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    My dad died 3 years ago and although my family seem to have moved on I'm still struggling to deal with it. I still feel like it has just happened and I'm still stuck in that numb phase where it just doesn't seem real. I'm just finding it more and more difficult to get through everyday and I feel like I should be past this point
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    Have you considering speaking to a breavemrnt counsellor? Everyone does grieve at different rates and I was still quite numb at the 3 year point myself, last year was the first time I didn't burst into tears on his death day and that had taken me 12 years to get to that point.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My dad died 3 years ago and although my family seem to have moved on I'm still struggling to deal with it. I still feel like it has just happened and I'm still stuck in that numb phase where it just doesn't seem real. I'm just finding it more and more difficult to get through everyday and I feel like I should be past this point
    You may like to see a therapist. Grieving can be very different for different people, but it does seem unusual for it to last this long. I was told it usually lasts up to a year.
    It is pretty common for grieving or other tragic or traumatic events to cause bigger issues or lead to things like depression. In that case it would be normal for you to have lingering feelings and not be able to move on how others have.

    Therapy can help you to understand your feelings and where they come from as well as work through them. You can access it through you GP or privately and I believe that on the NHS you can self-refer to Time To Talk. You can also look into counselling which you do not need a referral for.
    You may also find sites like mind.org and sane.org helpful. They focus on mh issues like depression, but may also have information and advice on grieving.
 
 
 
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