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    (Original post by BrainyBengali)
    Salaam sister, I just answered a similar thread so I'll say the same thing I said there, but to address the specific concerns you have:

    1) Life is a test (as you will see in what I say below). I know you have heard this many, many times, and it may seem futile to think 'why did Allah create mankind if he knew we were going to sin and do bad deeds?' 'Doesn't he already know exactly how many bad and good actions we will commit anyway? So what's the point?'
    I have asked myself and others this very question. From what I know now, Allah has a purpose to everything he does. We may question why He does things, but this is because know nothing compared to him. Who are we to question the master of all creation?
    Here's a video by Nouman Ali Khan to watch about why we follow Allah and surrender to him regardless of what me think of his commandments and Islam.
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eVXq1cbWsGE

    As a fellow Muslim brother, I just want to start off by saying you are your own individual and it is up to you to decide whether Islam is the right path for you.

    I sincerely believe that being a Muslim, no matter how sinful and impious they are, Allah will always be willing to forgive them if they genuinely repent with regret over their actions. One of his names is 'Al-Ghafur', meaning 'Most Forgiving.' Surely, if he wills, he is merciful enough to be able to forgive any sins one may have committed, if one repents with sincere, genuine regret.

    Next, doubting His existence. If I am honest with you, I have also pondered over this topic. Is there really an Almighty Lord that created us? Can we simply explain our existence through science alone?

    To that I say this: Just take yourself for example. Think about the body you have - the 206 strong bones that keep you upright, the lean, powerful muscles that allow you to move, the miracle of a brain that has allowed Mankind to think up and create every single thing around us, from our possessions, to our cities, to our cars, to our technology. Life exists in the smallest of organisms, from the tiny ant to the great beasts of the world. Every organ has a function in every body, and without even one, we wouldn't be able to survive in some cases.

    Doesn't that make you marvel at the world? I, for one, cannot believe that we simply 'popped into existence'. And while Darwin may put forward his theory of evolution, I then say: Who created the monkeys? Which then begs the question 'Who created and is the master of the Universe?' His explanation is a theory, and nothing more. A way of explaining how we came to be human. But there had to be a grand-designer with limitless amounts of power and imagination.

    In many Islamic stories, we see God telling his prophets how He 'knows what [we] do not'. And in time, we come to realise his intentions for everything. Science is simply our way of explaining what has already been thought of and designed by Allah. We are insignificant in his presence; to think about the advances of mankind from 'cavemen' to now, we think is a massive feat. But who was it that gave us the ability to do so in the first place? Who breathed life into us and let us roam the Earth he has created for us?

    Think about Earth: we have oil, gas and coal for our own use. These resources were created through the decomposition of the 'dinosaurs' - Where did they come from? How is it possible for them to have survived for millions of years and then died, leaving behind stuff we are able to use to our benefit?

    Next, it is the only planet where water is found and is neither too hot, nor too cold for life. We are in the perfect 'Goldilock' Zone, and this cannot be explained as a matter of 'chance'. It can only be that God has created man for a purpose, and that purpose Islam teaches, is to worship Allah alone, and that Muhammad (peace be upon him) is his servant and his messenger (1st pillar of Islam).

    *Sorry for preaching, but I do think it is beneficial to consider how great and magical this world is by itself. So then imagine the hereafter: Heaven. Imagine being at total blissful peace, for eternity. Pretty great, huh? I think so too.

    And so this life being our 'admissions test' into paradise is a pretty sweet deal - sacrifice what, 60 years of following the commandments conveyed to us by Muhammad (pbuh) which is pretty calm and easy to do itself, in order to have a never-ending lifetime of whatever I want? WHERE DO I SIGN?! (right here https://static.thestudentroom.co.uk/...es/biggrin.png)

    It is said that the beauties and pleasures of heaven surpass what we can even imagine. Everything you've ever wanted to do, see and explore, you can do in your own free time - it's not like you've got anywhere else to go! AND IT's FOREVER! And, it's said that even before you think of something you want in paradise, you will see it given to you (I know, mind boggling! http://static.tsrfiles.co.uk/images/smilies/hmmmm.gif)I can't help but crack a smile whenever I think of it!

    As I've said before, this life is ultimately a test. To see if we can withhold and control our desires and lusts and follow the commandments of our creator. I myself have had a lot of personal things to go through, but having a regular set time to pray in a day really does help establish remembrance of God and that ultimately, we will all die and have to answer for our deeds.

