Hey there! Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free

How do you cope with grief? Watch

    Offline

    18
    ReputationRep:
    I don't cope with it. I wallow in self pity.
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    male - I never cry, probably like most guys (funny that)
    if I'm intensely upset, I'll just push through and keep my head in a positive space
    i.e. I'll play guitar, watch youtube, play a game, listen to music, some pretty introspective and introverted stuff
    but sometimes there's a time and a place for grief
    if you failed an exam, for example, it would be ludicrous not to put yourself through some grief, or else how will you learn from such a mistake?
    sometimes if I feel I've really ****ed up, I'll have some alone time and some time to recuperate and lesson-draw.
    • TSR Support Team
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by sleepysnooze)
    male - I never cry
    if I'm intensely upset, I'll just push through and keep my head in a positive space
    but sometimes there's a time and a place for grief
    if you failed an exam, for example, it would be ludicrous not to put yourself through some grief, or else how will you learn from such a mistake?
    sometimes if I feel I've really ****ed up, I'll have some alone time and some time to recuperate and lesson-draw
    Never ever?

    Have you had a proper loss? I realise OP said on the previous page 'not too deep' stuff but...


    Male - would normally be gym. Kick myself for poor essay grade or whatever. V quickly get over it once i have very logically worked out how i will rectify it.

    Can easily then forget about it and be happy the next day unlike my mum or sister.


    Proper grief - cry. Deep depression. Lasted for weeks. Only happened once, most family deaths i show little emotion. Rarely cry, has to really be a 'loss'
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Unistudent77)
    Never ever?

    Have you had a proper loss? I realise OP said on the previous page 'not too deep' stuff but...


    Male - would normally be gym. Kick myself for poor essay grade or whatever. V quickly get over it once i have very logically worked out how i will rectify it.

    Can easily then forget about it and be happy the next day unlike my mum or sister.


    Proper grief - cry. Deep depression. Lasted for weeks. Only happened once, most family deaths i show little emotion. Rarely cry, has to really be a 'loss'
    well, I had clinical depression when I was about 17 or 18 - real, hardcore life-dreading depression. so now I've kind of built up immunity to grief. my grandmother died a few weeks ago and even then I was close to crying. I've been almost crying through hard break ups. but still, the more depression and grief you get in life, the easier it gets to deal with. it toughens you up because your default expectation from life isn't happiness but just moderation. a lot of people tend to expect too much from life and that's why they end up physically crying. my advice to them is to chill out and understand that life doesn't owe you jack ****. you are merely 1 out of several billion people and if you aren't satisfied with life then join the club.
    Offline

    17
    ReputationRep:
    Female

    i bottle it all up for weeks....... when i reach a limit i'll then go for a LONG run/walk to my local park and cry where no-one can see me.
    Offline

    6
    ReputationRep:
    I tend to cry and stay in my room and stop eating.
    The loss of my dad put me in a really dark place though, I just found it difficult to cope with.
    Offline

    17
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by sameehaiqbal)
    I tend to cry and stay in my room and stop eating.
    The loss of my dad put me in a really dark place though, I just found it difficult to cope with.

    :console:
    Offline

    18
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by l'etranger)
    I wasn't talking specifically about loss of loved ones which is one of the worst things people experience, but something which everyone experiences, I generally meant day to day nonsense like breakups, exams, stuff which isn't that deep.

    Then why use the term grief?
    Offline

    13
    ReputationRep:
    female
    engage in escapism tactics - binge watch tv shows/movies and read (occasionally badly written) young adult books

    but thats avoiding it ^ to cope I generally talk to close friend(s), listen to sad music and read sad quotes
    Offline

    18
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by 0to100)
    I don't cope with it. I wallow in self pity.
    Feel you bro.

    I find it really sad that so many males have a default "me cry? Never!" response.
    Your emotions serve a purpose, they are not a sign of weakness.

    But being afraid of your own emotions can perhaps be a sign of weakness.

    So man up, and shed a tear or two occassionally. Might do you some good.
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    Use grief seed
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Naeco)
    Use grief seed
    https://i.imgur.com/Uw5sFyh.png
    • TSR Support Team
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by sleepysnooze)
    well, I had clinical depression when I was about 17 or 18 - real, hardcore life-dreading depression. so now I've kind of built up immunity to grief. my grandmother died a few weeks ago and even then I was close to crying. I've been almost crying through hard break ups. but still, the more depression and grief you get in life, the easier it gets to deal with. it toughens you up because your default expectation from life isn't happiness but just moderation. a lot of people tend to expect too much from life and that's why they end up physically crying. my advice to them is to chill out and understand that life doesn't owe you jack ****. you are merely 1 out of several billion people and if you aren't satisfied with life then join the club.
    I see. Well done for getting through that!

    I agree that experience will help you in situations like that.

    True, although i think life can be highly rewarding. However, we certainly are not entitled to a long happy life. Just have to roll with the punches and make the best of it all.


    (Original post by Twinpeaks)
    Feel you bro.

    I find it really sad that so many males have a default "me cry? Never!" response.
    Your emotions serve a purpose, they are not a sign of weakness.

    But being afraid of your own emotions can perhaps be a sign of weakness.

    So man up, and shed a tear or two occassionally. Might do you some good.
    Agree with this. Nothing wrong with it at times.

    A good friend of mine was basically being abused by his pyscho girlfriend mentally and she was just crazy. He blamed himself as 'men shouldn't be weak' etc and self-harmed.
    If people felt they could chat about stuff like that then maybe suicide wouldn't be the largest cause of death for men under 45...
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Twinpeaks)
    Feel you bro.

    I find it really sad that so many males have a default "me cry? Never!" response.
    Your emotions serve a purpose, they are not a sign of weakness.

    But being afraid of your own emotions can perhaps be a sign of weakness.

    So man up, and shed a tear or two occassionally. Might do you some good.
    I literally can't.
    Offline

    20
    ReputationRep:
    I just feel empty really. A little sad, but not enough for it to affect my ability to function. Sort of puts me in a state of reflection and retrospect. Admittedly, I've not lost anyone from my immediate family which I imagine would hit me harder than any other grief I've experienced, atm I'm just speaking of people like nan, grandad, uncles, old school mates and so on.
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    female
    -remember that no matter how bad things have been in my life, I always got over it (aka you'll always get over whatever it is that you need to get over unless you're an alien/possessed or sth weird )
    -work out
    -focus on me, my goals, my ambitions in life and why that is more important than anything else
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    Spoiler:
    Show


    I just lost my uncle this week. It hasn't struck me yet that i'll never see them ever again. :/ I just listen to rap music.

    Offline

    17
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by saraxh)
    Spoiler:
    Show



    I just lost my uncle this week. It hasn't struck me yet that i'll never see them ever again. :/ I just listen to rap music.


    im sorry to hear that :hugs:
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by CleverSquirrel)
    im sorry to hear that :hugs:
    Spoiler:
    Show

    I'm use to this happening so it's ok dw :hugs:
    Offline

    17
    ReputationRep:
    Male.

    I just keep it in and don't deal with it until everything builds up and I can't handle it anymore.
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: January 5, 2017
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • Poll
    What newspaper do you read/prefer?
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

    Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

    Quick reply
    Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.