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    i know this probably makes me sound like a loser but im about to go to uni and ive never had a girlfriend and to be honest its making me feel a bit depressed and thinking i wont settle in with a 'new crowd' at uni. its not that i dont get on with girls, i have lots of girl and boy mates. im just really shy and never got a girlfriend really. am i the only person?!
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    It really doesn't matter; it's not a competition.
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    of course you're not :hugs: you will make loadsa new friends, just embrace the massive opportunity you have, no one will think you're a "loser" or anything because I'm sure many of your fellow students will be in your same situation ;yes;
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    just relax, work on your studies, socialise, start the gym maybe a uni sports team and girls will just start appearing
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    Loads of people go to university without a girlfriend/boyfriend, there is no pressure.
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    Relax, lots of people are in your position. I've finished my first year of uni and I know lots of people who are like that including myself.
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    Its not a race. Besides its only since two thirds of the the way through first year ive been with my first proper girlfriend. These things take time, just concentrate on enjoying your life.
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    Uni is a chance to start over.
    EVERYONE is in the same boat at freshers week. Make sure you are the one that goes up to people, introduces yourself and make friends. Honestly it'll be fine.

    On the g/f front... dont worry about it. In many ways i'm jelous of you.
    If you've never been in a relationship then you never feel the pain when it goes tits up.
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    My first relationship was when I was 23 - I'd always wanted a boyfriend, but it didn't happen, I was looking everywhere else and suddenly when I finally started to concentrate on other things, I found the most wonderful boyfriend ever. I know it sounds corny and I know you'll be thinking "it's never going to happen" (I did) but it completely took me by surprise.

    Have fun at Uni - things do happen naturally, and it's even better when you aren't expecting them to.
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    For a start, you aren't some sort of failure for not hooking up before now. Get that out of your head. Some of it may be your fault (do you actually pursue women?) much of it is random chance.

    From reading these boards, Uni is a great opportunity to remedy that situation. There's people everywhere, many of whom are single and looking for fun (or more of course). If you go to parties / clubs especially, where everyone knows they are there to
    a) Get slaughtered
    b) Get some
    c) Both

    If it's any indication, my gf has expressed a great deal of jealousy and insecurity about me going there next year because she assumes the place with be swarming with attractive women. The sheer amount of women in close proximity ups the odds of someone being interested loads!

    You'll only go through uni with no luck at all if you make sod all effort and hide in your room 24/7. Just remember to put yourself out there.

    Seriously, try to leave those insecurities behind. The past is one thing, the future is another. Make the future better for yourself.
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    Nobody at Uni will know you've never had a girlfriend, and of course your not the only one, your only young (I assume?) so you've hardly 'passed your sell by date' :p: . When you go to uni there will be hundereds of girls that you've never met before, so you may end up finding someone special . And if not, Uni's the best time to be single anyway, you'll probably be busy and having fun to worry too much about having a girlfriend!
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    Be patient and it will happen No rush. Plenty of people will be exactly the same. I find these things happen when you least expect them to so just get out and enjoy life and see what happens.
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    Like the rest - so what? I wouldn't hold it against ya!
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    My boyfriend was in his first year at uni and he had only kissed two girls, neither of them he had a relationship with. Then he met me and hes graduated now :P You will meet new people at uni and you might find the right person there, uni is a biggggg place.
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    OP, It is nothing to worry about. I havent really had a serious relationship, but do I care....not a hoot.

    It'll happen when the time is right, and when you least expect it, as many have said.

    Right now, I, like you should be, enjoying life with good friends...
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    Mate there is probobaly loads of people in the same boat. And i aint gonna lie i didnt have a gf till late on either. never bothered me and it didnt bother the girl either. Uni is an immense place, you will find a gf or just have so much fun you wont be thinking about it. Your not a loser mate, just try not to think about it, when it happens it happens mate!!

    Good luck
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    (Original post by Saskia-)
    OP, It is nothing to worry about. I havent really had a serious relationship, but do I care....not a hoot.

    It'll happen when the time is right, and when you least expect it, as many have said.

    Right now, I, like you should be, enjoying life with good friends...
    I could help you out in that department .

    OP --- I won't bother reitterating the same thing everybody who posted in this thread has said. Just take it easy, enjoy yourself and shizzle will fall into place. Life's funny like that.
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    I think I can see myself being in the same position as you in 2 years time!
    I have lots of friends, male and female, but I'm just too shy to go out there and talk to guys. So I can understand completely how you feel, but I'm not worried about it at all...you'll find somebody, I promise.
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    (Original post by redballoons)
    I think I can see myself being in the same position as you in 2 years time!
    I have lots of friends, male and female, but I'm just too shy to go out there and talk to guys. So I can understand completely how you feel, but I'm not worried about it at all...you'll find somebody, I promise.
    stop trying and it may happen good luck!

    If not gimme a call lol
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    Its really nothing to be worried about.

    As someone whos been on the 'edge' of a few relationships but never taken the final plunge i can assure you singledom is a better place to be. Just concentrate on enjoying yourself and who knows what might happen
 
 
 
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