    All good comes from Allah, and we should be thankful: Allah says in the Quran "If you give thanks, I will give you more" [to be thankful for]. He is the 'Most Generous' and after my prayer, I always thank him for his mercy and ask him and him only for whatever I want in life, for without his approval, I am helpless.

    It may seem like it is pointless, asking for help if you're not sure if he's there. Of course I don't believe I have manged to do it in such a small space, but hopefully I have strengthened your belief in God's presence. He is there, and is just waiting for us to ask him for his forgiveness and mercy. It is literally a case of 'don't ask, don't get'. A well-known hadith says “Take one step towards me, I will take ten steps towards you. Walk towards me, I will run towards you.” He is happy when he sees that his creation is asking for things from him alone - this is why it is best to ask for help in times of hardship from him first - make prayer and he will help in a way and at a time that may not seem right to us, but correct in his faultless judgement.

    Therefore look at any suffering as a blessing - the more struggle you can overcome and still remember Allah, the more reward and satisfaction there is waiting for you in the next life, insha-Allah. It is why the great Sahaabah (followers) of Muhammad (pbuh) will reap such huge rewards in the next life, due to the great struggles they faced.

    Of course, we cannot gain rewards in the same way as they did, spreading the word of Islam, starting it up and fighting oppression - or can we? Right now, I am spreading the message, and am not afraid to voice my differences in opinion to people like Trump. But remember - you will benefit from the struggles you are given, as each one you pass, you have earned yourself a greater prize, one that on-one else can take away, rightfully earned.

    As to who to talk to, if you need someone to talk to, I'm here every once-in-a-while. But if you'd like some professional advice, an Imaam of your local mosque would be very helpful I think. They will be able to answer any questions you may have, like the ones you mentioned above, and give a genuine, professional answer.

    As a result, I feel very grateful for being born a Muslim - it has been very easy for me to get into learning about Islam, being tolerant, the reward of sacrificing this life for the hereafter. I really can't imagine me having to come into Islam from outside, especially with the media (and people like Farage & TRUMP https://static.thestudentroom.co.uk/...lies/angry.gif) slating Islam (and ISIS and these so called 'extreme Muslims' which they can't be if they're not following the actions of our prophet (SAW) anyway...)

    This is why I urge you to re-consider. I know it's a lot to take in, and you must be feeling very torn right now. I'm always be here if you need to PM and discuss things, but otherwise take the time to think over what Islam really stands for (it literally means 'submission'https://static.thestudentroom.co.uk/...ilies/wink.png. We are but a simple creation of Allah - he deserves to expect us to worship him, and rightly so. Without him, there would be no 'us'. {No TSR even, OMDS imagine that https://static.thestudentroom.co.uk/...ies/colone.gif}

    But seriously, if you wanna talk, I'll try and check my messages every-so often. Hope I've been any help https://static.thestudentroom.co.uk/.../smilies/h.gif

    Thank YOU for bothering to read all of THIS ^^^ http://static.tsrfiles.co.uk/images/smilies/clap2.gif

    (Some stuff to look at to help remind you of the beauty of Islam https://static.thestudentroom.co.uk/...lies/smile.png

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EVbcD0Vku_I
    http://thebeautyofislam.tumblr.com/
    https://www.islamreligion.com/articl...ties-of-islam/
    http://www.khilafah.com/the-sahaba/
    http://islamicpamphlets.com/why-isla...fits-of-islam/
    Thank you for putting in the effort in writing this post and I expect there to be a lot of backlash against you, so please don't think of it as an insult and move away from this forum or even stop speaking your mind.

    BUT..

    This is just a question please don't take any offence, but do you honestly think evolution is not true? All Darwin states is that the fittest will survive.

    You don't have to take it as man being the result of evolution but you must concede that if you have a group of any animal that are able to live the longest (by being faster, better at finding food etc...) will eventually have children and those children will share similar traits to their parents but will also be different than their parents and will have their own unique traits. While Animals that don't live as long will have a lower chance of breeding and won't pass on their traits.

    If you say that evolution is just a myth then no living creature has any choice in what ever it is doing. If we have no freedom then why are we being tested if we have no free will and people are just destined to go to heaven while others are doomed to hell?
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    (Original post by high)
    Thank you for putting in the effort in writing this post and I expect there to be a lot of backlash against you, so please don't think of it as an insult and move away from this forum or even stop speaking your mind.

    BUT..

    This is just a question please don't take any offence, but do you honestly think evolution is not true? All Darwin states is that the fittest will survive.

