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2 months but I don't seem to have feelings for him watch

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    I'm 20 years old, gay and I've been in my current relationship with this law student for 2 months. He's my age as well but I feel like we're such different people with such different lifestyles that it's getting to me. This is my first real relationship with any person ever.

    He's the most caring, sweetest person I will probably ever meet. And yet, despite all of this, I feel absolutely nothing romantic towards him. Sometimes I think I do but when I'm with him I just feel disconnected and devoid of feelings.

    He seems to be head over heels for me and is super enthusiastic about talking to me all the time and hanging out, and then there's me, sleeping to avoid everything and just feeling useless because I can't seem to return the feelings.

    He hasn't told me he loves me yet but I fear it's coming soon

    Lately I've just been feeling so bored and have been using the "ill" excuse to not kiss him. And when I kiss him I still don't feel anything.

    I'm a very anxious person and I overthink and overanalyse everything, and have some deep relationship issues because of my family background. So I get really lost trying to wonder if I could like him but i'm pushing him away, or I just like the idea of him but don't actually have feelings for him.

    I don't know how to resolve this conflict But the complete lack of feelings, excitement and spark towards him can't possibly be a good sign right? :cry2:
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    You need to talk to him. Bit unfair on him to be in a relationship with someone who has no feelings for him.
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    For his sake, end the relationship. You have discovered that there are no romantic feelings and that you are different people. And while it may suck, what's worse is stringing him along. :sadnod:
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