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    (Original post by J-ved)
    Don't get me wrong, I would definitely socialize in university. Right now, I just think right now there isn't any point on being or keeping friends from sixth form as its only 2 years? I'd rather take in the pain right now and reap the benefits afterwards? But I do agree that isolation is quite unhealthy if you don't socialize one bit.

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    Don't do it. Try and make few friends now. The human brain needs people to function properly.
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    (Original post by Magic Streets)
    Don't do it. Try and make few friends now. The human brain needs people to function properly.
    I can't function properly. I'm not human
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    (Original post by J-ved)
    I can't function properly. I'm not human
    So am I lol
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    Hey you are definitely not alone in this.I am going through the exact same thing right now no exagerration.I joined a new sixth form and drifted apart from all my old friends so now all I have is one best friend at a different school.I know exactly how you feel as everyone was already in a group or made groups really quickly and now I cant just go join a group.I know exactly how it feels to spend breaks and frees alone and struggle to talk to people.If you'd like it would be really nice for you to message me in private we could talk more on there but just know others are going through the same
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So i started a new sixth form back in September and i'm currently in year 12. I struggled to make friends within the first few days and so became an outcast. Within the first few days everyone had already made their groups and didn't seem open to accepting me into them. Trust me, i tried to make friends however people just didn't seem interested in talking to me.
    I'm now 4months in and i have no friends. I spend my lunch and break times alone in the library. I feel overwhelmingly lonely and unwanted.
    I just want to know if anyone else is going through something similar or if anyone has any advice for coping with the next 2 years.
    Hi
    I also feel you. I don't have friends in Sixth Form stil even though I stayed at my school sixth form. Eversince I transferred in Year 10, I never made real friends someone who you would openly share your feelings, jokes and concerns. I met 3 girls who were from my form we ate lunch together, sat together but I never really felt I belong in their group. It was really hard to open up with them and I never opened up to them inside 2 years. Everytime I'm with them, I feel irrelevant. One girl made me feel like I was her slave even to others. She was horrible. So... I stopped hanging out with her at lunch, even at break (well except during tutor time I can't avoid them since we sat together. )
    They all left school and I stayed behind. Friendless. If you ask me, am I lonely? I wouldn't necessarily say No but I do feel lonely sometimes especially when the Library is closed. I have nowhere to go. Probably that's the time I feel the loneliest. However, remember don't stress yourself too much on making friends. Friendship will come it might not be at this time but it will in the future.
    In my previous school year, I grew closer to few girls. The first time in my 4 years in England I met people who shared the same interests as me. We became lesson buddies. That's why don't try too hard on making friends. They'll come to you naturally. they was the first to approach me and until now we often meet up.
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    Hello,
    I honestly could have written your post myself I understand it that much.I am also in Year 12, about to finish for the summer and this year has quite possibly been the worst in my school career.
    Most of my friends left school and went to College while I stayed on at Sixth Form and although I tried to form new friendship groups people really weren't interested.
    In the room my Sixth Form has reserved for Sixth Form students only, there is a long table where everyone sits to eat and chat but I always find myself forced to sit on the end and the people next to me ignore me.
    I now eat in the Library and pretend I'm doing work and I have never felt so lonely and sad about it all. My 18th birthday is in 2 months and I don't have anyone to invite to it (or anyone that would come) and boy did the thought of that make me cry.
    All I can say is that I hope it gets better for you and that next year you find some amazing friends. I'm sure you're a lovely person. Good luck for Year 13! Hopefully things will change.
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    (Original post by okayiswonderful)
    Hello,
    I honestly could have written your post myself I understand it that much.I am also in Year 12, about to finish for the summer and this year has quite possibly been the worst in my school career.
    Most of my friends left school and went to College while I stayed on at Sixth Form and although I tried to form new friendship groups people really weren't interested.
    In the room my Sixth Form has reserved for Sixth Form students only, there is a long table where everyone sits to eat and chat but I always find myself forced to sit on the end and the people next to me ignore me.
    I now eat the Library and pretend I'm doing work and I have never felt so lonely and sad about it all. My 18th birthday is in 2 months and I don't have anyone to invite to it (or anyone that would come) and boy did the thought of that make me cry.
    All I can say is that I hope it gets better for you and that next year you find some amazing friends. I'm sure you're a lovely person. Good luck for Year 13! Hopefully things will change.
    You're a f****** soldier.
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    You're a f****** soldier.
    Thank you, it truly made me smile that someone took the time to read all that and reply.
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    (Original post by okayiswonderful)
    Thank you, it truly made me smile that someone took the time to read all that and reply.
    I know exactly what you're going through and it is the worst feeling one can have. The only advice I have to give is don't make stupid decisions because of what's happened and smash your A-Levels. It's going to be a long year, but everything always passes.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So i started a new sixth form back in September and i'm currently in year 12. I struggled to make friends within the first few days and so became an outcast. Within the first few days everyone had already made their groups and didn't seem open to accepting me into them. Trust me, i tried to make friends however people just didn't seem interested in talking to me.
    I'm now 4months in and i have no friends. I spend my lunch and break times alone in the library. I feel overwhelmingly lonely and unwanted.
    I just want to know if anyone else is going through something similar or if anyone has any advice for coping with the next 2 years.
    Hiya I just started at a new sixth form this year as well and have really struggled making friends, I was just wondering if things ended up getting better for you in the end x
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    I guess you could start interacting with the people in your lessons outside of lesson a little more, ask for help on an upcoming test or question, sit with them and work on it together. It's a start, and soon enough you might become involved in their little groups and such. As mentioned above, perseverance is key to this.
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    Never had this issue myself but I know of others who did and what they did is go to the careers advisor who’s a great lady and she would often encourage them to socialise by giving hints on what to talk about (she knew us all really well) or by simply telling someone she trusted they were having a hard time settling in and wanted someone to be friends with.