    You don't have to take it as man being the result of evolution but you must concede that if you have a group of any animal that are able to live the longest (by being faster, better at finding food etc...) will eventually have children and those children will share similar traits to their parents but will also be different than their parents and will have their own unique traits. While Animals that don't live as long will have a lower chance of breeding and won't pass on their traits.

    If you say that evolution is just a myth then no living creature has any choice in what ever it is doing. If we have no freedom then why are we being tested if we have no free will and people are just destined to go to heaven while others are doomed to hell?
    Thanks for the support and being so understanding

    I am also a scientist and do see the sense that Darwin's theory makes. It seems like it could be a likely explanation, with the evidence of isolation, fossils, etc.

    However, it is again just another human being simply explaining it in a way that we all accept and understand. Compared to God and his judgement and intelligence, we are incomparable I believe. He has a reason for everything that he does.

    I'm not saying that I think that the first man Adam (peace be upon him) was just like us appearance-wise such a long time ago. He may have looked much more different to us, but I still think that we did not descend from 'apes'. We may share a 90+% likeness in DNA and whatnot, but my religious text (the Qur'an) has so much in it that has been proved to be scientifically correct (and to this day, not a single thing has been deemed scientifically incorrect, but just ambiguous), that I choose to believe in Islam and what it says over what Darwin hypothesized.
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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EA9BDhcYsqc

    Does God exist? (Very long, so you could play in the background while working or just relaxing)
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      (Original post by BrainyBengali)
      I am also a scientist and do see the sense that Darwin's theory makes. It seems like it could be a likely explanation, with the evidence of isolation, fossils, etc.
      I still think that we did not descend from 'apes'.
      Are you sure that you actually know the theory? This second statement is pretty standard and usually betrays an ignorance of the theory. The understanding is that humans are not descended from apes; we share a common ancestor with them.

      my religious text (the Qur'an) has so much in it that has been proved to be scientifically correct (and to this day, not a single thing has been deemed scientifically incorrect, but just ambiguous), that I choose to believe in Islam and what it says over what Darwin hypothesized.
      This does make me doubt that you know what you're talking about. I don't consider myself particularly knowledgeable on this subject, but that's not a statement that can be made by someone who's aware of the arguments around scientific miracles in the Koran. It's not a new thing either - whatever your view on science in the Koran, it can't be said by anyone who knows about these things that no-one has ever deemed anything in the Koran to be at odds with current science. That goes back centuries.

      Out of interest, what kind of scientist are you? :holmes:
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        (Original post by BrainyBengali)
        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EA9BDhcYsqc

        Does God exist? (Very long, so you could play in the background while working or just relaxing)
        Sorry to quote you twice but, frankly, citing Naik is the most self-discrediting thing anyone arguing for Islam/God can do. It's a shame that you're taken in by a charlatan like him, because there are credible Muslim thinkers you could've cited instead. Ones who've actually read the arguments against their view instead of memorising the design argument - which has been refuted more times than you would care to count - and drip-feeding it to the flock, which is what Naik does.

        I would guess that you're fairly young and haven't had/read/seen many serious arguments about religion before. :holmes: If you're interested in some serious arguments about the existence of God, you should try more reputable scholars like Tariq Ramadan.
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        (Original post by Hydeman)
        Sorry to quote you twice but, frankly, citing Naik is the most self-discrediting thing anyone arguing for Islam/God can do. It's a shame that you're taken in by a charlatan like him, because there are credible Muslim thinkers you could've cited instead. Ones who've actually read the arguments against their view instead of memorising the design argument - which has been refuted more times than you would care to count - and drip-feeding it to the flock, which is what Naik does.

        I would guess that you're fairly young and haven't had/read/seen many serious arguments about religion before. :holmes: If you're interested in some serious arguments about the existence of God, you should try more reputable scholars like Tariq Ramadan.
        I am indeed relatively young and am open to whatever views you have. I will definitely have a look at Tariq's videos, thanks

        Sorry if I came across 'ignorant' in any way - I do not understand the opposing side's arguments fully and would like to better my understanding of their arguments.
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          (Original post by BrainyBengali)
          I am indeed relatively young and am open to whatever views you have. I will definitely have a look at Tariq's videos, thanks

          Sorry if I came across 'ignorant' in any way - I do not understand the opposing side's arguments fully and would like to better my understanding of their arguments.
          That's a good attitude to have. :yep: Hope I didn't come across too terse - if I did, it wasn't intentional.

          Also, Professor Ramadan isn't really in video-making business as far as I know. You can probably find videos of debates he's done on YouTube, though.
         
         
         
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