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    In this scenario what would you do?

    when someone you were once so close to contacts you after a long time

    and they're the only person in the world who wants a conversation with you and never forgot about you

    but you cut each other off a year ago

    you reply and have a little catch up, they're charismatic and it's nice to hear from them and speak to somebody who cares

    do you bother to reconnect again knowing that it'll only be temporary and you may eventually get hurt by this person like last time?

    or do decide to stay distant and just not reply for a second conversation and go back to being sad and lonely, but keep checking your phone wishing they'd message again?
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    Follow your heart. I would probably go for it, but then I tend to make a lot of mistakes. Some say always look forward, never backwards which might well be good advice too.
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    (Original post by Zarek)
    Follow your heart. I would probably go for it, but then I tend to make a lot of mistakes. Some say always look forward, never backwards which might well be good advice too.
    Thank you. I ended the conversation this morning before work and never responded to the reply after that.

    As much as I appreciate that they made the effort to speak to me, It just isn't worth getting involved all over again. Especially when this person has loads of attention and people chasing after them, I don't really understand why I was contacted, it has messed with my head.

    Just wanted to know what other people would do in this situation
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    In my opinion it isn't worth it, you'll only get hurt again and I have been through this many times, it hurts.
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    Yeah water under the bridge I'd rather be lonely forever than go back wistfully and whimsically to old ground.
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    (Original post by Rhythmical)
    In my opinion it isn't worth it, you'll only get hurt again and I have been through this many times, it hurts.
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    It already hurts to have to forget about them all over again after that catch up
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    If you say you'll end up getting attached and experience the hurt all over again, might as well just leave before it happens.
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    Leave and be lonely is the smart/less hurtful advice. The ol' "Stay and get hurt" used to appeal to me. :dunce:



    Depends how old you are :flower2:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    In this scenario what would you do?

    when someone you were once so close to contacts you after a long time

    and they're the only person in the world who wants a conversation with you and never forgot about you

    but you cut each other off a year ago

    you reply and have a little catch up, they're charismatic and it's nice to hear from them and speak to somebody who cares

    do you bother to reconnect again knowing that it'll only be temporary and you may eventually get hurt by this person like last time?

    or do decide to stay distant and just not reply for a second conversation and go back to being sad and lonely, but keep checking your phone wishing they'd message again?
    people always change, never have an ego and go for it, talk about it and make a mutual agreement and go for it... let destiny swing it in the direction its meant to go.
 
 
 
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