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    I'm *****ing myself! Me and an old flame stopped talking 1 year ago. We were really close but it became toxic and one day we literally just stopped talking. Said person unfollowed me on everything and I stopped using twitter so I haven't posted in a year and they literally know nothing about me anymore or anything I completely disappeared from their life.

    Why have I been contacted out of the blue? I was not prepared to ever talk again and now I'm so confused.
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    I don't know what to do. I can't reconnect with this person and don't have anything to say at all but I also can't just not open the message and blatantly ignore them. **** my life
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't know what to do. I can't reconnect with this person and don't have anything to say at all but I also can't just not open the message and blatantly ignore them. **** my life
    Why not?

    Your two options are either reply or don't reply.
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    Why not?

    Your two options are either reply or don't reply.
    I don't want to reply because I don't want to get sucked in and reconnect because I'll just get ****ed over all over again

    And I just don't want them to know I'm here for them to just randomly contact after a year. I could be dead for all they know. But I'm living life without them and now back in my messages. Ugh.
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    I don't want to reply because I don't want to get sucked in and reconnect because I'll just get ****ed over all over again

    And I just don't want them to know I'm here for them to just randomly contact after a year. I could be dead for all they know. But I'm living life without them and now back in my messages. Ugh.
    And why does it bother you if they think you're dead? You clearly don't want to reply to them, so don't reply to them.

    You are overthinking this way too much... Delete the message, block and move on.
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      And why does it bother you if they think you're dead? You clearly don't want to reply to them, so don't reply to them.

      You are overthinking this way too much... Delete the message, block and move on.
      I'm at a really vulnerable point I literally talk to no one ever and this was my favourite person in the world and now they're giving me attention and never forgot about me idk idk idk
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      We caught up but ugh
      We're 2 different people now
      I don't know if they expect to start talking again or if it was just one Conversation
     
     
     
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