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    (Original post by Rachaiec)
    Is it seen as unusual as a 19 year old girl to never have been asked on a date by a guy?



    (Original post by Tootles)
    You look fine in your picture.

    Here's the thing: if you're thinking about it enough to be posting it on here, you're probably not confident enough for anyone to notice you. It's as simple as that. To be asked out, you have to be noticed; to be noticed, you have to be confident.

    What I'm saying to LylaFahmy isn't supposed to mean that you're not in any way special. It just means that there doesn't seem to be any use in saying something that generic. I've got no doubts that people who know you know more than me, and know what's special about you, what's interesting. I don't know if you draw good picutres, or are a naturally good singer, or a passionate chef. I don't know from looking at you exactly who you are.

    Physically, you look attractive - from what can be seen from a picture of what quality. But physical attractiveness is a tiny little thing compared to who you are. If we were friends, we'd be spending our time talking to one another, not looking at each other. So I'd be more likely to ask you out if you looked like a horse's arse but were really interesting to talk to and be around than if you looked completely perfect but couldn't spell your own name.

    You can't judge inner beauty if you don't know someone. Neither can you tell if it's there. Not only that, but "beautiful" is a word that's bandied around far too much these days.

    The fact that you, by your own admission, will tell someone they're beautiful no matter what just proves that it's a platitude. You're telling a person what you think they want to hear, rather than something that might help them. Ultimately, that does people more harm than good, by instilling in them a superficial mentality that 'everyone is beautiful no matter what.' No, not everybody is "beautiful." If they were, there wouldn't be such a word, because it wouldn't be a special enough characteristic to warrant having a word invented to describe it.
    I guess you are right, I never looked at it that way before! Thanks for enlightening me!!
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