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    I'm gonna keep this relatively short and to the point:

    Been talking for a couple months now with a guy I really like (we initially met through a mutual friend). I'm getting the feeling he likes me back too, although still not 100% sure. We've met up twice since then, both being very "date-like" although not explicitly said as such.

    Fast forward now and it's my birthday which I've invited him to, but now he says he's unable to attend. It's just a simple dinner with friends, but I'm still pretty disappointed.

    My real question is, would it be weird for me to offer to cover the cost of his meal? I don't know if it sounds endearing or just creepy

    Any, and all, advice would be appreciated!
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    Did he specifically say he can't afford it? If so then I think it's fine to offer to pay. If he only said he can't make it then it could sound a little pushy, like you're trying to bribe him.
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    I don't think it sounds creepy, no
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    (Original post by Nadile)
    Did he specifically say he can't afford it? If so then I think it's fine to offer to pay. If he only said he can't make it then it could sound a little pushy, like you're trying to bribe him.
    Yeah, he did mention it was a money issue In that case, it should be ok....I hope. Just wondering how to phrase it now.
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    It would give a clue your keen which is good, but you would need to find a way of phrasing it that doesn't hurt his manly pride. Why not just ask him out, then you know where you stand.
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    (Original post by Zarek)
    It would give a clue your keen which is good, but you would need to find a way of phrasing it that doesn't hurt his manly pride. Why not just ask him out, then you know where you stand.
    Can't see how a free meal is going to hurt anyone's pride tbh lol.
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    (Original post by ChickenMadness)
    Can't see how a free meal is going to hurt anyone's pride tbh lol.
    Personally while I love a gift, I would also like to have enough money to pay for myself.
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    Ok, I've asked him. Just waiting for a reply now....

    And I totally understand the sentiments about hurting his pride....personally I like being able to pay for myself, but I also wanted to make it clear that I value his company on my birthday more so than whatever that might cost.

    But if he's like me.....then he may just refuse
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    Tell him you'd like to make time to spend with him that won't cost either of you anything. Do something inexpensive or free that allows for interaction between you. Go on a walk.
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    (Original post by Loka_94)
    Ok, I've asked him. Just waiting for a reply now....

    And I totally understand the sentiments about hurting his pride....personally I like being able to pay for myself, but I also wanted to make it clear that I value his company on my birthday more so than whatever that might cost.

    But if he's like me.....then he may just refuse
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    Tell him you'd like to make time to spend with him that won't cost either of you anything. Do something inexpensive or free that allows for interaction between you. Go on a walk.
    This. If he refuses then ask if he'd like to just hang out at some point instead.
 
 
 
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