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    Hi guys,

    I really don't know what to do.

    It’s quite a long post so bare with me.

    I had initially gone to a university in 2013 and did this for 2 years. I first did a degree that I didn't like but was able to transfer straight into 2nd year on a degree I much more enjoyed. I was suffering from depression and anxiety however I managed to cope with it as I found very good friends. The problem is at the very end of the year I managed to fail a core module due to having an illness and having certain events come up that severely affected my ability to work and after this I lost all hope, I thought to myself that I could not re-take that whole year again, I felt so sick as I did well in all other modules. I had it in my mind that I didn’t like the university that much anyway and I felt like I didn't get the right experience that most other people do.

    I decided to take the year out (essentially leave) to recuperate on the problems that I was suffering with and worked on my own projects to see how well they could do. After this year of going to my gp and taking sessions to help with my mental health I decided to re-apply for University again at a different place and do the best I could and learn the skills from first year.

    As much as I prefer this new university and its a little bit closer to home I have had a really bad time here. I couldn't help but think that I was backtracking and just wasting even more time and money. Also I do not get along with my flatmates at all, they are really horrible to me and have made my time here pretty **** I just feel incompetent and awful.

    Little did I know, after speaking with my tutors at the new university that I was able to appeal for my old university and just only take 2 modules for the year (I really wish I knew this before). I decided to take this advice and low and behold I was granted the appeal, however the modules I need to take will be capped at D- which is really bad.

    My question is do I now carry on with my new university or do I go back to my old university? What looks best for employers? I know I have messed up and I cannot believe it. It was stupid of me.

    I’m currently very behind with work at the new university and I have also been given a money scholarship for each year whilst being here due to academic excellence. I’m also quite old now (24 so pushing it a bit) and my peers know this and find it a bit odd and have somewhat distanced themselves from me. I haven't really made many friends on the course or in general and I see others on the degree in groups already.

    I’m terrified to do either options at the moment. If I go back, I will do it quicker and it will be less straining but I will have no friends there anymore and will be going into third year basically on my own which I will have a really tough time with as I already suffer from social anxiety and depression and bear in mind I wont get the greatest of marks because of the capping and I know I'll suffer having no friends whilst doing that last year.

    Or I have to do it at the new university even longer and go through the whole first and second year again, where again I haven't made many friends and have had a bad time. I’m quite honestly done with education and very fed up. The degrees are pretty much identical too.

    What is my best option here and what will employers look better on in general? I’ve been losing so much sleep over it all and have been incredibly stressed, anxious and unhappy. I’ve made some stupid decisions and don’t want to continue to make them again.

    Thanks guys I’d be so greatful if you could help
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    (Original post by Sinteno)
    Hi guys,

    I really don't know what to do.

    It’s quite a long post so bare with me.

    I had initially gone to a university in 2013 and did this for 2 years. I first did a degree that I didn't like but was able to transfer straight into 2nd year on a degree I much more enjoyed. I was suffering from depression and anxiety however I managed to cope with it as I found very good friends. The problem is at the very end of the year I managed to fail a core module due to having an illness and having certain events come up that severely affected my ability to work and after this I lost all hope, I thought to myself that I could not re-take that whole year again, I felt so sick as I did well in all other modules. I had it in my mind that I didn’t like the university that much anyway and I felt like I didn't get the right experience that most other people do.

    I decided to take the year out (essentially leave) to recuperate on the problems that I was suffering with and worked on my own projects to see how well they could do. After this year of going to my gp and taking sessions to help with my mental health I decided to re-apply for University again at a different place and do the best I could and learn the skills from first year.

    As much as I prefer this new university and its a little bit closer to home I have had a really bad time here. I couldn't help but think that I was backtracking and just wasting even more time and money. Also I do not get along with my flatmates at all, they are really horrible to me and have made my time here pretty **** I just feel incompetent and awful.

    Little did I know, after speaking with my tutors at the new university that I was able to appeal for my old university and just only take 2 modules for the year (I really wish I knew this before). I decided to take this advice and low and behold I was granted the appeal, however the modules I need to take will be capped at D- which is really bad.

    My question is do I now carry on with my new university or do I go back to my old university? What looks best for employers? I know I have messed up and I cannot believe it. It was stupid of me.

    I’m currently very behind with work at the new university and I have also been given a money scholarship for each year whilst being here due to academic excellence. I’m also quite old now (24 so pushing it a bit) and my peers know this and find it a bit odd and have somewhat distanced themselves from me. I haven't really made many friends on the course or in general and I see others on the degree in groups already.

    I’m terrified to do either options at the moment. If I go back, I will do it quicker and it will be less straining but I will have no friends there anymore and will be going into third year basically on my own which I will have a really tough time with as I already suffer from social anxiety and depression and bear in mind I wont get the greatest of marks because of the capping and I know I'll suffer having no friends whilst doing that last year.

    Or I have to do it at the new university even longer and go through the whole first and second year again, where again I haven't made many friends and have had a bad time. I’m quite honestly done with education and very fed up. The degrees are pretty much identical too.

    What is my best option here and what will employers look better on in general? I’ve been losing so much sleep over it all and have been incredibly stressed, anxious and unhappy. I’ve made some stupid decisions and don’t want to continue to make them again.

    Thanks guys I’d be so greatful if you could help
    I think you have to consider that because of tuition fees, you need to stick with going into third year as you can't get the other option funded.
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    I think you have to consider that because of tuition fees, you need to stick with going into third year as you can't get the other option funded.
    Thank you for your reply, however I am actually funded for the whole duration of this new degree too. Any thoughts still what is best?
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    (Original post by Sinteno)
    Thank you for your reply, however I am actually funded for the whole duration of this new degree too. Any thoughts still what is best?
    Whichever you think does your health the least damage then
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    Go for the option which makes you more comfortable.

    In terms of friends, I believe if you put effort in socialising you will definitely get to know someone.
 
 
 
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