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    I worked so, so, hard in school (like unbelievably long hours every day, for years) - all to feel like this.
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    This might feel more patronising than helpful, so sorry in advance, but are you depressed? I don't just mean 'down in the dumps' but literally suffering from depression? Because, if so, there's a chance many people really do think you're alright as a person but you would feel far too detached and stressed to notice.

    I remember falling into depression when a friend died. I was so so detached, I felt like everyone hated me and that I was a burden and no one liked me because they all stopped talking to me. The reality was that I looked unapproachable, people thought I needed space and looking back I now realise it was me pushing them away, not the other way around.

    Furthermore, you'd have got onto the course you have based on existing evidence you could do the course - this is open to interpretation because that isn't always an accurate way to tell whether or not someone is university ready. However, there will have been an indication you deserved your place on that course - remind yourself this.

    Lastly, if you do have depression, it affects your sleep, concentration levels, esteem and so much else that could lead you to think you aren't 'smart' enough and not perform to your full capabilities. I may be wrong but you do sound more than a little 'sad' to me, more like you want to give up.
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    I suggest you try to join some societies, taking a break and allowing your brain to have a little down time might be good in terms of getting back on track with your degree. Maybe do study groups with people doing the same course?
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    (Original post by DailyMailIsALiar)
    I worked so, so, hard in school (like unbelievably long hours every day, for years) - all to feel like this.
    It will get better.
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    (Original post by ShannyMorrison)
    This might feel more patronising than helpful, so sorry in advance, but are you depressed? I don't just mean 'down in the dumps' but literally suffering from depression? Because, if so, there's a chance many people really do think you're alright as a person but you would feel far too detached and stressed to notice.

    I remember falling into depression when a friend died. I was so so detached, I felt like everyone hated me and that I was a burden and no one liked me because they all stopped talking to me. The reality was that I looked unapproachable, people thought I needed space and looking back I now realise it was me pushing them away, not the other way around.

    Furthermore, you'd have got onto the course you have based on existing evidence you could do the course - this is open to interpretation because that isn't always an accurate way to tell whether or not someone is university ready. However, there will have been an indication you deserved your place on that course - remind yourself this.

    Lastly, if you do have depression, it affects your sleep, concentration levels, esteem and so much else that could lead you to think you aren't 'smart' enough and not perform to your full capabilities. I may be wrong but you do sound more than a little 'sad' to me, more like you want to give up.
    Your second paragraph is spot on, in terms of describing how I feel right now. I just feel that everyone hates me.
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    (Original post by DailyMailIsALiar)
    Your second paragraph is spot on, in terms of describing how I feel right now. I just feel that everyone hates me.
    Yet, I bet you can't list genuine reasons as to why people would hate you. Chances are you appear introverted and so people aren't sure how to approach you. In this case, I'd try out this:

    1. Give a stranger a random compliment. If you can approach a person you do not know yet say something nice about them, that will probably indicate that you aren't necessarily shy but misunderstood. If you struggle to do this and feel like you're being weird/creepy and feel embarrassed, chances are you are actually shy and therefore, you have found your problem.

    2. Give someone you know a compliment. You can look to their expression to see what their opinion of you is. Do they warmly smile when you say something nice? They don't think anything bad of you. Do they try and avoid you for it? They must have a problem somewhere, somehow. Do they look surprised? Perhaps you have a heavy, unapproachable expression and they're surprised at how nice you are.
 
 
 
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