up to a girl from behind and with his hand clench her buttocks so firmly that we actually could see her butt partially because during the process her skirt had gone up. This was infront of the deputy head. The deputy head just made a disgusted face and left it at that. The boy didn't get reprimanded in any shape or form.

Girls have pinched my buttocks several times at school too without my consent, one girl even came up from behind was sorta grinded on me the way a man usually does to a girl.

One girl in English class even reached under the table and briefly grabbed my balls.

It NEVER even entered my head that this was technically sexual assault and tbh the girls who got caught by guys I don't think we classing it as sexual assault either.

When I was 12 I sometimes went round grabbing random girls asses and never received signs of objection until one day I did it to this 14 year old girl and she screemed briefly at me to "GET OFF" ..... that incident shook me somewhat. I was so surprised at the reaction. I never did it again after that (even to this day) ...so if the ,OP really doesn't like it perhaps it's a good idea to kick up a bit of a fuss. Still though, I don't think the girl classes it that seriously cause she never reported me or nothing and a couple of years later I think she had actually forgotten cause I was with her younger sister and a couple of other cool kids at break time and she came up to me chatting like nothing had happened and was completely fine with me.

Honestly, nobody really took this "sexual assault" stuff very seriously at all .... IMO it isn't a massive deal. If OP doesn't like it she should open her mouth and clearly make it known ...then if it still continues perhaps as a last resort tell a teacher. But really no one in my school did any reporting or really thought it a big deal.

By the way, all this happened in the late 90s .... so perhaps things have changed in schools slightly, but personally i don't really class all this as ",sexual assault"