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    Big crisis here and I need you help!

    I am a third year student and currently live with my mates in a shared house. I have started to suspect that one of my flatmates has a thing for me?

    Why?

    Because... although he has had a girlfriend in the past we suspect he is bi. He has always been very close to me as a friend and has always regarded me as a top mate.

    There are many reasons why I think he is into me - from constantly talking to me, and deliberating buying the same things I do.

    We have a group chat and over Christmas I signed out as I had no internet. He subsequently signed out and didn't speak to anyone else whilst I was offline for a week. He then came back online two hours after I did in the New Year.

    Last night he made a joke about us 'banging' together at my birthday in two weeks time. Although this was said with jest I sensed an undertone to his banter.

    Although I regard him as a great guy I am not gay and have had a girlfriend for five years. I am not sure if I should confront him about this as it may be all in my head.

    Is he gay for me? If so what should I do?
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    (Original post by daveshow93)
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    Maybe he's just really loyal to you?
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    You're just overthinking it. So what if he was gay, nothing to lose a friendship over, right?
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    Justask him if he's gay or not first, no point making speculation if you don't know his sexuality.

    It's so odd how people treat it like a murder mystery case - the case of the unknown sexuality oooOoOooOo
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    honestly - confront him about it
    this happened to a friend of mine and it ended really badly and emotionally for both parties involved because no one was talking about it and it got out of hand ._.
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    He is your friend, if he is gay/bi then let him come out when he is ready as opposed to confronting him about it. (He may not be though)

    Other than that, don't overthink it and don't let it bother you. I have been on both sides of this situation and it really doesn't affect the friendship.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    honestly - confront him about it
    this happened to a friend of mine and it ended really badly and emotionally for both parties involved because no one was talking about it and it got out of hand ._.
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    This doesn't qualify as a a big crisis...

    Would any of his behaviour be an issue if you didn't suspect him of having a sexual interest in you? If not, drop your speculation.

    If so, bring up the behaviour that is bothering you. He is your mate after all.
 
 
 
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