Okay, so I'm in my second year of university facing having to go back tomorrow after the Christmas holidays and quite frankly, as always, I'm in tears over it and have been since I woke up this morning. It's now midday.
I've been this way since I started to be honest, the worst I've been is when I had to start again in September after the summer - I pretty much sobbed over that, begging my parents not to take me back.
I have no clue as to what to do about it and why I'm feeling this way - I have friends who I live with there, I enjoy my course for the most part and am doing something I enjoy, I go and see relatives nearby every other weekend...but it's just the living away from home. I really cannot shake it and it's making me feel awful.
I spend my days there counting down until I next see my family, I Skype them quite often, most days if I can. I would go home more often if I didn't live a seven hour train journey away...
If it's relevant: I have anxiety, and had therapy and counselling for awhile before I started university - I wonder if maybe that's a contributing factor to how I feel. I also tend to feel rather lonely in university despite having friends there. I have a very close-knit family unit back at home, along with a friend unit I've had since primary school or early high school - my family and friends at home are my rock and I don't feel that I have that at university. I know it's impossible to forge those sorts of friendships there in such a short space of time, so I'm really unsure of how to tackle that.
Also, leaving or transferring universities isn't really an option either, I might have taken the transfer option if there were any decent universities near me that do the course I want (or wasn't already halfway through my current course), but I also can't bare being this unhappy. I've contemplated going to the counselling services in university, I've also contemplated dedicating a few days a term between study weeks and holidays to going home, I'm just not sure if these solutions really are, well, solutions to my problem.
At this point any advice will be welcome, maybe even a fresh pair of eyes on the situation is all I need to kick me up the ass. I don't know. But what I do know is, I can't be this codependent upon my family for the rest of my life - there is nothing for me at home realistically, but I don't want to be unhappy simultaneously.
Bad Case of Homesickness? Watch
- Thread Starter
- 07-01-2017 13:33
- Thread Starter
- 07-01-2017 19:56
Wow. Seven hours is so far away...
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