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    Hi, I am a fresher who is doing a Film Production course and when i started the course, I sort of got dragged in with a clique which I eventually dropped out of as I disliked everyone in it. I made friends with this girl on my course and we clicked amazing well and got on super well however I slowly started developing feelings for and told her how I felt, we agreeded to remaining friends and that she didn't need space and vice versa. I told her I would transfer to somewhere else if I lost our friendship as it was one of the only things making me happy at the university.

    Before I told her how I felt, we agreed that we would go do something outside of the university grounds. However after saying how I felt she decided it wasn't ok, I told her how I'd lost friendships and didn't have many friends who wanted to hang out with me. She said she would be happy to when we came back.

    Anywho time passes and over the break, I asked if I could meet her friends since she doesn't live on campus, as it would be nice for us all to be friends and everything with similar interests. She said she would ask them but it was hard with work and stuff. She suggested going to societies but I don't feel happy in them as i have tried going before. (I felt like this was the pass on the buck on moment.)

    Moving on from this I asked again if we would do something when we came back and she said maybe we will see, even though there is no work on the first week back however she said we could meet and study before lessons. Unfortunately for me I have told her this is not a friendship i want, it's more or less someone she wants to see when it suits her. That isn't friendship. I feel like agreeing to this makes me feel used and I have had enough friendships like that in the pass and it's not worth my time. (She is yet to respond to this but having asked her about doing something outside the grounds and her not giving me a straight yes or no doesn't fill me with confidence.)

    This is making me extremly unhappy as the way i see it is if don't have friends on a course which requires interaction then why bother, it's making me extremly unhappy especially as one offer was on the table before and now a different one is when she was the one to ask for things not to change but is making everything more awkward then it is. I don't know what to do, do i apolgise and just accept things or do i accept our friendship is over and look to get a transfer to somewhere closer to home (Is this even possible with us no about to start the second sem?) Or do i dropout which is what I am considering as making friends is incredibly hard for me and finding ones where i don't get used.
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    Hi, I am a fresher who is doing a Film Production course and when i started the course, I sort of got dragged in with a clique which I eventually dropped out of as I disliked everyone in it. I made friends with this girl on my course and we clicked amazing well and got on super well however I slowly started developing feelings for and told her how I felt, we agreeded to remaining friends and that she didn't need space and vice versa. I told her I would transfer to somewhere else if I lost our friendship as it was one of the only things making me happy at the university.

    Before I told her how I felt, we agreed that we would go do something outside of the university grounds. However after saying how I felt she decided it wasn't ok, I told her how I'd lost friendships and didn't have many friends who wanted to hang out with me. She said she would be happy to when we came back.

    Anywho time passes and over the break, I asked if I could meet her friends since she doesn't live on campus, as it would be nice for us all to be friends and everything with similar interests. She said she would ask them but it was hard with work and stuff. She suggested going to societies but I don't feel happy in them as i have tried going before. (I felt like this was the pass on the buck on moment.)

    Moving on from this I asked again if we would do something when we came back and she said maybe we will see, even though there is no work on the first week back however she said we could meet and study before lessons. Unfortunately for me I have told her this is not a friendship i want, it's more or less someone she wants to see when it suits her. That isn't friendship. I feel like agreeing to this makes me feel used and I have had enough friendships like that in the pass and it's not worth my time. (She is yet to respond to this but having asked her about doing something outside the grounds and her not giving me a straight yes or no doesn't fill me with confidence.)

    This is making me extremly unhappy as the way i see it is if don't have friends on a course which requires interaction then why bother, it's making me extremly unhappy especially as one offer was on the table before and now a different one is when she was the one to ask for things not to change but is making everything more awkward then it is. I don't know what to do, do i apolgise and just accept things or do i accept our friendship is over and look to get a transfer to somewhere closer to home (Is this even possible with us no about to start the second sem?) Or do i dropout which is what I am considering as making friends is incredibly hard for me and finding ones where i don't get used.
    Have you tried joining any societies, they are usually good ways to meet some friends.
 
 
 
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