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    I keep obsessing about the thought that I'm a year behind and it makes me feel awful.

    Basically, I done my GCSEs in 2014 but didn't really realise that I would have a life after secondary school, so at the last minute I decided to go and do performing arts at college. That didn't work out so I went back to my school to do A Levels, but I ended up being a week and a half behind and didn't go regularly because of anxiety since I ended up losing all of my friends, so I couldn't catch up with the fast paced work and the teachers told me that I had to drop out after the first term. After this I quickly decided I wanted to do media in college instead so spent 9 months waiting for the new school year to join a Level 3 course in 2015.

    Now I'm a term away from finishing my college course and have just sent off my UCAS application, but all of my old friends from secondary school went to uni in 2016. Even though I have new friends who are either my age or older than me at college, I feel pretty crap because I'm essentially a year behind because I was made to drop out. I know a lot of people either resit a year of 6th Form or do a Level 2 college course before doing Level 3, or they take a gap year, but I'm still just upset because I could be at university now.

    My birthday is in July so it's not like I'm that much older than anyone anyway, but it's just annoying because this one thing from when I was 16 has practically determined my life for the past 2 years. I guess it's for the best because I've made better friends by being at college and realised the school ones weren't my true friends. I try to think about how everyone sets their own pace and it's okay to take my own time because it's only a year, and because I'll be a year older I might be more ready to go than if I had gone when I'd only just turned 18, but it doesn't really work. Because then I think about how if I went when I was 18, by the time I'd graduate I'd only be 20, just about to turn 21, and could start my life quicker by being in my early 20s. Even though I'd only be 21, just about to turn 22, by the time I graduate anyway.

    Is anyone else in the same situation? How do you make these thoughts go away?
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    literally thousands of people take gap years every year, dont worry about it
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    I am 4 years behind.... and i feel your pain. in Second year of uni now and i don't understand these 18-19 years old at all
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    I'm 1/2 years behind because I took a foundation year and my course is an integrated masters pretty much by necessity. It's a bit annoying but not too bad, a lot of my home friends took gap years or are also on integrated masters so I'm a year behind them, then there are the other home friends which went out and got careers who I'm 3/4 years behind, then there are the uni friends that I started with who graduated last year while I've got 2 years to go. It's given me a bit more time to think about and prepare for what I want to do and there are new opportunities to make new friends at uni.

    Your situation will be easier than mine though as you're starting uni at the same time as your college friends and you'll be graduating with the group of friends you started uni with, you'll be fine.
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    I was hospitalised for a couple of years as a teenager and will be 24 when I graduate uni as a result. You can't spend your time worrying about how old you are when you achieve certain things, because everyone lives a different lift and there are different factors affecting everyone's achievements. Two of my uni friends will be 26 and 29 when we graduate due to various personal reasons. It is only a set back if you let it become a setback (and yours really isn't, given that most people take a gap year before uni so you'll probably be the same age as most people on your course anyway).
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    Hey, I faced myself in a similar situation, already a year behind and will be another year behind as I plan to take a gap year. I took the wrong A Levels and have to fix up my mistake and will start university at age 20 and graduate at 23 and honestly I won't lie, I do feel angry and upset but then I think this is so normal tbh, you don't have to go to university at age 18 and there are plenty of mature students at universities and people the same age as you.
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    (Original post by lotthamm)
    I keep obsessing about the thought that I'm a year behind and it makes me feel awful.

    Basically, I done my GCSEs in 2014 but didn't really realise that I would have a life after secondary school, so at the last minute I decided to go and do performing arts at college. That didn't work out so I went back to my school to do A Levels, but I ended up being a week and a half behind and didn't go regularly because of anxiety since I ended up losing all of my friends, so I couldn't catch up with the fast paced work and the teachers told me that I had to drop out after the first term. After this I quickly decided I wanted to do media in college instead so spent 9 months waiting for the new school year to join a Level 3 course in 2015.

    Now I'm a term away from finishing my college course and have just sent off my UCAS application, but all of my old friends from secondary school went to uni in 2016. Even though I have new friends who are either my age or older than me at college, I feel pretty crap because I'm essentially a year behind because I was made to drop out. I know a lot of people either resit a year of 6th Form or do a Level 2 college course before doing Level 3, or they take a gap year, but I'm still just upset because I could be at university now.

    My birthday is in July so it's not like I'm that much older than anyone anyway, but it's just annoying because this one thing from when I was 16 has practically determined my life for the past 2 years. I guess it's for the best because I've made better friends by being at college and realised the school ones weren't my true friends. I try to think about how everyone sets their own pace and it's okay to take my own time because it's only a year, and because I'll be a year older I might be more ready to go than if I had gone when I'd only just turned 18, but it doesn't really work. Because then I think about how if I went when I was 18, by the time I'd graduate I'd only be 20, just about to turn 21, and could start my life quicker by being in my early 20s. Even though I'd only be 21, just about to turn 22, by the time I graduate anyway.

