Feeling unwanted/miserable

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Hi all.

I have a feeling that I am unwanted somehow. Not by my family, but by other people. Like, "friends" and other relationships. I am struggling with a sexual relationship, I feel like no one particuarly wants me, but whenever I come round to considering a relationship, I feel guilty of wanting to be in one because I don't have the time (even though I do). I feel like the "friends" I've got simply use me for to give them answers etc. Then I have them turn their back on me.

I also end up with short but painful bursts of depression. I get very depressed about time, that the days and years go by too quickly (I'm not even an adult yet, this seems to be common in middle aged adults)?

The only real encouragement I get in my life right now is my YouTube channel, I have a growing amount of subscribers and I always get positive comments.

Apart from this, I have little to do with my time apart from going to the gym. What doesn't help and really angers me is when I see people post on social media pictures of themselves with their bfs/gfs.

Can someone just please help me?
Thanks.l
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi all.

I have a feeling that I am unwanted somehow. Not by my family, but by other people. Like, "friends" and other relationships. I am struggling with a sexual relationship, I feel like no one particuarly wants me, but whenever I come round to considering a relationship, I feel guilty of wanting to be in one because I don't have the time (even though I do). I feel like the "friends" I've got simply use me for to give them answers etc. Then I have them turn their back on me.

I also end up with short but painful bursts of depression. I get very depressed about time, that the days and years go by too quickly (I'm not even an adult yet, this seems to be common in middle aged adults)?

The only real encouragement I get in my life right now is my YouTube channel, I have a growing amount of subscribers and I always get positive comments.

Apart from this, I have little to do with my time apart from going to the gym. What doesn't help and really angers me is when I see people post on social media pictures of themselves with their bfs/gfs.

Can someone just please help me?
Thanks.l
Im so sorry you're feeling this way :hugs:

have you tried joining clubs/socs or a sports team? i know it sounds odd, but you'll get out more and meet new people too! they'll keep you distracted and busy too:yep:

i know going to the gym, you meet loads of people there too, as when I used to go, I had a small group of friends I made there too?

With regard to the depression, have you tried speaking to someone about it? maybe you could then find ways of beating it?

idk if it helped or not, but if you ever want to talk, feel free to drop a PM, im always about
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Talking to someone really helps, they don't have to offer any ground breaking advice to you, but just getting things off your chest stops you bottling it up and feeling worse in the long term. But sometimes talking to someone you don't know is better as you feel less judged and might be more comfortable with revealing more. Have you tried any mental health charity hotlines? They're usually free to call and they do have trained workers on the other side who will be a good ear to listen. If you're at university, see if your university has a nightline (they most likely do) and give them a call, its all anonymous.
I think personally what you need to do is take a step back and focus on YOU, your own hobbies, your own journey and self worth. Even if it means watching a few motivational videos on youtube to build you up a bit, just something to work on YOU. Very important to realise as well, many of the couples that post the most about their relationship on Facebook are often in the most unsatisfied in their relationships. Happy couples are often too happy and immersed in their relationships to care about what people online think about their relationship or about whether they have something to 'prove'.
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I am in the same position. Both of my bfs have been abusive and just wanted sex all the time and many more
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