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    Hi!

    I don't know how to make this short, but i'll try. After high school, i wasn't accepted to Uni, because my grades were not exactly ideal. I spent a year basically just sitting home, trying to find a job till next september. I hardly did anything, i wasn't exactly a social person either. So i eventually got into Uni, but it was pretty *****y. I wasn't feeling well somehow, hardly did any socializing, basically i went to classes (but skipped a whole lot, too) and went straight home. I went there for 2-2,5 years and eventually dropped out. I also took some time between these 2,5 years, so i was around 23 when i dropped out. I searched for a job and found a decent one, regardless of my lack of degree or experience. Now i'm forking for 2,5 years and turning 26 in a few months.

    My last year was pretty good, i went out much more, tried to date a few girls, stuff like that. Now my days are more or less good, pursuing a software developer career while working. But i cannot shake this feeling that i missed out on a lot, like socializing, traveling, maybe studying abroad, like the whole "university life", making friendships that last long, partying, you know. And i can't even tell that i played it safe, since i dropped out, so..

    I know that 26 is not the end of the world, but it feels like everyone did a lot more and i don't know how to move forward from this. I'm just planning to move out of my parents' house and very likely will have a job with a good salary, compared to other people of my age group. I don't want to work, and don't get this in the wrong way. I'm very passionate about programming, but i'm afraid that when i start doing that, "it will be that", you know.. from that point forward, i'll be working and that's it, no more freedom like younger people have.

    The worst thing is i don't know what exactly that i'm missing, so i could go out and change it. I know that i don't want to go back to the university per se, because there would be much younger people (17/18) and i don't want that. I'm also not worried about my education, because i know enough to land a good job without a degree. Maybe this will all change with socializing more, but i'm terrified that it won't. I don't want to end up one of those people with regrets and i don't see how this is something you can change.
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    No matter what path you choose you'll miss out on something. Some uni students such as myself regret uni completely and feel like we've missed out on starting work early and gaining experience from a younger age. Grass is always greener.

    Focus on what you're going to do, not what you haven't done.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    No matter what path you choose you'll miss out on something. Some uni students such as myself regret uni completely and feel like we've missed out on starting work early and gaining experience from a younger age. Grass is always greener.

    Focus on what you're going to do, not what you haven't done.
    Yes, but work experience is not that big of a deal, you can always work on that, while you can't really make up for 10 years of not socializing (didn't do too much in high school, either). I'd rather have a useless art degree (no offense to anyone) with a *****y job and experiences than this feeling.
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    It's sounds like you feel unfulfilled maybe ? Like there's something missing but we can't locate what it is ?
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    Too long, didn't read!
    Make it shorter and include dokers and ill read
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    (Original post by chris_mm)
    Hi!

    I don't know how to make this short, but i'll try. After high school, i wasn't accepted to Uni, because my grades were not exactly ideal. I spent a year basically just sitting home, trying to find a job till next september. I hardly did anything, i wasn't exactly a social person either. So i eventually got into Uni, but it was pretty *****y. I wasn't feeling well somehow, hardly did any socializing, basically i went to classes (but skipped a whole lot, too) and went straight home. I went there for 2-2,5 years and eventually dropped out. I also took some time between these 2,5 years, so i was around 23 when i dropped out. I searched for a job and found a decent one, regardless of my lack of degree or experience. Now i'm forking for 2,5 years and turning 26 in a few months.

    My last year was pretty good, i went out much more, tried to date a few girls, stuff like that. Now my days are more or less good, pursuing a software developer career while working. But i cannot shake this feeling that i missed out on a lot, like socializing, traveling, maybe studying abroad, like the whole "university life", making friendships that last long, partying, you know. And i can't even tell that i played it safe, since i dropped out, so..

    I know that 26 is not the end of the world, but it feels like everyone did a lot more and i don't know how to move forward from this. I'm just planning to move out of my parents' house and very likely will have a job with a good salary, compared to other people of my age group. I don't want to work, and don't get this in the wrong way. I'm very passionate about programming, but i'm afraid that when i start doing that, "it will be that", you know.. from that point forward, i'll be working and that's it, no more freedom like younger people have.

    The worst thing is i don't know what exactly that i'm missing, so i could go out and change it. I know that i don't want to go back to the university per se, because there would be much younger people (17/18) and i don't want that. I'm also not worried about my education, because i know enough to land a good job without a degree. Maybe this will all change with socializing more, but i'm terrified that it won't. I don't want to end up one of those people with regrets and i don't see how this is something you can change.

    It's never too late to go to uni, I'm 21 and doing an access course and most people on my course are 25-36.
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    (Original post by Supernova91)
    It's sounds like you feel unfulfilled maybe ? Like there's something missing but we can't locate what it is ?
    I'm quite sure it's the socializing part of my life what's missing, as i'm sure of my career path and also have a lot of hobbies, not much left besides that i think.

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    It's never too late to go to uni, I'm 21 and doing an access course and most people on my course are 25-36.
    As i said, i'm not sure how going back would help as i don't have a problem with the lack of my education. I wouldn't party with the 18 year olds, that's for sure.
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    (Original post by chris_mm)
    I'm quite sure it's the socializing part of my life what's missing, as i'm sure of my career path and also have a lot of hobbies, not much left besides that i think.



    As i said, i'm not sure how going back would help as i don't have a problem with the lack of my education. I wouldn't party with the 18 year olds, that's for sure.
    Most of 25-27 years old people on my class party every day after class with the young ones, but I never went to a party of my life because of my culture and I don't feel like I'm missing anything.
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    (Original post by chris_mm)
    I'm quite sure it's the socializing part of my life what's missing, as i'm sure of my career path and also have a lot of hobbies, not much left besides that i think.

    Socialising in what sense ? Going out and partying ?

    On a side note , did u not have friends from school / work to go out with ?
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    (Original post by chris_mm)
    Yes, but work experience is not that big of a deal, you can always work on that, while you can't really make up for 10 years of not socializing (didn't do too much in high school, either). I'd rather have a useless art degree (no offense to anyone) with a *****y job and experiences than this feeling.

    Many employers would disagree. And while yes you can always work on it and start somewhere, it means I will be just starting out with work experience at the age of 22 and will have to climb for quite a few years likely before I get any semblance of a steady reliable job. If I had started working at a younger age I could have been getting started much earlier in life. This has implication in my goals and what I want to do with my life (want to travel, which means I'll be adding yet more years before I get anything close to stable).

    Like I said grass is always greener. Different experience, different perspectives and different outcomes.

    Instead of feeling sorry for yourself and thinking you're the only one to feel regret about your life choices (you're not). focus on the future and do something about it. Because this thread and wallowing on not having had that isn't helping you is it?

    Start socialising now. Stop moaning about not having socialised 10 years ago.

    Now is the second best time to get started.
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    (Original post by Supernova91)
    Socialising in what sense ? Going out and partying ?
    Yes, the whole stuff. Partying, making friends, studying together, girls, etc.


    (Original post by Supernova91)
    On a side note , did u not have friends from school / work to go out with ?
    Yes, i did, but i guess i didn't spend enough time with them to have a really deep connection, i've never felt i belong to those circles. Always wanted something else or something more. It was easier to stick to my old friends, even i didn't feel that good with them anymore than to try to make new ones.


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    I'm just not sure what the problem is exactly and simply "going out" would solve it.
 
 
 
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