"However, what if the mother simply did not want to care for the child out of free will and thus aborted it, creating unecessary suffering that could be mitigated if the child was simply put up for adoption? In the same way as the selfish mother, a meat eater would case unecessary suffering for animals in terms of mass slaughter due to their selfish "wants" not "needs". The woman does not "need" to abort the child as other options are available."
(BTW, there are 2 ns in unnecessary)
Adoption is a complex process and you're assuming that the child will actually get adopted, which isn't as easy as some prospective parents walking in, pointing at a baby and taking it home with them that day. There are thousands of children growing up in 'the system' which where babies born instead of being aborted; those children won't get the same advantages as others. I've literally just googled it and found: "According to a nationwide study of runaway youths, more than one-third had been in foster care in the year before they took to the streets. More than one out of five youths who arrive at a shelter come directly from a foster or group home, with 38 percent nationally saying they had been in foster care at some time during the previous year, the study found." I can't vouch for the validity of these numbers but, if true, they support my case. However, I don't think you can draw a parallel between a mother aborting a fetus and a meat-eater eating meat; consumption of meat is a societal norm with the majority of people doing it and often it isn't a conscious decision or one that people would particularly think about. In contrast, abortion is still a taboo in this country and, in order to go through with it, lots of consultation and planning is required, and therapy offered afterwards. It isn't a flippant decision but one which is painful and heartbreaking. The individual meat-eater isn't "to blame" for the suffering of the animals because they're mostly unaware of the issues surrounding these industries.
"However "limiting the child's potential" is vague and not an argument. It is an appeal to emotion and does not carry any value in adding anything to your argument. I can counter it by listing several adopted or fostered children who have overreached their potential, destroying your point."
Firstly, no offence, but you argue like a 13 year old. By listing fostered or adopted children you know who have gone on to do good things is purely anecdotal and doesn't show anything about overall trends. Because I didn't realise this was a full on debate, I didn't have any statistics to back up the points I was making, but fine.
- One such survey conducted in the Minneapolis area found that between 14 and 26 percent of homeless adults were former foster care children
- A subsequent survey of the long-term homeless in Minneapolis found that 39 percent had experienced foster care or institutional care as children
- A New York City survey found that between 25 and 50 percent of the young men in the homeless shelters were former foster care wards
- A 1991 federal study of former foster care wards found that one-fourth had been homeless, 40 percent were on public assistance and half were unemployed. Connecticut officials estimate 75 percent of youths in the state's criminal justice system were once in foster care
- According to a survey by the National Association of Social Workers, 20 percent of children living in runaway shelters come directly from foster care. Children placed in out-of-home care, regardless of the reason, are at higher risk of developing alcohol and drug problems. The survey also found that 80 percent of prisoners in Illinois spent time in foster care as children
I don't know how accurate or unbiased this data is but what it suggests is that there is a causal link between being "unwanted" by your birth parents and serious issues in the future. Sure you might know of many examples of individuals who 'beat the system' and came out better for it, but in order to see the larger patterns you have to examine bigger sample sizes other than your mates.
"You cannot act on behalf of the child. When the child is of an adequate age (no longer a child) it can chose to carry on living or commit suicide. It is very arrogant to "assume" you know what the child would chose. However when you introduce other factors like poverty you are going off on a tangent. The question I pose "assumes" the mother has the means to look after the baby but simply does not want to?"
Okay, so what age becomes the age where the kid can determine whether they die or not? When are they a "child"? Where's that line drawn, and who's drawing it? And the fundamental distinction to me is that, when the fetus is still in the womb, fully reliant on the mother, it's not a child. A child is "a young human below the age of puberty", but at an age below 24 weeks, the fetus doesn't possess any of the capacities which make it "human" other than the potential to become a human, so the abortion cuts off the potential but that can't be equated to murder.
Also, don't base a debate on an assumption. If a mother doesn't want to, there's a reason for that and that has to be respected, and arguably her 'not wanting to' is a subset of not having the means to look after it.
"Interesting point, by definition you would technically no longer be vegan if you are fine with consuming free range eggs."
Oh, to clarify, I would never eat any kind of animal product, but when people attempt veganism or vegetarianism I'd aim to promote the consumption of free range eggs. But any way you look at eating eggs or meat, the animal is still being killed or suffering because they're being prevented from living their natural lives, eating what they would eat, and we're effectively tampering with them for our own gain which is selfish. But it's a lesser evil.
"There is also strong evidence that unborn babies even prior to 20 weeks feel excruciating pain during an abortion proceduce which are horrific to watch."
There's also strong evidence to suggest that they don't. That's how science works. Also I'm a bit concerned if you spend your free time watching abortions, I think you need to talk to someone.
"For unborn babies they are not even given the ability to be born."
Which, again, is a difference between veganism and pro-choice. But that's the point, it's the whole 'given the ability' thing. The ''''baby'''' doesn't possess their own autonomy because they aren't conscious or able to survive post-partum prior to 20 weeks, which means that the central autonomy belongs to the mother.
"Butchered inhumanely and unnecessarily also similar to abortions?"
In many places, Utah for instance, the fetus is injected with painkillers just in case it does feel pain. I didn't know abortions happened by tossing a bucket of extracted fetuses into a meat grinder and then picking out the toenails from the paste which exits the grinder?
"Life is about suffering. We all suffer on a daily basis. Weak argument to end off with. We do not live in a society where suffering cannot exist. As long as the mother is able to provide for the baby and provide it with a stable home anything else such as when the child grows up cannot be discussed as it is only subject to speculation."
Calm down Kid Schopenhauer. A mother might have the financial means to care for a kid but if she doesn't want it, it's not going to get a stable home. How do you define "provide for the baby"? And how are you delimiting the idea of "unnecessary" or "necessary"? I mean you're dealing a lot in speculation, in that your argument seems to rest on the idea that the reason for abortion is deemed (by you) to be trivial and if the mother simply 'had the baby' then the reason she was considering abortion would magically disappear. It's a lot more complex than that.
Situation here: my friend got pregnant when she had just turned 18, to a guy who was 16. She was going off to Cambridge that year, and planned to break up with her boyfriend. She aborted the baby without telling him, because he believed that abortion was wrong and wanted to raise any potential child with her. He was also emotionally manipulative and they weren't happy together.
Her reason for aborting the baby was that: 1. She would be a single mother. 2. She would probably have a difficult relationship with her child's father. 3. Her parents would kick her out the house. 4. She'd have to pull out of education.
Would you call those trivial reasons, or "unnecessary" reasons? She was 18, which means she was pretty safe as a legal adult to care for the child without her parents' intervention. Being a single mother is perfectly achievable; I have lots of friends who come from single parent families. She had a large inheritance and would have been able to provide economically for the child for a while. She was an adult so pulling out of education and sacrificing her dreams shouldn't matter.
But no. It was her choice to abort the baby because she had higher aspirations and didn't want to have to give it up to care for an unwanted baby. She could have put it up for adoption, but the 9 months pregnancy would have coincided with her A Levels. She couldn't have hidden it from her parents and would have been kicked out, and her boyfriend would notice and might have manipulated her into keeping it. When it comes down to it, she had the means to keep the baby and raise it, but she didn't want to, and so she shouldn't have to.