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    Hi all.

    I have a feeling that I am unwanted somehow. Not by my family, but by other people. Like, "friends" and other relationships. I am struggling with a sexual relationship, I feel like no one particuarly wants me, but whenever I come round to considering a relationship, I feel guilty of wanting to be in one because I don't have the time (even though I do). I feel like the "friends" I've got simply use me for to give them answers etc. Then I have them turn their back on me.

    I also end up with short but painful bursts of depression. I get very depressed about time, that the days and years go by too quickly (I'm not even an adult yet, this seems to be common in middle aged adults)?

    The only real encouragement I get in my life right now is my YouTube channel, I have a growing amount of subscribers and I always get positive comments.

    Apart from this, I have little to do with my time apart from going to the gym. What doesn't help and really angers me is when I see people post on social media pictures of themselves with their bfs/gfs.

    Can someone just please help me?
    Thanks.l
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    (Original post by qwertyK)
    Hi all.

    I have a feeling that I am unwanted somehow. Not by my family, but by other people. Like, "friends" and other relationships. I am struggling with a sexual relationship, I feel like no one particuarly wants me, but whenever I come round to considering a relationship, I feel guilty of wanting to be in one because I don't have the time (even though I do). I feel like the "friends" I've got simply use me for to give them answers etc. Then I have them turn their back on me.

    I also end up with short but painful bursts of depression. I get very depressed about time, that the days and years go by too quickly (I'm not even an adult yet, this seems to be common in middle aged adults)?

    The only real encouragement I get in my life right now is my YouTube channel, I have a growing amount of subscribers and I always get positive comments.

    Apart from this, I have little to do with my time apart from going to the gym. What doesn't help and really angers me is when I see people post on social media pictures of themselves with their bfs/gfs.

    Can someone just please help me?
    Thanks.l
    My Advice:

    Get off Social Media like fb-deactivate it for some time as it doesnt help your mental status.

    Don't get into a relationship until you know you are ready for one and that happens when you are more content with yourself.

    If people are making you feel bad about yourself cut them out- toxic people who constantly take and use you should have no place in your life. You need to focus on doing things that improce your confidence and mod and self view of yourself. And get new friends/cherish the ones that really do care about you. Find help to learn how to manage your depression and fill your days with other activities and hobbies.
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    Your self-worth shouldn’t be dependent upon the acceptance of others.

    If you're looking at things in a pessimistic way, things will probably end up badly, I'm saying that from experience, trust me.

    Instead of focusing on the bad things going on around you, enjoy yourself at this very moment. Change the things you can change while removing yourself from the things you can’t.

    Don’t miss out on the beauty of life because you’re too busy stuck in this nostalgia. And most importantly, stop comparing yourself with other, you're your own person. Stop viewing others as your standard of happiness.

    Don't focus on your lonely thoughts and emotions. But instead try to identify groups with which you will have something in common, a natural basis for beginning a friendship.

    Since healthy interaction close people is good, make some effort to reach out to others, to initiate conversation even when your loneliness and depression are telling you not to.
 
 
 
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