    Is anyone else in the same situation? How do you make these thoughts go away?
    I really don't understand why you're upset? What difference does it make?
    From someone who has almost finished their uni degree, and took a gap year so was "a year behind" as you put it... you are literally upset about nothing... honestly you're being ridiculous so you just need to tell yourself to stop being ridiculous?
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    I really don't understand why you're upset? What difference does it make?
    From someone who has almost finished their uni degree, and took a gap year so was "a year behind" as you put it... you are literally upset about nothing... honestly you're being ridiculous so you just need to tell yourself to stop being ridiculous?
    I am not voluntarily a year behind. I would be okay with it if I took a gap year because I am choosing to do so, but I'm not, I was made to be a year behind. It upsets me because I think about my old friends and where I could be now because if I had done 2 years of college/A Levels straight out of GCSEs I might have been ready to go last September. I know that I should just stop worrying about it because there's nothing that I can do about it and it was probably for the best, but it's easier than done. It might be nothing to you, but it's something to me... it's not ridiculous, which is kind of rude to say imo. I didn't come on here just for someone to tell me that my worries aren't relevant and stupid.
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    (Original post by Quiet Benin)
    I am 4 years behind.... and i feel your pain. in Second year of uni now and i don't understand these 18-19 years old at all
    My brother was 4 years behind too. I'm glad that I'm not going to be 4 years behind and thankful that I'm one of the youngest so I'll only just turn 19 when I go to uni so I'll only be a few months older than a lot of the people coming from straight out of school! You're in the same year as my 19 year old brother too, but surely being a more mature student has its benefits? You can make friends and relate more to older students instead! People my age are usually immature, so I wouldn't worry about trying to befriend us if you don't want to. Although we can be nice if you want to I don't even have an interest in socialising much in uni with people my age!
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    (Original post by Rhythmical)
    Hey, I faced myself in a similar situation, already a year behind and will be another year behind as I plan to take a gap year. I took the wrong A Levels and have to fix up my mistake and will start university at age 20 and graduate at 23 and honestly I won't lie, I do feel angry and upset but then I think this is so normal tbh, you don't have to go to university at age 18 and there are plenty of mature students at universities and people the same age as you.
    Yep that is very true, thank you! When you say you won't graduate until you're 23, to me that sounds very young still and doesn't make think anything like "why didn't you go straight out of school", so I'm not sure why I'm worry about the fact that I'll be 21 or 22 if I take a year abroad when I graduate! I guess it's just because I liked the thought of doing education all in one and going from one thing to another thing and then finally graduating from a 3 year BA course when I'm 20. Ah well, nothing to be done. I need to stop thinking about it lol.
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    (Original post by GoingToBurst)
    I was hospitalised for a couple of years as a teenager and will be 24 when I graduate uni as a result. You can't spend your time worrying about how old you are when you achieve certain things, because everyone lives a different lift and there are different factors affecting everyone's achievements. Two of my uni friends will be 26 and 29 when we graduate due to various personal reasons. It is only a set back if you let it become a setback (and yours really isn't, given that most people take a gap year before uni so you'll probably be the same age as most people on your course anyway).
    That's very true - it's only a setback if I let it become a setback. Thank you.
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    I'm a year behind, not a problem for me
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    lol this is the most non issue thing I've heard. You don't even qualify as a mature student. #firstworldproblems.
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    (Original post by Helloworld_95)
    I'm 1/2 years behind because I took a foundation year and my course is an integrated masters pretty much by necessity. It's a bit annoying but not too bad, a lot of my home friends took gap years or are also on integrated masters so I'm a year behind them, then there are the other home friends which went out and got careers who I'm 3/4 years behind, then there are the uni friends that I started with who graduated last year while I've got 2 years to go. It's given me a bit more time to think about and prepare for what I want to do and there are new opportunities to make new friends at uni.

    Your situation will be easier than mine though as you're starting uni at the same time as your college friends and you'll be graduating with the group of friends you started uni with, you'll be fine.
    Yeah that's a good point that you got time to think and prepare, that's definitely a pro of having to have a year out. I'm a little jealous of you though lol because at least you were doing education. I wouldn't mind if I was a year out because I done a foundation degree or maybe even a level 2 course at college. I guess I was doing something though by thinking about exactly what I want to do with my future in the year I didn't do anything.
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    (Original post by Pikachū)
    literally thousands of people take gap years every year, dont worry about it
    I know, and I know none of my peers will care or the teachers, because at least I am still trying to make something of my life and doing uni. I know I shouldn't worry about it! It's good to know that I'm not the only one though, thanks.
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    I'm a year behind, not a problem for me
    Thanks for telling me! I'm glad it's not a problem for you and I hope it's not a problem for me either. I know it won't be a problem in reality, it's just something I ruminate on.
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    lol this is the most non issue thing I've heard. You don't even qualify as a mature student. #firstworldproblems.
    It might not be an issue for you, but it's an issue for me. Don't demean someone else's worries and thoughts just because they don't apply to you.
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    I'm a year behind as well. Most of my schoolmates will star Uni in 2017 and I will start in 2018. I know how you feel but you'll get over it just like me
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    (Original post by lotthamm)
    It might not be an issue for you, but it's an issue for me. Don't demean someone else's worries and thoughts just because they don't apply to you.
    I took a gap year :dontknow: No one will even know or care about your age. There are people in their 30s on my course. Unless you look like a wrinkly 19 year old no one will know.
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    (Original post by Tai Ga)
    I took a gap year :dontknow: No one will even know or care about your age. There are people in their 30s on my course. Unless you look like a wrinkly 19 year old no one will know.
    I know that no one will care, it's just the fact that I personally care because of the points in my life in which I want to achieve particular goals such as graduating uni. It will be a year later than I originally hoped.
 
 
 
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