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    (Original post by Scorpio99)
    You shouldn't worry yourself about it, you were just having a bit of fun that got out of hand. If they did record it they probably won't post it anywhere anyway because they'd seem a bit weird. I mean if they posted it to facebook their friends and families would just think they were pervs.
    Im more worried about it being uploaded to a porn site or something but I hope youre right. Thank you.
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    (Original post by starfab)
    :hugs: we've all done stupid stuff before, or things we now regret.
    The important thing to remember is that you seek forgiveness from God. He says,"Say, oh my servants who have trangressed against themselves, do not despair of the mercy of God. Verily, He forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the forgiving, the merciful"
    Pm me if ya want to talk
    Thank you. I dont know how to go about repenting, like how much to do. Any advice on that would be really helpful
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Realistically this is just the human sexual drive and nothing to be ashamed of, especially considering that you didn't even show your face. Most human bodies are generic and don't stand out at all so there's no realistic consequences socially.

    In my opinion the setting in and of what you did may not be ideal, but it isn't exactly morally bad unless you decide it to be, I personally don't. If someone decides they want to do that then I wouldn't think differently of them whatsoever.
    (Original post by Nirvana1989-1994)
    Lol, I wouldn't worry too much.
    So is this a fairly normal thing to do? Am I blowing this out of proportion?
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    It was a foolish thing to do, but I doubt anything will come of it. Frankly the worst aspect of growing up in a conservative culture is that you don't learn how to deal with adult situations because you were never allowed to be a grown up. Don't do it again and try to find a guy rather than attention-seeking to work out your repressions.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So is this a fairly normal thing to do? Am I blowing this out of proportion?
    I wouldn't the word 'normal', but it's more common than you think. And, yes, you are.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    tbh Im trying to distance myself from the consequences and enormity of what I did :L
    I understand in your belief you will have to make Tawba and that it's not allowed, but in the grand scheme of things it's not a massive issue, chalk it up as a lesson learned.
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    relax man, nothing will happen
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    (Original post by l'etranger)
    It was a foolish thing to do, but I doubt anything will come of it. Frankly the worst aspect of growing up in a conservative culture is that you don't learn how to deal with adult situations because you were never allowed to be a grown up. Don't do it again and try to find a guy rather than attention-seeking to work out your repressions.
    Im only 15, so I wouldnt put it down to not being allowed to be a grown up. Although I do agree that my culture (arab/north african) is very conservative.
    Thank you though.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Im more worried about it being uploaded to a porn site or something but I hope youre right. Thank you.
    Uploaded to a porn site?
    Have you even been on a porn site?
    D'you really think anyone would go on a porn site for some *****y quality video of a faceless girl in a bra?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thank you. I dont know how to go about repenting, like how much to do. Any advice on that would be really helpful
    All you need to do is have regret, which you do and make a firm resolution not to do that again.
    If in the event you slip and do something of the like again, don't becime despondent. Instead just repent again likewise.
    There's no certain 'act' you have to do to gain forgiveness. Once you've prayed to Allah or asked him for forgiveness by saying even something as simple as 'forgive me' then it's done.
    However some people feel better doing some good acts such as giving some money to sadaqah or lillah, reading some quran, praying optional prayers.
    It's important after seeking forgiveness to try to feel as though Allah has forgiven you. As He is the most forgiving, so to think otherwise is like saying you think Allah cannot forgive you for this, when in fact he can. So have a firm conviction that you have been forgiven.
    And remember that we are humans. We can't be perfect all the time. We will make mistakes. Which is why Allah has blessed us with this blessing of tawbah.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Im only 15, so I wouldnt put it down to not being allowed to be a grown up. Although I do agree that my culture (arab/north african) is very conservative.
    Thank you though.
    You're too young for any of that in that case. You should wait in general before finding guys, but at the same time, don't turn this experience into a dark nightmare you hide from and hurt yourself over, because it'll end up coming back to you in other ways and causing you more pain.
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    Also don't over think it.
    Make tawbah and just get on with life. Why dwell on past mistakes?


    And agreed with this;

    (Original post by l'etranger)
    You're too young for any of that in that case. You should wait in general before finding guys, but at the same time, don't turn this experience into a dark nightmare you hide from and hurt yourself over, because it'll end up coming back to you in other ways and causing you more pain.
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    (Original post by starfab)
    Also don't over think it.
    Make tawbah and just get on with life. Why dwell on past mistakes?

    She just needs to forgive herself, realise she is just as valuable as she always was and move on.
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    (Original post by l'etranger)
    She just needs to forgive herself, realise she is just as valuable as she always was and move on.
    Exactly.
    I can understand why she finds it hard, so hopefully we've helped her some.
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      (Original post by Anonymous)
      A few days ago I was home alone and bored, so I decided to go on omegle. I ended up talking to a few guys in just my bra, and eventually with nothing. I guess it escalated more than I expected to, but now I have this weird guilt about it, and I dont know how to absolve myself, it that makes any sense. I know it was really stupid of me, and I keep worrying about if people I know irl find out. How likely is it that one of them recorded me? Ive learnt my lesson and I know ill never do it again.
      It could have been much worse.
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      (Original post by Anonymous)
      No it was the neck down, and the background was fairly non descript.
      No problem then. Live and learn.
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      (Original post by Anonymous)
      Did you meet him online?
      I understand what you mean about the attention and thrill, thats kind of why I kept going for as long as I did too. How long has it been since this happened and have there been any consequences (like leaked pictures etc)?
      I apologise for the delay in response.

      Well, he randomly messaged me so yeah.

      Life can be pretty mundane, so yeah I can see the appeal of the thrilling aspect but it made me feel so stressed out and horrible in the end that it wasn't worth it. I do regret it, but I guess I learnt from my mistakes. I should have told him to piss off. LOL. However, I was too polite and was flattered by the attention, so I didn't and as you know things escalated.

      It has been like a year and a half since this happened. No, because I set it up in a way that it self-destructs after some hours, so there is no chance of that. Screenshots or photographs couldn't be taken. Besides, it's not like there was much to see anyway.
     
     
     
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