How do you deal with being home alone all the time? Need tips on how to stay sane!

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I spend pretty much most of the time during the week alone (sometimes weekends too) until my boyfriends gets home (sometimes it's in the middle of the night too so...). It's been like that since I quit my job and I can't bring myself to get a new one, I think it's been over a year now, I don't even know.
Most of my friends are at work during the week so I don't get to see them often. Sometimes I don't even feel like seeing them.
I feel like I'm slowly going insane! I keep thinking about depressing stuff and how everything is pointless....

Why do mods keep moving my threads to the 'mental health' section? I just want to have a conversation with people, this topic isn't really about proper mental health problems!
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I spend pretty much most of the time during the week alone (sometimes weekends too) until my boyfriends gets home (sometimes it's in the middle of the night too so...). It's been like that since I quit my job and I can't bring myself to get a new one, I think it's been over a year now, I don't even know.
Most of my friends are at work during the week so I don't get to see them often. Sometimes I don't even feel like seeing them.
I feel like I'm slowly going insane! I keep thinking about depressing stuff and how everything is pointless....

Why do mods keep moving my threads to the 'mental health' section? I just want to have a conversation with people, this topic isn't really about proper mental health problems!
Find a hobby to keep you occupied or join a club. If you don't want to work then maybe try volunteering once a week or so. You just have to find something to do.
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Volunteer
Get a job?
Find activities in your area
Read
Facetime people
Pen pal?
Go out for a walk
Explore the area you live in
Cook and experiment
Research things you are interested in

What hobbies do you have?

Have a rough idea/schedule of things to do per day so you don't get bored

I'm pretty much at home too rn.
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Won't let me edit so I'll just put it here. It's probably the 'keep sane' bit that gets this moved to the mental health forum.
Also to keep thinking about 'depressive stuff and how everything is pointless' is how depressed people ac feel sometimes.
In all possibilty, it could be that you have nothing productive to do making you feel this way. Or you could be in denial.

Why do you not feel like seeing your friends?
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Find a hobby to keep you occupied or join a club. If you don't want to work then maybe try volunteering once a week or so. You just have to find something to do.
I do have hobbies. But when you have literally 24/7 to do whatever you feel like doing, everything becomes boring really quickly.
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Volunteer
Get a job?
Find activities in your area
Read
Facetime people
Pen pal?
Go out for a walk
Explore the area you live in
Cook and experiment
Research things you are interested in

What hobbies do you have?

Have a rough idea/schedule of things to do per day so you don't get bored

I'm pretty much at home too rn.
Here's the thing, I don't think I can handle getting another job due to anxiety/depression issues.. Hmm my hobbies - stuff like writing, movies, reading, I love going out, partying etc. but with the partying, HAS to be with someone, I get super stressed on my own


Sometimes I don't feel like seeing them because I don't feel like talking. At all. Sometimes I'm just too tired to leave my bed, ehh.
Thanks for all the ideas. Might start planning my days a bit more.
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I do have hobbies. But when you have literally 24/7 to do whatever you feel like doing, everything becomes boring really quickly.

Here's the thing, I don't think I can handle getting another job due to anxiety/depression issues.. Hmm my hobbies - stuff like writing, movies, reading, I love going out, partying etc. but with the partying, HAS to be with someone, I get super stressed on my own


Sometimes I don't feel like seeing them because I don't feel like talking. At all. Sometimes I'm just too tired to leave my bed, ehh.
Thanks for all the ideas. Might start planning my days a bit more.
I totally get you on that being free 24/7, things become boring. Maybe doing things in a different setting would help?
E.g. going to a café and doing some writing
Going to the library and reading there.
Or on a fairly hot day, going to the park etc.

Oh okay. I didn't realise you have anxiety/depression. Are you getting help for it?
Then don't overlook general things such as good sleep pattern, good diet, exercise and fresh air. I've found that with my anxiety, it's better not to dwell on things. I refrain from reading the news for this reason. Also, I've found it useful to force myself to do things that cause a little bit of anxiety, rather than avoid it altogether. As avoidance is like accommodating it, and it gets harder for me to handle if i do that.

Just a thought, maybe you could start a blog? It can be anything fancy.
Also, are you taking part in the mindfulness challenge on tsr? I found that its helpful. Maybe it will give you something else to do for a bit.

You can find new hobbies. I've found that some of my hobbies have changed, since being so free.

With the schedule, keep it loose. I've found that if I'm too strict with timings etc then it piques my anxiety.
So something like cook, chores, out for a walk/run, read, bake, movie.

Introvert i take it? I feel drained after being with people.

