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    So i've been dating this boy for about a month im 22 he's 20, we're both really attracted to each other and love being around each other however I am naturally a really quiet/awkward/ shy girl usually when im first getting to know someone or when i really like someone i get anxious, it's something i literally can't control and sometimes i feel it can make me seem rude or boring anyway the boy im seeing keeps bringing up that im still really awkward or shy (even when i think im not) and is starting to make me feel really bad about myself and my own personality. He's incredibly confident and is so outgoing he's more like someone from geordie shore like a laddish type of guy and i think most of the girls he's dated have been like that like loud mouth and gobby I think maybe by the way i look he thought i would be like that too but im not, im way more reserved and hate loud girls. I really want to carry on seeing him but at the same time it he makes me feel bad about a part of my personality, should i carry on seeing him? ..
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    I can relate to this a lot , takes me a while to relax when I'm with a new person. This is just part of your personality , not a bad thing at all, just part of the package that makes you you. As your significant other , he should respect this and understand your feelings. If he was a nice enough guy , talking to him about it should make him realise and then stop doing the things to make you feel bad. If you're anything like me , you will relax eventually , just takes time . Let him know this , and if he can't wait then maybe he's not right for you. Hopefully , though, he'll respect your feelings and understand !!
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    What is your question.
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    If it bothers him that much, then why is he with you? Genuinely don't understand people who constantly whinge about their partner, if you're not happy with the way they are then don't stay with them, genius...
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    (Original post by Supernova91)
    I can relate to this a lot , takes me a while to relax when I'm with a new person. This is just part of your personality , not a bad thing at all, just part of the package that makes you you. As your significant other , he should respect this and understand your feelings. If he was a nice enough guy , talking to him about it should make him realise and then stop doing the things to make you feel bad. If you're anything like me , you will relax eventually , just takes time . Let him know this , and if he can't wait then maybe he's not right for you. Hopefully , though, he'll respect your feelings and understand !!
    thank you,glad im not the only one i think people just think its normal now to be loud and gobby and forget a lot of people are naturally awkward sometimes..
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    Perhaps he isn't commenting to insult you? Maybe the next time he mentions it you could be like 'does it bother you that I'm quiet?' and see. If it actually bothers him I can't see why he's with you... quiet people usually open up when they get to know someone but they don't suddenly go from quiet to loud/outgoing.
 
 
 
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