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    What do you think? :holmes:

    and how compatible?

    personally i think yes and no?

    why, because you've got to have some similar interests right?

    and no because, if you agreed on everything and were perfectly compaitible- would you not get bored quickly, for example if you agreed on everything, there wouldn't be much conversation right?

    I mean you've got to have some disagreements , different tastes, style, likes, dislikes ect.....no?

    whats say? :hmmm:
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    obviously yes.
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    Of course it is. You don't have to agree with everything your partner says/does, but you need to be on the same wave length for it to work.
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    (Original post by CleverSquirrel)
    What do you think? :holmes:

    and how compatible?

    personally i think yes and no?

    why, because you've got to have some similar interests right?

    and no because, if you agreed on everything and were perfectly compaitible- would you not get bored quickly, if you agreed on everything, there wouldn't be much conversation right?

    I mean you've got to have some disagreements ect.....no?

    whats say? :hmmm:
    The answer is obviously yes.

    Compatibiliy doesnt mean you have to agree on everything.
    Incompatibility doesnt have to be the source of conversation.
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    I think that if you look for just one person to meet all your needs, you’re setting yourself up for disaster. There's no person you can be compatible with in every aspect.

    Shared beliefs and interests can be valuable to achieving relationship compatibility, but separate ones are also to be expected. Couples should encourage each other to evolve and to engage in each other's interests.
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    Of course. It's the most important thing in my opinion.

    Just because you have disagreements, doesn't mean you aren't compatible.
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    Yes it is very important if you want a lasting relationship.
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    Yes
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    Yes. Being compatible doesn't just mean you have a lot in common. Sometimes even polar opposite couples can still work. I think compatibility goes a lot deeper than what you have in common on the surface, I think it's more about you what you both feel, what you both want in life and what you are both willing to do to be together that makes you compatible.

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    I couldn't think of anything better than being with someone with whom I agree on everything. Sounds like a nice harmonious relationship, I'm not looking for a partner to havedebates with.
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    (Original post by WoodyMKC)
    I couldn't think of anything better than being with someone with whom I agree on everything. Sounds like a nice harmonious relationship, I'm not looking for a partner to havedebates with.
    only in your dreams :lol: surely it'll get annoying after a while?
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    (Original post by Spock's Socks)
    Yes. Being compatible doesn't just mean you have a lot in common. Sometimes even polar opposite couples can still work. I think compatibility goes a lot deeper than what you have in common on the surface, I think it's more about you what you both feel, what you both want in life and what you are both willing to do to be together that makes you compatible.

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    that was very well said :yep:
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    (Original post by WoodyMKC)
    I couldn't think of anything better than being with someone with whom I agree on everything. Sounds like a nice harmonious relationship, I'm not looking for a partner to havedebates with.
    Sounds like the perfect fairytale. Having a disagreement with someone doesn't necessarily lead to a debate. It's very unlikely to find another human being that has the exact same views as you do.
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    Personality traits and general philosophical beliefs are far more important than individual interests. I don't need need a girl to debate the merits of Thatcherism with but i do need one who is not a rabid feminazi and who i consider a worthy mother of my future children.
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    (Original post by phunky_fresh)
    Sounds like the perfect fairytale. Having a disagreement with someone doesn't necessarily lead to a debate. It's very unlikely to find another human being that has the exact same views as you do.
    Indeed, but OP said it'd get boring without disagreements and I was in a roundabout way pointing out that disagreement and debate aren't the same thing, I don't need debate from a partner to keep our conversations interesting, and also would love a life without any disagreement with my partner. Not that such a thing would ever be possible, we're only human after all.
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    (Original post by CleverSquirrel)
    only in your dreams :lol: surely it'll get annoying after a while?
    If it did get annoying then we'd have something to disagree over, so it'd all work out in the end anyhow
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    Yes as I'd like to think that's why I'd like them. You need to be compatible and have similar views. Having said that, I was dating someone for several years and we didn't have that many interests but then we've now split up so what does that say lol
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    I have been on a date with someone where we had one interest in common. It was so boring. There was nothing to talk about really. I really could not imagine a relationship with him when there's nothing to really talk about.
 
 
 
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