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    Would you allow your bf/gf to talk to their exes secretly without you knowing? If you were to find out what would your reaction be? Also would you allow your bf/gf to follow their exes on social medias? How would you feel if they were too?
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    Depends on the situation/person but generally not. I don't think it's that bad following on social media but again, depending on the situation. Talking to them is a much larger no no, but again... you get the point
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    Secretly? Nah. Even if she told me i'd be a little jaded tbh, depends how it ended.
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    how... can you allow something that you don't know about lol
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    If I had a boyfriend I wouldn't mind him following or liking pics of their ex.
    If he was talking to his ex I wouldn't mind either as long as he told me because if I found out myself that they were talking together secretly that could suggest something is happening between them.
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    Lol no. I'm a very jealous and paranoid person.
    If you're dating someone and their speaking to their ex, ask them why they're doing it, but try not to get into an argument about it. Tell them it makes you uncomfortable and ask them to imagine being in your position.
    If you're dating someone and speaking to your ex, I'd try avoid doing so. If you cant avoid it, or you really just want to be friends with your ex, tell whoever you're currently dating that you're speaking to your ex, and explain why. Being truthful and keeping eachother in the loop is the best thing to do in a relationship.
    Good luck!
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    After me and my ex broke up, we kept in contact even after he found someone else, it was a bad decision and something I really regret. ****s you up badly.
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    without telling me? no, definately not.

    even if they told me, no.

    its like thats saying, yesterday was history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift, thats why we call present! dont know if it fits in this situation but hey.....

    ex's are history....lets keep it that way
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    No. Especially not secretly
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    If I know about it and they are still friends, why not?

    If my partner is hiding it and doing it behind my back I'd be really mad, I feel like I have to know about him still being in touch with someone from his past, that he used to be so intimate with.. It is a big deal.
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    Would have no problem with them talking or being friends on SM but it would be weird if they were secretive about it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Would you allow your bf/gf to talk to their exes secretly without you knowing? If you were to find out what would your reaction be?
    Well if I allowed them to talk to their exes without me knowing, it wouldn't come as a shock if I found out because it was me who gave them the permission to. Is this some sort of new relationship game then?

    "Hey, I'm gonna allow you to talk to your ex without me knowing!"

    *finds out*

    "What, how could you do such a thing!?"
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    if they're talking to someone and you haven't asked them about it yet it's not a secret. You just haven't asked the question for them to answer lol.
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    Understand that if this is your policy it amounts to your telling him that if you two should ever break up as a couple you won't be keeping in touch with him and would consider it improper for him to want to stay in contact with you.
 
 
 
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