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    I'm hoping to go to Uni in September and terrified I won't make any friends.

    I'm the sort of person who gets on with most people but I don't actually have many proper friends.

    I'd say I have two really close friends from out of school, and an old friend I've known for ages (but who I don't really have deep convos with, we just have a laugh). Then at school I have five people who I hang out with, but sometimes I get the feeling they don't like me and are closer to each other than me.

    It takes me ages to open up to people and build close friendships. I can be so shy sometimes and I sometimes doubt I'll make friends.
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    I say you've got a better chance at making friends at uni than at school; purely because unis are [usually] larger and therefore you can find more people like yourself :P

    *And* I was quite quiet funnily enough, when I started my sixth form. However you open up and it's no longer a scary place!
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    (Original post by draculaura)
    I say you've got a better chance at making friends at uni than at school; purely because unis are [usually] larger and therefore you can find more people like yourself :P

    *And* I was quite quiet funnily enough, when I started my sixth form. However you open up and it's no longer a scary place!
    I agree! Also, it seems far more likely to make new friends when you're at University because you will be surrounded by people who are just like you. (I.e. they'll be taking the same course as you so you already have a go-to topic for an initial conversation)
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    Don't over think it. You're gonna start coming up with a load of "what ifs". There's gonna be loads of people in the same boat as you, and loads of different types of people in general. Your course is also a fab place to find mates, because you're all passionate about it.
    So yeah, don't start crystal ball gazing. You'll only know for sure when you get there
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    My advice is not to worry about it.

    A bad thing you can do is go out of your way to make friends at the beginning, you'll then spend faaar too long trying to get rid of some of the loser hanger-oners you've picked up.
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    Best advice is to make sure to live in university accommodations for at least one year.... two years would be great. Yes, if you get involved in societies and get to know the people in your course you'll get to know people but no where near as many as you'll meet if you live in the halls. I also think, if possible, live in a catered hall because you'll be out in the hall going for food and getting to see more people around. I don't think you'll have any problem with new friends. Also, I think that having a few good friends is preferable to having loads of acquaintances. Good Luck.
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    At uni. say hi to people and introduce yourself on freshers day. Also join clubs, societies and at lectures to people sitting next to you, say hi and ask them what they think about the topic etc.

    1) Relax, imagine you're just observing or there as a traveller lol.

    2) Smile, smiling in contagious.

    3) Be confident, respect yourself, work out, wear good clothes, feel good, focus on your passions, know you are a good person who treats people well, think positively, be proud of yourself, do things that make you happy.

    4) Dress well, have good grooming, hairstyle, have good posture.

    5) Just say hi or hey to people in your vicinity, who cares if they don't say anything back?

    6) Ask how they are, how's everything, what made them choose this course, their plans for the future, their plans for the rest of the day, weekend, how was their weekend, what they will get up to, ask them about their hobbies, be charming.

    7) Be passionate about life, how will you occupy your time, this is important, have things to do outside of uni.

    8) Lighten up, have a laugh, laugh easily, be friendly, interested, relaxed.

    I'll be your friend .
 
 
 
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