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    Hi everyone,

    Anyway, a couple of weeks ago I went out with a girl from work just and we both got really drunk. I was in the toilets with her and we kissed, I don't remember if more happened (I only remember snippets of the night) I am not using being drunk as an excuse, I genuinely don't remember what happened but I know that we definitely kissed and this is bad.

    Just to clarify, I am not a lesbian and neither is the girl. I am curious but I know that I want to be with a man. I know it was wrong to explore my curiosity whilst in a relationship and I wish it had never happened. I am worried the girl is going to tell people and my boyfriend will find out... I haven't spoken to the girl about it but we have had a chat like normal, I was just too shy to bring it up. To be honest I don't even know how much she would tell people or if she is a gossip... I just don't know what the right thing to do is, I'm guessing most people are going to say to tell the truth but it's not that easy.

    Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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      (Original post by Ellie333)
      Hi everyone,

      I am female and I have been with my boyfriend for around 7-8 months. Unfortunately he moved away a few months ago and now we are having a long distance relationship... It hasn't been easy and I have been doubting us.

      Anyway, a couple of weeks ago I went out with a girl from work just and we both got ridiculously drunk. I was in the toilets with her and we kissed, I don't remember if more happened (I only remember snippets of the night) I had to be taken home eventually. I am not using being drunk as an excuse, I genuinely don't remember what happened but I know that we definitely kissed and this is bad.

      Just to clarify, I am not a lesbian and neither is the girl. I am curious but I know that I want to be with a man. I know it was wrong to explore my curiosity whilst in a relationship and I wish it had never happened. I am worried the girl is going to tell people and my boyfriend will find out... I haven't spoken to the girl about it but we have had a chat like normal, I was just too shy to bring it up. To be honest I don't even know how much she would tell people or if she is a gossip... I just don't know what the right thing to do is, I'm guessing most people are going to say to tell the truth but it's not that easy.

      Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
      I'm pretty sure we've all kissed same-sex friends when drunk.

      As far as punishing yourself for things you've done, this is probably a slapped wrist and a single missed dessert.
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      Well yeah, you should tell him. A kiss is still a kiss, doesn't matter what the gender is. If you really have that much faith in your relationship, it should be fine.
      It's better to tell him now, so he doesn't hear from someone else down the line.
      I would also recommend being smarter when you drink. Could have been nasty if you'd actually got with a guy
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      Tell him, if he finds out later or from someone else it will be much worse.
     
     
     
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