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    (Original post by DanF2000)
    I turned 17 yesterday and I realised have never had a girlfriend, kissed or been kissed or cuddled a girl before. I'm quite overweight (have been my whole life and the doctors are saying it could be genetics/hormonal problems) and I have Aspergers. More and more people are becoming couples at my school and even the girl I've been best friends with and kinda had a crush on has been out/kissed a boy (even if it was 10 years ago). I sometimes feel like my hormones are going haywire as I seem to find a lot of girls, most who have a boyfriend, attractive and I'm hoping this will calm down soon. I'm not the type of person who likes to go out late, partying, drinking, etc. But I am someone who's very shy but I have good hobbies (cooking, reading, going for walks) and I care a lot more about the personality and soul of a person rather than appearance. I like to go out to friends, play videogames (Pokemon) together for an hour in the day but this is about once every two months. And I'm one of those people who doesn't stay out late compared to everyone else and actually likes to be at home. Could these be the reason why I have never had a girlfriend? Also, I've been thinking that when I go to Uni, I could meet someone there so what would be the chances of this? Thanks
    Go to the gym, hit the weights, do some cardio as this will increase your confidence.

    You're only 17, you have plenty of time to find a girlfriend .

    Focus on your hobbies, such as reading, going for walks, playing video games and have fun with your friends.

    Just be happy and proud of yourself. As stated, hit the weights to make yourself feel better, focus on the things that make you happy.

    Good luck
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    tbh OP it's pretty normal at your age.
    I'm 17.5 (and two days) and i havent either.
    tbh unless ur like incredibly obese (which i highly doubt you are) your weight won't make much difference.
    It's when you get to like 25 is when you should be concerned :P
    Me on the other hand.... i have acne so i have no hope XD
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    (Original post by Toasticide)
    tbh OP it's pretty normal at your age.
    I'm 17.5 (and two days) and i havent either.
    tbh unless ur like incredibly obese (which i highly doubt you are) your weight won't make much difference.
    It's when you get to like 25 is when you should be concerned :P
    Me on the other hand.... i have acne so i have no hope XD
    I had acne. Which medication/creams are you using?
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    (Original post by AppleB)
    I had acne. Which medication/creams are you using?
    I can't remember to be honest, when i was 12 i had this certain cream they said to keep using once a day (that kept bleaching EVERYTHING :/, so many stains in my duvet now its unreal) but after 3 years they said nah it ain't working and i just gave up really. Cream or no cream it seems to always be just as bad.

    To be honest though, it's not extremely bad acne but it's not mild either.... just enough to repel people who dont know me...
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    (Original post by Toasticide)
    I can't remember to be honest, when i was 12 i had this certain cream they said to keep using once a day (that kept bleaching EVERYTHING :/, so many stains in my duvet now its unreal) but after 3 years they said nah it ain't working and i just gave up really. Cream or no cream it seems to always be just as bad.

    To be honest though, it's not extremely bad acne but it's not mild either.... just enough to repel people who dont know me...
    Was it duac? Do you moisturise your skin often? Use moisturisers that contain vitamins and skin loving ingredients. I use simple because it contains vitamin B5 and vitamin E. How often do you exfoliate?

    I break out occasionally especially during/after exams.
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    (Original post by AppleB)
    Was it duac? Do you moisturise your skin often? Use moisturisers that contain vitamins and skin loving ingredients. I use simple because it contains vitamin B5 and vitamin E. How often do you exfoliate?

    I break out occasionally especially during/after exams.
    I exfoliate every day,
    i actually had a tiny bit of a tube left and yes it is Duac. I don't know what's in the stuff i use but ive done trial and error to see what reduces the redness :P
    Anyway, if you reply, dont expect me to speak until tomorrow sorry, gotta go
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    (Original post by DanF2000)
    I turned 17 yesterday and I realised have never had a girlfriend, kissed or been kissed or cuddled a girl before.
    Having a girlfriend when you're under the age of 18 is waste of your time - seriously. I had around 3 girlfriends before I was 13 and regretted all of them. To be fair, I only went out of with them because I didn't want them to kill themselves, as they proposed when I said I didn't want to. After 13 I never had a girlfriend and won't until I'm at the minimum age of 18. At least get education out the way before you get 5 girls pregnant and catch at least 15 different STI's.
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    (Original post by Toasticide)
    I exfoliate every day,
    i actually had a tiny bit of a tube left and yes it is Duac. I don't know what's in the stuff i use but ive done trial and error to see what reduces the redness :P
    Anyway, if you reply, dont expect me to speak until tomorrow sorry, gotta go
    Exfoliating everyday will cause breakouts and irritate your skin.

    Yes! I used duac!! I quite liked it tbf

    Lol alright
 
 
 
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