On the weekends that your OH is home, do try to go out and meet people, party etc
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I'm not really getting any therapy for it. I take valium, though, which is an anti anxiety drug but of course I still do struggle with anxiety as it can't cure it. I don't believe therapy would help in my case because the reason for my anxiety is something I'd never ever discuss with any therapist. Besides, I'm not not susceptible to any suggestions and I know that I'd just disregard anything they say, and that I'd just criticise them in my head.
Yeah, I'm an introvert now, but I'm also an ex-extrovert - it's just that my personality completely changed a few years ago after some bad experiences I've had.
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Well, I have good days and bad days.. but on my bad days I'm just unable to see any positive aspects of my life. ; /
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I'm not really getting any therapy for it. I take valium, though, which is an anti anxiety drug but of course I still do struggle with anxiety as it can't cure it. I don't believe therapy would help in my case because the reason for my anxiety is something I'd never ever discuss with any therapist. Besides, I'm not not susceptible to any suggestions and I know that I'd just disregard anything they say, and that I'd just criticise them in my head.
Yeah, I'm an introvert now, but I'm also an ex-extrovert - it's just that my personality completely changed a few years ago after some bad experiences I've had.
You know some harsh advice I was given with regards to my anxiety? I got told, "recovery is a choice and a commitment. Dwelling on the situation won't help -be active. Whether that means going on mind.org or sane, calling samaritans, CBT or a little self care" (read something very similar to this lately too.)
"Don't feed your anxiety by thinking on it too much. Don't shut down suggestions made to help you out."
There is an anonymous function on mind apparently, so that can be used. It's never good to bottle things up. So I do suggest to use the anon function, on here or elsewhere. Or even write things out for yourself.
I see what you mean about the therapy thing. The way it would help is if you don't hide things from the therapist and are open anf that you are willing to take the advice.

P.s. keep us updated maybe on how you are filling your time? Maybe I could use some pointers too in that regard.
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Read books and go out the odd time.
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Ah I suppose it is a bit harsh because it's not like you can control your feelings in any way... But there's some truth in it also, thinking about your anxiety does make it worse.
Plan for today - just lazing around I'm afraid.. >.< Will let you know when I come up with anything creative!
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Ah I suppose it is a bit harsh because it's not like you can control your feelings in any way... But there's some truth in it also, thinking about your anxiety does make it worse.
Plan for today - just lazing around I'm afraid.. >.< Will let you know when I come up with anything creative!
It was harsh because I didn't want to hear it or accept it, tbh.
Lazing around is cool -can do some pampering type things?
Please do
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I had another idea. Maybe you could do an online course?
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It was harsh because I didn't want to hear it or accept it, tbh.
Lazing around is cool -can do some pampering type things?
Please do
I see.. Yeah sometimes denial is the easiest option isn't it..


Oh, after doing my LLB Law, and then LPC & Masters in one year, I'm really fed up of studying to be honest! Not even going to mention all the student debts I still have :O But this idea could work for someone else, I'm sure
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You have the time to do whatever you like and nothing preventing you from doing it (other than laziness), and you're complaining? I don't mean to sound harsh but there are people in this world who physically can't leave their home, you can, so go out and do something.
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You have the time to do whatever you like and nothing preventing you from doing it (other than laziness), and you're complaining? I don't mean to sound harsh but there are people in this world who physically can't leave their home, you can, so go out and do something.
* and depression and anxiety
I find it difficult to leave my house without my partner/friends/whatever, sometimes I get flashbacks and panic attacks especially around certain types of people, even when I take valium and I really suck at dealing with them on my own. I don't feel like embarrassing myself in public. I walk my dog a lot though because we live in the middle of nowhere so even when these things happen, there's no one around to see it.
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You have the time to do whatever you like and nothing preventing you from doing it (other than laziness), and you're complaining? I don't mean to sound harsh but there are people in this world who physically can't leave their home, you can, so go out and do something.
Not laziness. Anxiety and depression.
And I wouldn't say complaining. Looking for advice.
Harsh. And sometimes people are mentally unable.
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Are you a gamer? Get a console/pc, get skyrim and after that you'll want to stay home!
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* and depression and anxiety
I find it difficult to leave my house without my partner/friends/whatever, sometimes I get flashbacks and panic attacks especially around certain types of people, even when I take valium and I really suck at dealing with them on my own. I don't feel like embarrassing myself in public. I walk my dog a lot though because we live in the middle of nowhere so even when these things happen, there's no one around to see it.
You have a pet! Walking your dog would defo get you some fresh air and exercise. That's something. And of course you are ultimately taking care of your dog.

What about doing onething that won't cause a panic attack but slight anxiety? Avoidance is not always a good way with dealing with it.
Try exposure therapy type thing. You could so this on your own?
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