    She approached me twice with different people once in year 12 and once in year 13, I got to know them and then since I bounced around groups I would take them around, talk with them 1-1 in a group sitting and then suddenly everyone else was talking to them too… they both ended up being more popular than me but hey I never came in and made an effort so whatever.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So i started a new sixth form back in September and i'm currently in year 12. I struggled to make friends within the first few days and so became an outcast. Within the first few days everyone had already made their groups and didn't seem open to accepting me into them. Trust me, i tried to make friends however people just didn't seem interested in talking to me.
    I'm now 4months in and i have no friends. I spend my lunch and break times alone in the library. I feel overwhelmingly lonely and unwanted.
    I just want to know if anyone else is going through something similar or if anyone has any advice for coping with the next 2 years.
    It doesn't matter at all, they are just a distraction if your in sixth form just get the best grades you can, study like muthf*****kaa and if u got a nice family enjoy relaxing with them.

    The grades will last you, (hopefully u got a good family they will be part of your life) very very little chance that any of these "friends" will last.

    Most people in sixth form don't even know what a proper friend is, they only know what an assossciate is.
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    Hey sis, people are **** you don't need them. Stay strong though xx
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    I know exactly how you feel. I am always by myself all day every day and have been for a year. Im in year 13 now. My group turned on me before Christmas. It’s really hard but I’m here if you want to chat or anything. Just personal message me
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    That sounds really tough, I hope things get easier soon. At the very least you should do very well in your A Levels from all the time spent in the library. Are there any clubs you could join, at school or outside of it?
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    I’m in a similar situation to you right now. If you need to talk to anyone, feel free to pm me as I know you feel x
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So i started a new sixth form back in September and i'm currently in year 12. I struggled to make friends within the first few days and so became an outcast. Within the first few days everyone had already made their groups and didn't seem open to accepting me into them. Trust me, i tried to make friends however people just didn't seem interested in talking to me.
    I'm now 4months in and i have no friends. I spend my lunch and break times alone in the library. I feel overwhelmingly lonely and unwanted.
    I just want to know if anyone else is going through something similar or if anyone has any advice for coping with the next 2 years.
    So am I, and I have been for the past few years
 
 
 
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