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    (Original post by Craghyrax)
    I've never dated My approach is the stealth tactic: befriend the person and check them out for several months before pouncing :sly:

    But I have quite a few turnoffs that put men in the "over my dead body" zone immediately:
    - Swagger
    - Laddishness
    - Overconfidence
    - Greed... if somebody planned on working in investment banking, or had the life goal of being rich, that would immediately put me off.
    - Being right wing
    - Smoking
    - Being a loud drunk
    - Being less intelligent than me
    - Lack of depth.. anybody whose not analytical and doesn't have any interest in talking things through thoroughly

    I'm pretty sure I've got some sort of deeply ingrained evolutionary aversion to men with too much testosterone. Highly masculine facial features and excessive muscularity put me off. Of course if I got to know a guy who matched this description, I could always change my mind. But in a context like a party or a first date, these things would be turning me off. I have friends for who it's the complete opposite (except the right wing thing, lol). All of us are going to turn off some people and turn on others. Luckily there's someone for everyone, so none of this should matter :yy:
    Looool u could have been perfect for me but I want to be a footballer...not for the money of course just to have a fun life
    also love philosophy so I love a thorough convo
    Im super smart and creative but can sometimes have the oddest common sense
    and I has swag

    Too bad
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    (Original post by BashCrash)
    Looool u could have been perfect for me but I want to be a footballer...not for the money of course just to have a fun life
    also love philosophy so I love a thorough convo
    Im super smart and creative but can sometimes have the oddest common sense
    and I has swag

    Too bad
    And I'm old and married and don't like lazy typing
    Plenty other fish in the sea Best of luck to you.
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    Saying the didn't like Doritos...
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    (Original post by Danny Dorito)
    Saying the didn't like Doritos...
    But everyone should like Doritos :awesome:
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    If they jump on the table, squat, and start yodelling, it might be a bit off-putting.
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    (Original post by UWS)
    Has that actually happened to you?



    The thing is I've never heard of people being rude to waiters on a date, this is a new thing? :lol:
    Not just to waiters , rude to the service staff in general !!!
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    (Original post by Supernova91)
    Not just to waiters , rude to the service staff in general !!!
    Agree with this. A cruel disrespect for people in positions of vulnerability is one of the worst traits someone can possibly have.
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    (Original post by l'etranger)
    Agree with this. A cruel disrespect for people in positions of vulnerability is one of the worst traits someone can possibly have.
    Yeah , absolute deal breaker !
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    - Wearing an outfit I really really don't like (I found a guy cute before he stood up and I saw the bottom part of his outfit)
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    (Original post by Craghyrax)
    I've never dated My approach is the stealth tactic: befriend the person and check them out for several months before pouncing :sly:

    But I have quite a few turnoffs that put men in the "over my dead body" zone immediately:
    - Swagger
    - Laddishness
    - Overconfidence
    - Greed... if somebody planned on working in investment banking, or had the life goal of being rich, that would immediately put me off.
    - Being right wing
    - Smoking
    - Being a loud drunk
    - Being less intelligent than me
    - Lack of depth.. anybody whose not analytical and doesn't have any interest in talking things through thoroughly

    I'm pretty sure I've got some sort of deeply ingrained evolutionary aversion to men with too much testosterone. Highly masculine facial features and excessive muscularity put me off. Of course if I got to know a guy who matched this description, I could always change my mind. But in a context like a party or a first date, these things would be turning me off. I have friends for who it's the complete opposite (except the right wing thing, lol). All of us are going to turn off some people and turn on others. Luckily there's someone for everyone, so none of this should matter :yy:
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    (Original post by UWS)
    But everyone should like Doritos :awesome:

    I don't...:teehee:


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    Never actually been on a date, but a girl once told me she didn't like jaffa cakes and I had to spend a solid half hour reevaluating everything I thought I knew about her tbh
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    I herd about a guy who thought McDonalds was a good date (not me) and apparently he didn't even share (herd from someone else about a guy I don't know)
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    (Original post by Dima-Blackburn)
    Why do you write in blue
    Why don't you write in blue? :eyeball::p:
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    (Original post by Craghyrax)
    Why don't you write in blue? :eyeball::p:
    I'll have you know that I was severely hurt when I read that you don't date right-wing guys. We can be lovely you know.
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    (Original post by Craghyrax)
    And I'm old and married and don't like lazy typing
    Plenty other fish in the sea Best of luck to you.
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    (Original post by Craghyrax)
    Why don't you write in blue? :eyeball::p:
    Because we'll get carded and banned.

    #FreeTheColours #FreeTheEggPlant
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    (Original post by jonathanemptage)
    I herd about a guy who thought McDonalds was a good date (not me) and apparently he didn't even share (herd from someone else about a guy I don't know)
    I'm gonna take girls to Maccy D's, this is gonna be my new shtick. Gonna get some good pics, myself with my cute doggy, six pack out at the beach so it doesn't look like I'm a ****boi, all over tinder and I'm gonna take these ho's out for a Big Mac.
 
 
 
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