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    It turns out my girlfriend lied about her sexual history. She claimed to only have had a couple of sexual partners in the past. But I've come to learn it was actually more like a couple dozen. I'm am absolutely disgusted to be honest and still in shock.

    What makes it even worse is her Instagram posts, all that honesty is key in a relationship nonsense.

    I am fuming. What do I do?
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    If u feel that strongly then I'd dump her but if she PROPERLY apologies and is genuinely sorry, then forgive her
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    (Original post by TheGuyReturns)
    It turns out my girlfriend lied about her sexual history. She claimed to only have had a couple of sexual partners in the past. But I've come to learn it was actually more like a couple dozen. I'm am absolutely disgusted to be honest and still in shock.

    What makes it even worse is her Instagram posts, all that honesty is key in a relationship nonsense.

    I am fuming. What do I do?
    Does it really matter about her past if she is with you now, long as she is loyal to you surely it doesn't matter.
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    (Original post by TheGuyReturns)
    It turns out my girlfriend lied about her sexual history. She claimed to only have had a couple of sexual partners in the past. But I've come to learn it was actually more like a couple dozen. I'm am absolutely disgusted to be honest and still in shock.

    What makes it even worse is her Instagram posts, all that honesty is key in a relationship nonsense.

    I am fuming. What do I do?
    Honestly I think thats quite an extreme reaction. Betrayal is a bit strong imo. You seem more upset about the fact she has slept with other people than any lying. Perhaps you arent best suited and you should just mutually split.
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    (Original post by TheGuyReturns)
    It turns out my girlfriend lied about her sexual history. She claimed to only have had a couple of sexual partners in the past. But I've come to learn it was actually more like a couple dozen. I'm am absolutely disgusted to be honest and still in shock.

    What makes it even worse is her Instagram posts, all that honesty is key in a relationship nonsense.

    I am fuming. What do I do?
    What matters is what she's like NOW, not what she WAS
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    Can you get over feeling betrayed or not?
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    Perfectly acceptable to under estimate this number a tad in the early stages of a relationship.
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    (Original post by Zarek)
    Perfectly acceptable to under estimate this number a tad in the early stages of a relationship.
    Oh, and why is that exactly?
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    Yes, definitely.

    Don't let people tell you "it's in the past it doesn't matter", you have your own views, stick with them.
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    (Original post by TheGuyReturns)
    It turns out my girlfriend lied about her sexual history. She claimed to only have had a couple of sexual partners in the past. But I've come to learn it was actually more like a couple dozen. I'm am absolutely disgusted to be honest and still in shock.

    What makes it even worse is her Instagram posts, all that honesty is key in a relationship nonsense.

    I am fuming. What do I do?
    This isn't Meth

    Perhaps you could use her then dump her. Sounds like a plan Walter.
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    I get why she didn't confess to you in the first place. Why are you judging her so much?
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    (Original post by EC)
    I get why she didn't confess to you in the first place. Why are you judging so much?
    I can judge whatever I like. It's my preference, wow! So its fine to lie then?
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    (Original post by TheGuyReturns)
    Oh, and why is that exactly?
    Because the past with respect to this type of thing is nobody else's business unless once chooses to share it.
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    (Original post by TheGuyReturns)
    I can judge whatever I like. It's my preference, wow! So its fine to lie then?
    TSR is the worst place to make a thread about this. It's extremely gynocentric and full of feminists. You've already decided what you want to do.
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    (Original post by Zarek)
    Because the past with respect to this type of thing is nobody else's business unless once chooses to share it.
    Who are you to decide that for everyone exactly?
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    Do her a favour and let her go. Its obviously something you cant handle and there seems very little chance you will respect her in the future because of your preceived injury/netrayal/low opinion of her.
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    The question you should ask yourself is why did she lie about it?

    In my opinion, she probably did it so that she didn't come over to be a slut and put you off her. Knowing a girl had been with a few guys would have made me way less keen to make her my GF, so maybe she lied to so you didn't get put off.
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    (Original post by TheGuyReturns)
    I can judge whatever I like. It's my preference, wow! So its fine to lie then?
    She just didn't feel like sharing the whole truth with you, probably wanted to wait until you were ready. Why does the number of sexual partners actually matter? Having sex is not a crime.
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    It is up to you what you do. I personally wouldn't care at all about the sexual history, but I would care that she had lied. The thing is that there are always small lies in relationships; it is up to you to decide if this is the kind of lie you want to routinely overlook or not because there will probably be others :dontknow:
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    (Original post by banana5)
    The question you should ask yourself is why did she lie about it?

    In my opinion, she probably did it so that she didn't come over to be a slut and put you off her. Knowing a girl had been with a few guys would have made me way less keen to make her my GF, so maybe she lied to so you didn't get put off.
    She lied, yet suddenly she's the victim? Stop victim blaming me please.
 
 
 
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