Did i do something wrong?

10

Hola!

This is about an argument between me and my dad.

At work today (he owns a shop and i work saturdays in it) Some people who work in the shop next door came over and were taking the piss out of my hair (I've just had it highlighted) They weren't saying anything nasty but i didn't like what they were saying. My dad just stood there sort of smirking and agreeing with what they were saying.

When they left i said to my dad: 'There's no need to encourage them' and he just snapped at me and went: 'I wasn't even smiling' (He was) Anway he ignored me for the rest of the day, he kept making snide comments to customers like 'Oh, i can't say anything without offending someone' (Sort of aimed at me)

Anyway at the end of the day he said: 'Will i be seeing you tommorrow i don't want to if you're going to ignore me all day' (I was like WTF? It had been him ignoring me) I started to explain that i simply didn't like him taking part in the stuff they were saying i said i didn't expect him to get involved but i thought he should have stayed out of it. He just cut me off and started yelling, He said: 'After all that time and effort i've put into you... You should take a long hard look at yourself' I was really upset, where had this come from?

Have i done something wrong? I fail to see how this was my fault.
What's hard is that i'll have to ring him and apologise because he's going away on tuesday and my car (I'm a learner driver) is at his house and i need it for my test. So if i want my car i'll have to make out it was my fault.

Advise?

Reply 1

dh00001

16

i dont think you have done anything wrong at all. hes reacted really badly to something. perhaps there is something else bothering him and you were on the recieving end of things.
if you need your car, apologise and try to act normal around him. if he carrys on, well, just make sure you have your car first

Reply 2

Ice_Queen

17

I know the feeling, Dad stopped talking to me for a fortnight a few weeks back. I got mom to have a word with him (two of his children (out of five) don't speak to him, she didn't want a third). Is it possible you can do the same?
You don't comment on what your Dad is like. Is he argumentative, calm...this knowledge will give a better idea on how to approach him.

Reply 3

cutandpasteandtwisty

11

DiscoPirate

Hola!

This is about an argument between me and my dad.

At work today (he owns a shop and i work saturdays in it) Some people who work in the shop next door came over and were taking the piss out of my hair (I've just had it highlighted) They weren't saying anything nasty but i didn't like what they were saying. My dad just stood there sort of smirking and agreeing with what they were saying.

When they left i said to my dad: 'There's no need to encourage them' and he just snapped at me and went: 'I wasn't even smiling' (He was) Anway he ignored me for the rest of the day, he kept making snide comments to customers like 'Oh, i can't say anything without offending someone' (Sort of aimed at me)

Anyway at the end of the day he said: 'Will i be seeing you tommorrow i don't want to if you're going to ignore me all day' (I was like WTF? It had been him ignoring me) I started to explain that i simply didn't like him taking part in the stuff they were saying i said i didn't expect him to get involved but i thought he should have stayed out of it. He just cut me off and started yelling, He said: 'After all that time and effort i've put into you... You should take a long hard look at yourself' I was really upset, where had this come from?

Have i done something wrong? I fail to see how this was my fault.
What's hard is that i'll have to ring him and apologise because he's going away on tuesday and my car (I'm a learner driver) is at his house and i need it for my test. So if i want my car i'll have to make out it was my fault.

Advise?

You and your Dad sound as bad as each other. Stop being so pathetic.

Reply 4

DodgyTrousers

7

Unless you were angry and basically shouted the "You didn't have to encourage them" bit, then I put that one on your dad. Maybe he felt embarassed when you brought up what he'd done (it's a ****ty way to treat your own flesh and blood isn't it).

However, IF you were narky about it, and he genuinely didn't think he'd really done anything at all, then you probably offended him but flying off the handle about "nothing". He's just being a stubborn git now though heh.

Did i do something wrong?

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